Can you make a relationship work after one has been unfaithful?

cheating is the hardest thing i can take. i will then lose my trust and respect for him and it will surely break me into very sad pieces . maybe, after talking about it and after his pleas and promises never to get into it again, i might give him another chance. i am sure he cannot get my complete trust and respect at a short notice, he should work for it and live by what he promises. the next time he cheats, it will for surely be goodbye and separation.

hi twilight No I dont think you can unless he is more unusual than most men. so I would say to kick him to the curb, and find someone who will love you an d only you and not just be for lust but really in love with you.You may talk all this over with him, but I really doubt that hes going to be true to you again.

I would find it hard to be able to make a relationship work after a man has been unfaithful to me. I wouldn't feel like I could trust him anymore and I would wonder who he would cheat on me next. If he wanted another woman then he can go be with her.

It is hard to believe one person when trust is lost one. At least it is true in my case.I can't trust again that person whatever he says. I hope you take decisions cautiously.

Hi, twilight. I think it is just natural that you doubt everything he says. I went through a similar phase several years ago with my boyfriend (who is now my husband). He got attracted to another girl and had started to "hate" me and compare me with this other girl. He even called a temporary split so that he could pursue the girl I guess...whatever Anyway, when we decided to try again then, I was like a demented suspicious woman and I honestly could not help it. I used to check everything--his celphone, his schedule --everything! And there is this crazy desire to lash out on him or even kick him every now and then. He gets exasperated because my behaviour had become "unhealthy". So I then asked for his help. I told him that he had to be patient with me and in return, I promise him that I would take it easy. Fortunately, he has been very patient and he has stuck with me through thick and thin and the doubts and the hurt faded away. I guess my point is that you have every right to be suspicious of him. To overcome your insecurities, your partner has to help you. He has to be patient with you. In short, both of you have to work together to make your relationship work again. Take care!

One can try everything to make a relatioship work after someone hsa being unfaithful but personally i do believe that it would be useless or at least that is how I think of it. You are admitting that you dont believe him anymore and I do believe that one of the keys of a relationship is trust which appearently theres none of it anymore and I dont blame you. I know you would like to do all that you can in order to forgive and forget but its impossible after all we are human. Personally I dont think i will be able neither to forgive nor to forget. I think I might forgive but I wont proceed with the relationship. I hate to have unsolved things in life so obviously I would want to clear things out and learn what went wrong because we learn from mistakes that we make. Therefore I think i would be able to forgive but I wouldnt want to continue the relationship because i wont trust that person anymore.

sound like the trust is gone, better of to let him go if you can. long as you've tried that's all you can do, least then you can say i tried. my ex-sister in law cheated on her husband a few yrs back with a family friend. the other bloke and his wife tried to stay together, but from what i heard spilt a bit over 6 months later. they'd been together for nearly 20yrs. best of luck

I'd say it's no longer possible to trust him completely. If he is willing to leave you once and cheat on you, then it is definitely possible for him to do it again. I wouldn't put too much faith in him unless he has completely changed. Just watch him for a while and see what he is doing. If he starts regressing into behavior that takes you through a rough spot again, I'd try to get out of it as quickly as possible because he probably is doing the same thing to you again.

I know how you feel this happened to me about 5 years ago. I finally got over it. For me my heart just wasnt in the right place. I dont know what your belief system is but I believe in forgivenss. But I just learned to let it go. I do want to say that six months is a long time to be seeing someone else. Maybe you need to find out what he really wants in life.