You have No right to me....

hi buddy. are you getting serious now? well, as for me, once you broke up and separated ways, you lose everything in the relationship. first, is the relationship itself that you have lost. and you have no right to ask me how i feel about that.

About 4 years ago i had an online relationship with someone and it got very involved and we loved being together. But it was effecting both of our real lives and so i decided it was time to break it off stop the relationship. We had both agreed if it ever started effecting each others lives in a negative way we would end it no questions asked. Well the split was very difficult on both of us. He wanted to remain friends but i tried i really tried to be just a friend. It couldnt work we had been so much more than friends. How to go backwards to not having those feelings for someone after such an intense relationship. I just couldnt do it everytime i was around him i felt i wanted that back. It was torture for both of us , so we havnt talked in over a year now. Sure i miss him but it just has to be this way :(

Whew, you made me think. I wonder what will happen if my separation pushes through? (hope not). Seriously, I think once you broke up or separate, you don't have the right to feel that way towards each other unless, you still feel there's still love that you feel inside you. I don't think that you can be-friend the one you broke up with. It will be really hard for both of you. HUGZ!

I have the rather akward situation as this is a small place of my ex still being near by and although we never had so much as a cross word we cannot speak to each other now at all though we often see each other as he uses the cafenion opposite the one I use, both outdoors. I wouldn't go in his and he wouldn't go in mine, and I gave up the taverna we used to go in together unless I go early when I know he won't be there. I know that he asks about me frequently, just to know that I'm okay, especially if I don't go into the village at the same time, but I rarely ask as he would know about it instantly. Feelings on both sides run to deep too even allow us to speak let alone be friends. Even after all this time most of the village still think we will be together whereas he is more likely to stay alone now and I've moved on, but I would never put myself in the situation of seeing someone again who lives in the area, it's too hard and too much talk. The man I'm with now lives well out of the area.

darn it!!! this just bring back all those wonderful sad memories of my past! a story untold. a life of struggle, pains, aches and LOVE!!! and now, everything has change and that event would never ever be forgotten for the rest of my life. though how hard it may be, its still nice to bring and remember those moments. on how i just stand up and left! and then face everything with a strong heart and mind. and even if sometimes i may think i could not make it! but i just make it through! still the story yet untold. and hopefully i could have the time to spare some moment to letit all go now. but there is always this right time for it all.. jhelai

Hi knight, I don't have any lover, so i don't have any breakups. But, i have some break ups in the friendships due to some misunderstandings. This is not at all the breakup. If our friendship is true, someone will take the step first. If both of us got the ego to start first, then the break ups become more worser and permanent too.. I usually wait for a day to start things up. I am happy that i didn't have any permanent breakups. Just a temporary ones. As my friends know me, even they don't wait for a day too. Most of our fights resolved with in 24 hours.. Have a great day..

Feelings are feelings....they can't be right or wrong. We feel what we feel even when it seems we shouldn't and visa versa. Sometimes as in the case of people who have split up and especially if the split is recent, it is best to keep your feelings to yourself and give the other person some space. It all depends on the circumstances of the split. You feel whatever you feel but if you are no longer with the person, maybe you really don't have the right to express those feelings anymore.

Of course I had to go and get the video ... and listen Oh how many memories that brought back! I split with my husband almost 16 years ago. It was a torment and absurd to continue and we both knew that but it was me who ended it. It was hard for both but worse for him and for years later he was of the idea that sooner or later we would be back together We have a son so we kept in touch for his sake and it was hard. Hard because he knew I was happier alone than in a situation which was going nowhere but he was convinced there was another reason, another person involved. There wasn't and there was no-one until a long time later because I was hurt too. Hurt because it had gone wrong after so many years, more than 18 years together. At the beginning he would want to know things which should not have been any of his concern any more so I kept a distance between us and then over time the situation settled itself and now we are in touch when family things need us to be but we are no longer involved in each other's lives. Both sides have to let go because if one of them is hoping just for 'one more night' they will never move on and start living the rest of their lives. There are many more doors that can be opened after a break-up but only if the previous ones are closed... Hey did you know that Laura Pausini is Italian?

Thought because you have no mood whatsoever, and so hence, this discussion that you created. The lyrics are indeed sad and strong. I believe that when 2 people break up, it's best not to remain friends. Not to become an enemy, but I can't see myself being friends with my ex, unless it's like at work situation or something, which is totally unavoidable. But I do know of people whom can get along really well even after a bad marriage.

Well, I know from experiences that SOME people are much better FRIENDS if they are separate, meaning that some people can be civil and decent and good parents and even hang out together once they are separated/divorced yet all they did when they were together was fight and torture each other. I don't know why that is but I have seen it. I know in my case with my ex I just wanted it done with, separated, divorced, no more contact. I mean I do wonder time to time if he found someone to be happy with, because despite his horrible behavior, I don't wish for him to be alone and miserable for the rest of his life just because WE didn't work out lol. As long as he is not abusing his current girlfriend or wife I have no reason to worry. I think everybody wonders occasionally about past loves or relationships they have had in their lives. That's a normal thing, if you have spent time with somebody, especially if it was a very deep relationship or took place over a great length of time, you are bonded in some manner, so you would almost be not human if you didn't have some thoughts about them and how they were doing once in awhile.

Hi Let, When its over, its really over and its over between you and me; that was from a old song by Nacy Sinatra, yes onece you break up, you have no responsiblit for that person and has no rights at all and as for that discussion about the girl finding a new man and kept e-mailing the ex was wrong of her to do as she was just hurting her ex, that in itself was cruel, so when you seperate that is it finish, you go seperate ways. Tamara.

I came across my ex on Facebook the other day, looked at his profile and logged off because I felt I had no right looking at it, let alone request his friendship which would have no point to it because we would have very little to say to each other. We parted because he did something very hurtful to me and I have no desire for contact at this point. It does seem strange that two people can be so close and when they break up their lives take completely different directions and they no longer even speak; it’s very sad really considering you even shared a bed before the split! Some people break up amicably and I have done that too but I still don’t feel that we should be part of each other’s lives any longer; it would just feel weird especially now that we both have new partners.

Hello!Your question hit me so hard!Well,here is my response. I've been married for 7 years and we had 2 very active boys,we separated last 2007 and since then we did not communicate any more even if we live in the same city and our houses are just 5 kilometers away. For me,if one of you wants freedom coz he/she is not happy any more then we have to give way."You have no right..." coz in order for us to have a new life we should not look back.It's their decision and we have to respect and accept it.No matter how it hurts and how bizarre it is.Nothing is constant in life but CHANGE! Happy mylotting!Hope my answer helped.LOL!

yes these true feelings cannot be changed it comes straight from the heart..you cant stop this feeling..

i dont care eh eh eh eh eh, i dont care eh eh eh eh eh. lol. do you know that song too? well i dont care really. to the father of my children i no longer care. whatever happens to him so he has no right also to ask me how i feel. well for sure he wont care too. he does not care when we are together so much more now that we are apart.

I never been in a relationship. I saw this scenes with my friends. I saw them being happy together, I saw them promise that they will love each other but then relationship has its beginning and end. I saw them hurt by their decision to separate from their boyfriend, and I saw them how they struggle to move on. I help them somehow on the journey. I guess that is what love is all about, when love is for you, no matter what has happen it will come back to get you. Don’t always think that love is not for you after failing from it. Love didn’t made a mistake but lovers do. Do not curse love for picking you. You and you alone decide to enter love so you will expect the happiness and the sadness it will bring to you. That is my advice to them.

hi there! maybe yes or maybe no..i guess it all depends on that "thing" you shared in the past---if you were so close and intimate with each other and had broken up in a terrible manner, i guess it would be quite impossible for you to befriend him/her or even think of the person to take care of..sounds unforgiving but just a reality these days.

awwwww. what are you sad all of the sudden, you shouldn't feel that way. i bet you're depress again because i wasn't replying to text messages not to mention your calls too. well, i have done my share of experience with men, you know, i am the one who wanted to hold on but they seemed to have just shove me off until it's too late for them to apologize, because i have move on.

hi there letran, so how's your day?? still having sleepless nights? well on my own opinion about this topic, hhmm, honestly and frankly, once you are separated, you have no right to the person. no more strings attached for both of you, why still care?? why still talk?? and why be friends?? you are already break up and separated to each other so both of you have no right to ask and to complain.. that's my own opinion and my principle.. janebeth.

You still have the right as a caring person to communicate with your ex, but it can become complicated when you or the other person finds someone new. :( I think if the other new bf or gf doesn't mind you talking or hanging out, then go for it. But really, just sometimes God wants you to be with someone different anyway. Ashley