Would you like to booze with freinds or family ?
@krupesh (2608)
India
September 13, 2009 8:07am CST
I would like to booze with friends instead of with family as I feel more comfortable with my friends.I can have how much I want if I am with my friends.If I go out with my family especially with my wife , I cant have how much I want to have.
With friends we can have much more fun than being with family.
What do you feel?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I don't drink anymore. I experimented with drinking, but I know it's dangerous for one's health so I don't even bother thinking about it anymore. When I did, it was with friends.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I am pretty sure it would keep him (or her) nearer.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I know the difference. I've seen them in party movies.
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@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
13 Sep 09
Well...I don't know your wife, or your "situation" with her.
But I'd start there if I were you, and find out WHY she makes you feel "uncomfortable" when drinking within here presence.
Or....why not just treat her like one of your buddies?
cdrxo
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@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
13 Sep 09
Then...it's obvious, SHE has the problem with your drinking.
cdrxo
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 09
As a woman I have some reservations when it comes to social drinking. Getting drunk in the company of friends and family is great but not with less familiar people. Getting intoxicated makes a person behave uncontrollably and that paint a bad picture of yourself when in public.
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
13 Sep 09
I will avoid drinking in the friends company with my wife and kids. My wife and kids will not drink and also they doesnt like me to drink. But there is no restrictions as such. I will drink at my home . Never invite friends to home for drinking. Whenever, I am drinking with friends we will go out and drink. As you said drinking with friends sometime will cross the limits.
At home I will drink with my dad and brothers. There is no restrictions for that.My dad have no restrictions for that. He used to give us drinks when we were students.
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 09
Hi..krupesh
I am also from an orthodox family. We will not smoke infront of the elders. But there is no taboo for dinking in the family gatherings. I never used to drink much in the friends company. I will sit with them for a company. My friemds know my limitations and they will never compell me to drink more.It is against the discipline which I had from my childhood to drink outside.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
14 Sep 09
We are from a very orthodox family.Nobody smokes & drinks in the whole dynasty except me
.My parents think that I have stopped both.If my dad would have given me the company for drinks it would have been a different story altogether.
I think drinking with friends will be entertaining in the sense if you are not going into personal matters.
.My parents think that I have stopped both.If my dad would have given me the company for drinks it would have been a different story altogether.
I think drinking with friends will be entertaining in the sense if you are not going into personal matters.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Hi there!
In my family, we would always prefer boozing with family or relatives, in our own place or at our relatives' house. The elders in the family feels much safer if we get drunk in our own area. We wouldn't get into trouble that way.
Ciao!
In my family, we would always prefer boozing with family or relatives, in our own place or at our relatives' house. The elders in the family feels much safer if we get drunk in our own area. We wouldn't get into trouble that way.
Ciao!@krupesh (2608)
• India
13 Sep 09
Elders are like that.They want their younger ones to be always safe...but wont you feel that you cant enjoy more if you are with your family?
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Sep 09
When having fun, or just relaxing, it's almost always easier to feel comfortable with friends than a spouse or other family members. When drinking with friends, the objective IS to drink and have a good time. Period.
When drinking with your wife, or other family members, the objective is also to drink and have a good time, BUT they also want you to be safe and alive the next day. Which puts the brakes on getting really drunk, if that's what your objective is.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Other than the drinking limitations, do you enjoy social gatherings with your wife? Have you ever tried discussing it when you are not on your way to, or at a gathering?
When I go out with my husband, I don't like to see him falling down drunk either. I kind of know where his limit is, and I try to NOT have him get there. I'm not sure what a peg is, but if you can drink, say, 6 of them before getting embarassingly drunk, then maybe a more reasonable limit would be 4 or 5? Somewhere there is a balance between knowing that your wife cares about you, and feeling resentful because you feel like you are being treated like a child. I'm sure that with dialog, you can find that balance. Start with bringing home some flowers, or some chocolate...lol. It works when my husband does that (ok, I'm a sucker...
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Once you establish a reasonable 'limit' that you both are ok with, go one step further. Let her know that if you accidentally you go over this limit, that you're sorry in advance and will take her out to dinner or a movie. Or both, if you go way over the limit. If you wife's restrictions are because of pressure from her friends, and you do happen to go over the limit, she can answer whatever they say to her by announcing that she gets taken out to a restaurant because of it. You'd probably find that similar 'rules' suddenly become very popular amoung your friends.
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Once you establish a reasonable 'limit' that you both are ok with, go one step further. Let her know that if you accidentally you go over this limit, that you're sorry in advance and will take her out to dinner or a movie. Or both, if you go way over the limit. If you wife's restrictions are because of pressure from her friends, and you do happen to go over the limit, she can answer whatever they say to her by announcing that she gets taken out to a restaurant because of it. You'd probably find that similar 'rules' suddenly become very popular amoung your friends.@krupesh (2608)
• India
13 Sep 09
Hello Hatley,
I have been drinking since some 20 years.I have it to my limits.Not even a single time I have over took & misbehaved.She has seen others , so she doesn't want me to drink.She thinks its very bad to health.I have it only once that too on weekends.It really is not a problem at all, whatever I try to pacify her she goes on her way.
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
14 Sep 09
If I do happen to feel like having a couple, I just walk down the bar and sit in the corner. I know everyone there but I don't like mingling so I just stay quiet and observe what's going on around me.
@derek_a (10873)
•
14 Sep 09
Well, I don't drink any more, but use to drink quite heavilly and I can say is that it was far cheaper with my family than with my friends. And then the following day after being out with friends, I would feel quite rough with a hang-over, but rarely with my family. - Derek
- Derek
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
14 Sep 09
hi krupesh,
yes you are right krupesh,once i have traveled to holy place Tirupathi on our wedding day,but i cannot spend a single day there with my wife and returned back immediately,i also can enjoy the day my friends not with my family member and with my wife,have a nice day
@krupesh (2608)
• India
14 Sep 09
..its an entirely different thing if you are in Thirupati.There you cannot drink as you are in a holy place as you said.
@killer04 (282)
• Australia
14 Sep 09
I am not a big drinker, but I would prefer to drink booze with my friends instead of family. It would feel too awkward to drink with my family for some reason. I guess it is because the knew me since birth and they know how I act and getting drunk would quickly change their view of me.
@dbutheking (2347)
• India
13 Sep 09
Hi krupesh,
So, booze means fun or enjoyement right?
I also just like you having fun with friends.. Because we are free and liberal to our friends where as we are little restricted with the family.
So, definitely for me, enjoyement is with my friends..
Have a great day.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
14 Sep 09
hahaha at last you got to know the meaning.Dont ever try tasting it.It doesn't help you in anyway.
.Dont ever try tasting it.It doesn't help you in anyway.@dbutheking (2347)
• India
14 Sep 09
Yes, i am learning new words in every discussion. That's great feature here.
@dbutheking (2347)
• India
13 Sep 09
oops.. Just now saw the online dictionary. So, booze means drinking..
hehehe.. I don't have that bad habits..
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi krupesh.
you know, i feel so sad about your relationship with your family and relatives. i feel you are not happy with them. that is really sad to hear. 
you know me, i love to be with my family, my wife, and my kids. i love to be with them always. if i go out, if only we have enough money, i will bring them all and we all have fun.
i hope your relationship with your family changed soon.
neil
you know me, i love to be with my family, my wife, and my kids. i love to be with them always. if i go out, if only we have enough money, i will bring them all and we all have fun.
i hope your relationship with your family changed soon.
neil