Marriage Vows, did they really mean till death do us part?

Hello dbabcook, thanks for sharing. I like the advice that you gave at the end and I'm also glad that you found the strength to pick up the pieces and to take your child out of that unhealthy environment. All marriages go through their share of ups and downs but when it's our turn to face the music and to try to sort out what's happening,we'd much rather it be someone else to have to deal with it instead of ourselves. But for me it's not just financial, it's a whole array of other things but we may be able to work through it, I'm already starting to see positive changes. Only time will tell, take care and wishing you all the best for a happy life for you and your child, Happy mylot.

people can be independant but still be married, still have someone in their life. I think that's one of the problems and causes divorces. People think we're married now, you have to do what I say. you're mine now. People don't "belong" to anybody and they shouldn't be made to feel like they do. Me and my girlfriend are very commited to each other but we let each other do what we want.

Well the only way that we can really believe that marriage has a true meaning is when we look at marriage in light of the bible. Because it was God who created the institution of marriage in the first place. It was God who decreed that a man should take a wife and the two would no longer be two separate individuals but one. So if we have to be one person, certainly that tells me that we'd have to be two very close individuals, two people that will talk about everything. Not having secrets from each other. Which this kind of relationship is kind of rare to find these days whether an individual is married or dating, simply because almost everybody have some kind of a secret they are withholding from someone else. ( Mind you all, this is just my perceptions and views on marriage, according to the ways that I understand it). So to UK_Shree, I'm with you when I say that marriage should have some kind of a profound meaning. In other words it's not something that we should be going into lightly, with the intention that we can just leave in case things doesn't go right. My response to the other responder is that you are absolutely right, people do tend to want to think that they own other people. I think we've all heard it said before. "That is my man" also "She is my woman". But you are right, nobody owns anyone. And the sooner we all begin to realize it, the better off we will be. As far as you and she doing whatever you want. All I can say to that is that freedom comes only with a price, so be careful with what you guys are doing because it may not be worth it in the end to have a relationship where both people are doing whatever they want. This just my opinion on it. Have a nice day and thanks for sharing.

I agree with you both. Being married should not mean losing independence in any way. It should mean being the person you have always been but just sharing your life with someone that you love.

Hello Eileenleyva, just wanted to say that I totally agree with you. You've gave some great advice for those that are thinking about marriage and even for those that are already married, we must realize that life will surely have it's share of challenges but if we've found the right partner we can face those challenges head on. Unfortunately though we never truly know if someone is the right person for us until we actually go through a few things together and we are able to see how the other person handle thing. Happy mylot!

Have you heard about invoking the help of St. Therese of the Child Jesus. She is also called the Little Flower. The prayer goes like this... St. Therese of the Little Flower, please send me a rose from the heavenly garden and tell God our Father that I will love Him more and more. Say 5 Our Father, 5 Hail Mary, 5 Glory be. Do this prayer for 5 consecutive days before 11 am. You will receive a rose from the one who will be your partner in life. If he is not around yet, you will just receive some roses from somebody you love - a friend, an aunt, or your brother, LOL! Just try this if you think you are in love with someone.

Hello busybren, thanks for sharing and my heart goes out to you for your present situation. But it seems that you've learned a lot from your experiences and the way that you talk, so I pray that you're being made stronger with each passing day. You spoke a mouthful my friend when you said "Both people have to be In it, to win It" I loved that. Hopefully if you ever decide to give marriage another try you will find someone that share your same attitude. Also I don't know if I can completely say that our Economy has anything to do with the decline of marriages. But I'm sure that it certainly has played a big part in things because when people loose their jobs a whole lot more is being lost when it comes to relationships. But hopeful that you will recover from whatever minor setbacks that you may have encountered. keep your head up! Happy mylot!

Thank you very much, Citychic. This is very warming to me. I have had many people, who believe marriage is NOT to be broken NO MATTER WHAT, but that's not what I believe and I have been told many MANY things (and have lost many people in my life, such as married friends), because of my split. Thank you :)

That is great advice that you've shared dorannwin. Working through our problems together is always the best way to go and it takes the burdens off us if we'd have to go through our problems alone. Congratulations on your five years of marriage and I hope you have many many more. I'm sure you will have many more delightful ones. Happy mylot.

Thank you very much for sharing histexladi, you've given great advice and wisdom spoken by a veteran marital person of over 40 something years, that is quite commendable.I will be sure to keep what you are saying in mind although once we have children it's not so easy to just walk away from another person that we've been married to for quite some time. As their would always be legal issues involved but still it was great advice and certainly well worth considering Happy mylot.

Hey coolcat, I like that, they don't call you coolcat for nothing I see, lols. Anyhow you give out great advice and I hope that everyone who read your message will read it and take heed to it, if we want to have good happy marriages we have to stay cool and not quarrel. For some this may be very difficult to do but oh so necessary. Thanks for sharing. I'm sure you will be married for a long lone time! Hopefully for a lifetime, happy mylot!

Thanks for sharing great your great wisdom hwoarrangpoy. It seems that you have a good grasp upon what the marriage vows mean. I only hope that you can see it in that same light once it comes time for you to get married and hopefully she will share the same views on it as you do. If so you will have a strong marriage, this will be what I'm wishing for you. Happy mylot!

Great words and thanks for sharing. I think you will do just fine when your time comes for marriage because you have a great outlook on it. take care and have a wonderful day! Happy mylot!

Do you mean like rules are made in order to be broken? Friend I think that you have the wrong idea about it but I will certainly allow you your right to speak your piece and to have your say. Now allow me to have mine if you don't mind. Rules are put in place to protect us and I believe, now I believe this with all of my heart, although I could be wrong. But I believe that vows were meant to be taken in order for us to try to live by the promises that we make to others. Happy mylot!

Hi jodylee_04530, that is just wonderful that you share such endearing thoughts towards marriage. And it's even nicer that the two of you have grown together over the years. I see nothing but good things happening for you and your partner, simply because you've showed great maturity in being able to stop fussing and fighting. Hopefully you both will continue to grow in love and peace. If there is a lot of disrespect in a marriage, I know that I couldn't stay in it forever. First I would have to leave for a while and pursue a separation then if there were no changes i would have to let it go. But once you've overcome so many hurdles, such as we have, you feel almost like, you can overcome just about anything. Ours is still a work in progress and we strive daily to try to make things the way that we'd like them to be. Wishing you all the best, Happy mylot!

Hi Yecal, wow, that's a nice compliment that you are paying to marriage. Also at least you're honest. I always say to thine ownself be true because once you look in that mirror you will surely have to give an account to the person that's staring back at you. So if you don't think that you can do it, it's probably best not to venture off into that direction, at least not for the time being. Happy mylot!

Okay, well I think I get your point here, anyhow, thanks for responding and will be sure to remember that marriage is a lasting endeavor, be blessed!