Can an afffair be ever forgiven?
By someonee1234
@someonee1234 (19)
United States
September 14, 2009 3:06pm CST
I know bunch of people who have had affairs in the past. When I asked my girlfriend, she replied NO. But what about all those poeple out there that have experienced their spouses or loved ones cheating on them.
What do you guys think?
4 responses
@Trinquette (156)
• United States
14 Sep 09
It would depend on the people and the circumstances. However some affairs can lead to the dissolution of a previous relationship, for one reason or another. Some people are capable of forgiving, but it is difficult to forget and can make tensions rise between the couple, for fear of it happening again. I'd say one mistake in a lifetime is sufficient, but one has to look to at the reason it happened before placing 100% blame on either party.
@someonee1234 (19)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Yes situation plays an important role here. First mistake can be forgiven. Repeating the same mistakes over and over again creates problems in the long run and cannot be forgiven or forgotton.
@hwoarangpoy (196)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Love moves in mysterious ways. It can be forgiven in time. Some is just to hard to forget. Just don't get anyone pregnant or kill anyone OK? Seriously that is hard to let go.
@someonee1234 (19)
• United States
14 Sep 09
After reading my discussion, my friend replied that your right hand should not know what your left hand is doing. Doing this will safe ones marraige and keep his so called Encounters in place.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
14 Sep 09
Hi someonee,
Partners who have love affairs with another can be very destructive specially nowadays that people see love affairs as a threat to their relationship with the other.
There is so much insecurity and fear breeds fear and even if you forgive their love affair it´s most likely you will find it hard to forget you may get constant reminders of their affair when you are watching the Television. Seeing couples holding hands going down the street and sitting together in the park all that sort of thing.
Love affairs can be damaging to say the least you may patch up your relationship somehow but you may possibly remember all your life what the other one did. However some are able to overide this situation with time and patience others not.
@someonee1234 (19)
• United States
14 Sep 09
For some it is hard to forget and forgive. My personal opinion is that couples should be honest with each other and make a wise decision and move on. Affairs often end in fights, murder and loss of wealth.
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I can tell you it is possible to stay married and continue on with your relationship but for our situation weve never been happy together since either of us having an affair , only stay together for the kids. Im getting to the point now , ten years later , that i cant continue on faking this marriage and will probly be divorced before i planned on it.
