I disagree that sibling jealousy can be caused by status differences.;opinion pl

Hi Kala! In today's materialistic world, anything is possible, money, social standing, social status,property and assets could lead to jealousy between siblings. I think, it may be felt more if one of the sibling happens to be from feminine gender. And I find that in most of the siblings, when they start living separately with their respective families, difference in their social standing creeps in, due to one reason or the other. I personally feel that it is not a healthy sign or say healthy attitude, life is too short, one should bond well with each other, irrespective of his social status. The love and affection between siblings should not get lost or reduced because of money.

I will boldly state that sibling jealousy is caused by their status difference ,position in life ,family and even their enjoyment.

Hi Kalav56, I have three brothers and two sisters, when we were young it was great but as the years went by and all my brothers and sisters married and had children, but I have none, the point is that two of my brothers are jealous of my sister's children and have nothing to do with them, I think it is so sad, all my neiceses and nephews are all adults now but couldn't care less, but I am cvlose to my sister's children although I have no children of my own. Tamara

I'm sure in some families there are sibling jealousy, but as you said, if siblings bond together as friends also, this wouldn't happen. One should be happy for the other, and whatever they have or whatever status they have in life. Unfortunately, it is usually the one who has more who thinks there is jealousy expressed from the other, only because he/she feels guilty that she has more than the other. It's often more in their minds than what is actually taken place.

My family might be different from others but my siblings and I have no jealousy. One of my brothers just got married and joined the Navy and I couldnt be happier for him (Though I miss him a lot now that he's gone away) My other brother has two beautiful children and a great job. I love my neice and newphew more than anything and would do anything for them. And anyone in my family for that matter. My sister is head of her department at work and in school to become a teacher. She's my best friend. The one person I can always count on no matter what. And I am a poor artsy college student who my parents has always pegged as the artsy free spirit of my family. I am not jealous I can 100percent say I'm very happy with where I am in my life and with their successes I think I would be more stressed and upset if I knew I was doing better than all my siblings. I would worry about if they were okay all the time. I now worry about my brother whose about to leave for Afganistian. My family was brought up military style we moved around a lot and had to learn to be each others best friends. I think thats part of why we're as close as we are now. I know I'm very blessed to have the family I do.

Acording to me siblings are the best and can never feel jealousy about us if we become a big shot they would be really proud of us and they be next to u in all the steps u make so i say their is no jealousy between the siblings

Though there are cases where there is jealousy between siblings due to status difference, I think it's a very small percentage considered to normal sibling rivalry while growing up. And the growing up sibling rivalry makes way for understanding and bonding as the siblings mature and grow up. My parents are from bigger families where there is a status difference between siblings...but they are all close knit.

I don't think it makes a lot of difference. If there is going to be jealousy it can happen even if the status is the same. It is not the status that causes people to act badly, it is the people. I also do not think gender has to be a factor, although I suppose that between male siblings there is more negative interaction physically whereas with women I would expect it to be more verbal--but not necessarily.

I share your sentiments too. More often than not, it all boils down to the bond, big heart towards one another like empathy and no social standing could change that. Parents play an important role too in bringing on the goodness of sibling care, concern and closeness..

hi kalav56 I think that I do agree withyou.I have known siblings'that got along splendidly and they were far apart status wise, but they loved and liked eachother and there was no jealousy only a feeling of happiness for each other. and of course some siblings do get jealous but I think most siblings have enough bonding that they are not going'to be jealous of any differences between them.

I almost didnt agree when I read that you disagreed that difference in status could create jealousy between siblings. That is until I read why you thought so. This time, I will have to agree with you that the bonding between the siblings does account for the existence or non-existence of jealousy. If two siblings are really that closely bonded then no matter how good the other fares, the other will just be happy for their sister/brother for having that kind of status. If these siblings were brought up within the context of competing with each other then there will be destructive jealousy in between them. I have to say however, that even when one sibling is happy for the accomplishments/achievements of their siblings, its only human when that sibling feels a slight envy towards their sister/brother. We are only human after all.

Hi Kala.Good to see you again. I think this topic is a debatable one.The siblings jealousy due to status difference could be the result of their upbringing.As Sudipta has mentioned that there are innumerable cases where we see brothers feeling jealous of each other,if one is doing excellent financially and other is trying hard to survive.Even you can see that disputes due to property and money are increasing by leaps and bounds.All thanks to people getting inclined towards material things.

I also disagree about the statement which says that every siblings are jealous with the differences of status between them and the other ones, because I am someone who really feels very happy when I see a progress made by either my brother or my sisters as for me every one is equal, I am the smallest in my family and I can see all the unconditioned love I get from all so never will I be able to think something like that about them though.

I beg to differ kalav. I have known of a case where it has been sister versus sister, and where it has been elder two versus the younger one! And mind u, the younger one actually pulled the elder two out of their financial mess, and the two did their best to drive the younger one into one! So sibling rivalry is definitely true. And there are always snide remarks and sarcastic jokes that are meant to disturb the mental balance of the person who starts faring well on his or her own. This is a first hand experience. Urs may be an exceptional case, or may be it has not come to the level of testing. May be if it comes to that, u might come to know the true colors. After all, true nature and true morals can only be discerned in times of adversity.

you are right in saying it is all in the mind and that it also depends upon the level of bonding from the childhood.i,for that matter,would be happy to see the sucess of my brother.

Hmm.. As my mom used to say, if one of your siblings is successful and you are not YET successful, you should be then PROUD of your sibling rather than be jealous or what. You need to look at what your sibling had done to be successful. Parents plays vital role in this area because they need to let the other children not to belittle themselves but be proud of their siblings. Because if people see that your siblings were ok, they will also look at you the same way IF you are also striving hard to be successful. But remember, fate is not always the same. Siblings maybe successful in different level coz they also gave their effort differently. And again, we have different names, different preferences, etc. To each its own. So if you were not able to reach whatever your siblings have, do not feel bad as long as you have given your BEST with what you believe that will put you to success, well, that's it! Maybe that is the only level that life can bring you. At the end of the day, you will end up happy coz you feel good and never felt bad whenever your sibling or someone has a better life than yours! Cheers!

More or less older one in a family tries to be /or normally is the authroitative member ,due to more experience with exposure,and as time goes by,,the younger ones also get more respect as they mature by age,,My thinking is the parents should take care of a situation like this,, Its there all over the world,as the younger one definitely is less exposed,

I completely disagree that jealousy can be caused by status difference i think its about the bounding between them and nature ofcourse i have a friend whose sister feels jealousy of her inspite of that girl is independent but she is jealous of her sister whose studies is going on coz she is not that much qualified so it depends on one's nature alwayz.