We want to have another child?!?!

Hello Prikayjo, the decision to have a child is a very important one, no doubt you already understand this from having had your first. When I had my first one, I was married and I felt like if my hubby and I traveled a lot, I wouldn't want to have just one child because that one would always be lonely, so we decided to have another. Mind you even in a married situation, there will be something that's known as sibling rivalry. You may have experienced it with your own family while growing up if you were not the only child. Anyhow, my point is to say that you should make sure that first off, having another child is something that you are ready for. If you are not ready to make the commitment to another child then you should wait until you are. Running behind a two year old and trying to keep up with them is no easy task, but then couple that scene with a newborn and you will at times, wonder what in the world were you thinking. Anyhow, it's up to you my friend, I'm just trying to get you to see the full picture, which is that it's never easy when you decide to have children. Not to mention finances. Just thinking that you should think long and hard about it and ask your bf if it's willing to be with you in it for the longhaul and if so then he should make the commitment to you. If not then you must ask yourself if you are going to be strong enough to raise the two of your children alone? Well it's your decision which ever way that you choose to go at it but I'm simply wishing you all the best and hoping that you will see the wisdom in what I've said. Happy mylot!

It all depends on you.. Some people like to have their children close together because its easier in the long run. But its hard at first because a 2 year old demands so much attention and when the baby is born its hard to do that. I have 2 children, had mine at 5.5 years apart and I love it, its such a wonderful age difference, my son in 6 now and my daughter is 9 months and my son helps me out so much with her.

Ok i thought i could give you the best response possible due to me being in the similar situation. I have a son who will be three in january. I always to have children spaced out by two years. Well two years has turned to three already. The reason why though is i have been patient knowing the timing has to be perfect. I too am not married to my sons father yet. I am waiting on my son to get better potty trained before i have another. I am waiting to get married to my fiance first which will be happening soon but we haven't figured out the date yet. Also he was layed off a year ago so we both know he needs a job first. And last but not least we want our own home. His parents are trying to buy us a house which is really nice. What im trying to tell you is look at all aspects first before considering a new life. You may want to consider finances and if you can still provide nice stuff for your two year old if there is another baby. Will you be able to do some stuff that you can easily do with one child but may not be so good at with two children. Not saying its a bad idea but just saying consider everything. DOnt just look at simple things. Good luck!

Well, I don't see why not. If you want a new baby, you should talk to your daughter before hand, or maybe she is more than glad to have a little brother or sister. Or may she not be able to understand at the moment, but I would be sure she would love it.

I have a 2 year old and I just had a baby two weeks ago. I feared a lot of the same things you fear. However, my little boy LOVES his little brother. We did everything we could to prepare him. We read him books and talked to him about having a little brother. I think that is key. And we make a concerted effort to divide our attention evenly between the two kids. I think the fact that you are so concerned for your daughter's stability is a good sign. Just be considerate of your older one's feelings. She may be a little jealous at first, but in a few years, she'll be grateful for the playmate.