Do you hug your kids close to your heart and tell them how much you love them?

I can very much identify with this. My next youngest grandchild was 3 mos. early and weighed only 2 lbs. He was in Neonatal ICU for over two months. My daughter was the head nurse in that unit, so when no one else could be there, she made sure he had "touch time." For the 1st few weeks, all had to be done while he was still in the incubater, but it IS possible, even then to caress, sing or talk to, change, and show that physical contact an infant needs to thrive. Eventually, he could be held for a few hours each day, and we were ecstatic! He is now five and thriving :)) All of us, babies...kids...adults, need that affection.

Hello my friend This is so true my friend, glad to know all is well, how scary is that? although in my heart I knew he was o.k just leaving him there scared us so much, now he is 7 and I love him to pieces Thank you my friend.

Hello my friend Thank you so much for sharing this remarkable response, I knew hugs were good but didn't know just how affective they can be to ones health, so sad about these kids that never get to experience something like this do you know that someone don't have this in them, my sister( oh lord here we go with her again lol ) she does not have this, when she had my niece my mom would say to her give the baby to me ( as in me, not her ) so I can change her or feed her, my mom did not like the way she held the baby there was nothing there, we tried to get her to understand but how do you teach someone affection? I was really young when I had my daughter all these things came natural to me. When my grand son was born they put him in ICU for a week, grrrrr they said he was not feeding when he first came out, well it was a hard delivery one day fine, one week I didn't get it, anyway, they had him in the incubator so I would wash him, change his cloths we would hold him anything we can do so he would know we were there, before we left we took his cloths off and put the hospital cloths on him, we did this until he was able to come home, so although he was there we made sure he bonded with us, I was not going to let anyone stop that from happening, I knew he was not sick to the point that he could not be held buy his mom/grandma or dad, we were there everyday working the doctors nerve till they let him come home, there were some sick kids in there only thing he had on him was oxygen, yes this is important but you can't be serious, wasn't sure how to dispute it so I was calm, but you can't be serious with all the sick babies in here, why ICU anyway, we bonded with him and everything was fine.I felt really bad for my daughter because she did not get the rest she should have after giving birth it was a mess my friend,anyway all is well he is the best thing banana pudding, love him lots. I love how you broke this down my friend, thought I was a hugger before watch out lol

Hello prikayjo2436 This is so true my friend, never feel like you are giving to much love, how can that be possible, we must remember they don't stay this was forever there will come a time when she may not welcome all the affection at lease you can look back and remember all the wonderful moments you shared with your precious daughter, she may or may not still want affection but she will never forget this, ever, like you my mom was not affectionate but thats o.k I have enough love in me for everyone, who is to say I could have been a totally different person if she did something different while I was coming up, now I can say thank you for turning into the wonderful woman you see before you. Keep it up my friend, remember she will not be 2 forever, cherish these moments.

Hello my friend I have no doubt in my mind that you will continue to show your daughter every ounce of affection you can, I can tell your words came from your heart, your daughter is really blessed Keep up the good work mom, if no one has told you, I am really proud of you.your daughter is as well, she will tell you eventually, I am sure she shows you.

Awww. Thanks Kitty! I will believe me!

thank you kitty for the very nice comment.

Hello my friend You are so welcome, thanks for sharing How are you my friend? I have been calling it a night really early lol

Hello my friend Thank you for sharing this, this is exactly why I started this discussion we must cherish these days because once they get older they don't want to be hugged, not by us, I love to hug people and people seem to love to hug me, we have to hold our children close when they are young its very important, one thing I know for sure my friend, no matter how old they get they will always remember these days, they may or may not share this with you, but trust me things like this kids never forget, keep up the good work my friend, your kids are very lucky to have you Thank you so much for sharing this.

Hi kitty! I have marked it that way of showing affection is different in male as well as female; it is also vary according to people to people. My wife is showing her affection differently. Whatever your method to show affection; it is not important but how you show them is very important. In today's busy life it is very much necessary to show off in day to day life. In this era it is very bad to keep it your emotions inside your mind. Have a nice day!!

Hello my friend This is true, we are all so preoccupied but we must always remember the important people in our life Thank you my friend.

Hello my friend I like the cheek to cheek that is just as great as the hug, I honestly think men have their own way of showing affection to their children, woman tend to hug and do all the silly things while men are a little more serious "not all" most, I watch some fathers do what we do and kids love it, cheek to cheek is really cute, affection in any form as long as it is positive is a great way to bring up children, I hungered for this growing up, but it was not in my mom to show affection, sometimes I cried at night but what can you do, so I knew I was affectionate just did not know what the word was at the time, if being without made me who I am today, I will not change a thing Thank you my friend, keep up the good work.

hi there my dear friend!! you are right! we are so much alike in many ways... From the very start i oculd tell how loving a person you are... and how much you care for those around you. That's why I guess we connected easily,... Glad to have you as my friend kitty... I love knowing people like you... people who truly knows what it's like to be a mom!

Hello my friend How sweet,I feel the same way my friend So good to have you as a friend Thank you.

Hello my friend Exactly, nothing like hearing those words as well as showing a person these things are so important, I feel bad for the parents that are not able to do these things, does not mean they don't love their children just means they don't know how to show affection, I know my mom love me I have no doubt she was raised not to show affection and this is what she did with her children, I am grateful that I see things different I do the opposite of what is taught to me, I knew I was going to be affectionate when I had children and thank god I am, I know how important this is, so I still love my mommy but we are different people and that is fine, this is what makes us unique. Thanks for sharing my friend, you are like me in so many ways,so I already know how affectionate you are with your son, even if you did not share this with us, smoochess to you my friend.

Hello dbacook This is so true, this is why I do this to not just for children adults as well, never to late for them to learn a thing or two, its funny people come up to me and hug me all the time (people I know lol) and its great they know I am sincere and they like to feel close to me, I know I am doing something right I am grateful for being the woman that I am, so glad I started this discussion the feedback makes me feel really good, we have some great moms out here, and I am happy to know this. Thank you for sharing my friend, keep up the good work.

Hello my friend Sorry for the late response My grandson is a hugger now, he is only 7, but my daughter not so much, which really suck, when it comes to things like that she is nothing like me, she can never say her mom is not a hugger because I love to show my love, when I was younger I really wanted that, so I know kids need to be hugged and told that they are loved, so I do this all the time, my grand loves when I ask for a hug, now he tries to hug better than me lol Thanks for sharing my friend, smoochesss

Hello I know what you mean, my grandson is a mess, wait till they go to school and get around other kids lol my grandsons whole facial expression changes when I say give me a kiss lmaooo just the thought one day I made it look like I was sad he said o.k you should have seen him I said its o.k I will wait till you get out of school he said "you sure" I said yes, he is 1 in a million, so glad your affectionate like me, kids love/need this it makes them feel so good, once they are older these days will be gone, unless they grow up and become touchy feelly like me, my daughter does not like it she works my nerve, then sometimes she will just play with my arms or something silly like that, gotta love it. Thanks for sharing this my friend.

noooooo i dont want to thtink about school yet!!!

Hello my friend LMAOOOOO, I know my friend, but one day it will come and everything will change, I think boys are different than girls, we are well most of use are affectionate by nature so we would not mind giving mommy a kiss and hug, well my daughter on the other hand lol she was not for all that lol Looks like I could be making things worse shhhhhhh I will stop lol

[b]Hello my friend This is so nice to hear, always nice to know when someone knows how to show love to another, kids crave these things, my mom did not show affection because she did not get it as a child, but I have enough affection in my for everyone lol kids love me, adults can't figure me out but its all good, I am one of a kind a I like it that way. Smoochessss my friend.[/b]

Hello my friend I know what you mean, my mom is not a hugger at all, not sure where I get this but I am glad I have it, I love hugging my grand and friends kids or even friends, my daughter don't like hugs which stinks but oh well, I will give them to everyone else, I have more than enough to share lol My grandson loves to hug me, he tried to compete to see who hugs the best, Ilet him think he has me beat Thanks for sharing my friend, don't stop hugging it makes people feel so good, although they will not say it, just know how it makes you feel when someone wants to hug you, I love it. Smoochessss my friend.

Hello Kixsh101 And also remember that the hugs and kisses will keep her happy till Mommy returns, no need to feel bad my friend, as parents we have to do things to keep us apart from our precious babies, as long as the time spent is memorable and they know how much we truly love them, they will understand, these days I can't say it enough are so special for children, I can almost hear that whisper" I love you mommy" you will always remember this, once they get older we can't get these days back all we will have are our memories so it is up to us to make some good ones Thank you so much for sharing.

Hello my friend This is so true, my grandson although he just turned 7 he has the best hugs and the stress seems to melt away after he hugs me, I say thank you so much, he seems so proud of himself for making grandma feel good, I love it. how can you not, they grow up so fast you are a great mom my friend I am sure things have been hard for you, but you seem to be so great and I am proud of you for that, I know your family appreciates you keep it up mom, you are doing great. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Hello cherrc That is great, kids need love no matter where it comes from, my niece loves me so much,my sister is like my mom, she does not have any affection whatsoever actually she may be a little worse then my mom, but thats o.k I hug my niece and nephew hey love their auntie to pieces, my niece wants to live with me, she is getting older in her case she hungers for this as I did coming up, when she see me coming up the street she runs to me screaming "AUNTIE" and hugs me so tight I almost fall but I love it lol, that makes me feel so good hearing her scream auntie then running to me lol, so yes my friend don't necessarily have to be your kids per say, kids in general they love to be loved, and I show love to kids of my neighbors don't matter, this makes them gravitate to me, because they know I will hold them close if only for a few minutes they remember this. Thank you.

Hello grenyo And this is my point, parenting is so hard, I am happy I only have 1 not sure I could have handled anymore, I worry to much for one, and showing our kids love/affection is only part of it, we have to ask god to watch over then and guide them and help them make the right decisions we can't be with them always, always makes you feel better to know someone is watching over them, worked for me for 26 years and I am so pleased with how my daughter turned out people use to tell me I should be proud of myself to have such a great child I tell them this was not all my doing someone with alot more power then me played a big role in how she turned out, I will always believe this. Thank you.

Hello my friend Wow I am sorry to read this my friend with all this you are still amazing always sad when things like this happen. My mom was not affectionate at all, anytime I tried to get a hug she just told me to move, sometimes I would cry and wonder why, other times I just take it in stride and go about my business, I think I was blessed with some amazing strength coming up, and it continued to grow throughout my adult years, I have my moments but I am proud of me I must say. thanks for sharing this my friend, I know it was not easy.

Hello my friend Exactly my friend, does not have to be your child kids love this, the starve for this, anyone that shows this makes them feel really good, I like that you do that keep it up my friend, I hug all my associates kids, the kids run to me for this, there are some that don't care for it, but that is fine, this is what they are use to , so its not in them to accept this, they look when they see me hugging other kids, I feel bad for them but what can we do. Thank you for sharing my friend, keep it up.

Hello This is really beautiful, unfortunately my mom did not do this, she didn't get it when she was a child so it was hard for her to show affection, I have enough affection in me for everyone lol so I more than make up for lost time Your son sounds amazing, don't be embarrassed, hope people will always make him feel good about showing affection, good job mom. Thanks for sharing.