How do you react to a not-so-pleasant response in your discussions?

People have bad days, so sometimes it can and does reflect in their thought process... which leaks onto mylot! I do sometimes overreact, I've been known to be the grouchy mylotter from time to time, and I've come across a few... I've overreacted then too.. but now, not so much. Your advice? very good!

I dont rate people negatively if i dont like their response.. but if its rude and uncalled for then i dont plus it either!! I just would skip their response and respond to everyone else. I haven't received that many rude, or weird answers to my discussions, but i have gotten some i didn't quiet no how to take.. like people who dont have english as a first language, and i'm not sure what the heck they are trying to say.. other then that. i dont really start any discussions that are hot topics or controversial cause i would rather mylot be a happy place for me, then one where there is a lot of confrontation.

If it stings some just let it go I never hit the NEg. tab over there. I have some friends her that we agree to disagree if we need to lol GEt along just fine!

I don't retaliate and go to one of their articles and negative it. I might give them a negative to go along with their negative comment though. But I would not stoup to their level. I will however depend myself and invite the debate with me. If they can say something rude they better be able to back it up, because I am a great debater.

Speak your mind & heart and don't break the rules while doing so. take care

The theory is that we are all (supposed to) be adults here and act in an adult manner. Unfortunately that sometimes is left open for interpretation. Opinions and open discussions are great but as stated, when it turns into being rude, then that is no longer an 'adult' discussion. But on the other hand, we are dealing with text here and that never includes things like voice tone, facial expressions, and body language. I know from experience that what may seem fine written by you can be interpreted as rude to someone else. I have been in that situation before myself. I made a reply to someone's post and made a little joke. Or at least I thought it was a joke. It was not racist, sexist, or whatever other kind of 'ist' you can think of. Or at least I though anyways. The person interpreted what I wrote as an attack on a totally different post they made and I spent several PM's apologizing. We are good friends now that everyone understands but because of the lack of tone, expression, and body language that message was interpreted far from what I had intended it to mean. Well maybe soon we can do MyLot videos for posts. ;-)

Three years ago I landed on myLot by accident, while searching for a particular subject. One of the results was a discussion on myLot. To set the picture: I am a Christian whose relationship with God through Jesus Christ has top priority in my life. The discussion I landed on was posted by an affirmed atheist who decried Christianity. I joined myLot just so I could respond. We had many, many lengthy discussions on that post and several others. We differed, of course, and I suppose you could say we argued back and forth, but all was done with the utmost respect and civility. He was an English gentleman and it wasn't long before we became very firm friends, and remained so even after he left myLot. I also found many other friends with opposing views, but it didn't stop us from being friends and discussing differences. I think the very foundation of myLot is discussion and therefore differences of opinion. As long as those differences are couched in polite, respectful ways, debate can be beneficial. If people want to belittle and use abusive language, I will withdraw. I will not lower myself to their standard. In fact, I withdrew from myLot two years ago when this was prevalent. Thankfully, since returning recently, I have not encountered it.

For Me As A Discussion Starter It is Not The Response Which Has To Be Good For Me To React .. I React to Any Response Whether Good Or Not A Related one .. As At the End Of the Day It Is The Quality And Quantity Of Your Posts That Fetch you Your Few Cents On Mylot ..I React In A Normal Way to Any Response .. I Expect the Responses To Hit My Discussions One After the Other .. But that Rarely Happens .. .. I Really Enjoyed Expressing Myself On This Discussion ..

This is an open type of discussion under forum base category. Whatever we like or dislike to any respond it doesn't matter to me because I am very familiar attending true offline community forum in my present life. To them may be it's a quality thing to say or gadabout on our posted discussion. This is the best thing about human, we are from same species but with different thoughts. The main and imperative thing is to look at it of any value for our positive development. Must always put up the best while expecting the worst. It justly like a thrust force to one flying or moving object which react in different ways. The trust force always moves backward in making the object to move forward. Different people gives out different kind of life 'thrust force', so I will take granted for my keep on moving forward. What we think, that is the begetting thing.

Hi jcj - Sometimes, when someone responds negatively to my discussion, I will respond back but I try to tell them I understand what they are saying but then state my opinion and why. Other times I just ignore it and do not respond back at all.

I can take someone disagreeing with me just fine, everyone has their own opinion after all, but it really bugs me when people are out and out rude. If someone simply has a different point of view I appreciate that and will either comment on it or leave it alone (and if it's well written I rate it positive) but if someone is ignorant then I do rate them negative and I will retaliate. But I don't tend to start a lot of discussions and the ones I do are rather fluffy do I don't run into it very often!

Everybody have the right to voice out their opinion, its ok to leave a disagree opinion, but in a nice way and not in an unpleasant way. Sometimes they actually point out some points you missed and it makes the discussions keep on going. For those not-so-pleasant responses I will just ignored them if they just want to flame, or give it a negative rating or report it if it does hurts my feeling.

i really dont bother about such responses as i think all have equal rights to put their views in forms of comments but they must not violate mylot terms or there should not be any adult words. i am always trying to neglect such responses i never respond back to this kind of people who are writing not so pleasant responses.

Getting these type of response make me depress for a while but after a few minutes I understand that "It is possible that I did Not start a good discussion" and try to start a good discussion in future thats it.... "NEHA"

Yes, everyone in entitled to their opinion. But when some user always answer you in same tone, it must be there is some problem with that user. I have faced few of them.Recently have seen one user always answering very rudely to my discussions. I am sure she is really having problem with me.

hi jcj this depends on just what the response is, if its'really insulting to me,and really gross I will indeed negate it or report it'to mylot admins. otherwise I will simply pay no never mind after making a benign comment and maybe chiding them a bit for being unpleasant.mylot does not condone this.jcj.

I haven't ever rated a response as a negative. I have even rated some as positive even though they may have been displeased with my answers. I usually tell the responder that I "appreciate" thier input and value thier oppinion. I do not refute or agree!

yeah...true...because you read his other comments..you refrained from actually giving it back to him...cause he was just giving his opinion on the discusiion...i believe everybody has a right to do that...but it hurts when you have to hear something negative how true it might be...but if we think twice before proceeding with our actions we will definitely result in positive outcomes..