Do you think love means accepting your spouse as he/she is without demands?

Hi all! If you are accepting everything your spouse demands then it is weakness on your part which will always led to making your spouse more demanding.Sometime it may happen that your spouse is not demanding the right thing then you must obstruct it in the right manner to let her know of her mistake.

One of the leading causes of divorce is not accepting of couples, this does not mean we have to accept our spouse that we are already married, it means that you know your partner before you marry him, and those who do not open and show to yous partner as they are unlikely to have a lasting marriage, the fiancee is important to kwon your partner and decide whether th person you want on your side. also communication and trist are important in marriage, it depends on your relationships and your future.

Well I think that yes, there are some things you can accept. Obviously people can't be perfect in everyway. But the reason you fall in love with them in the first place is if there is something in common, or something you admire about them. If people just keep boasting about their bad habits and ask people to just 'accept how they are', that's not really about love, it just seems like an easy way out. I'm not saying you can stop him smoking, but obviously he needs to realise that you care about him, and don't want him to damage his health, that's love too. He shouldn't twist it around and say that if you love him that you would accept him as a smoker, its because you love him that you care if he smokes or not!

I do not completely agree to the idea of accepting the significant other without any attempt to come to a compromise. There are relationships which survive because at least one of the partners does not make any demands. But from what I have seen most f this tupe of relationship is superficial. The couples involved stay together because they have their own interest(s) or agenda. In any marriage there has to be some give and take, a little demand here and there. This is one of the ways in which the couple can understand each other better. Without really knowing what the spouse is thinking of, likes and dislikes, the marriage can break down after a certain time has elapsed. I have seen couples who seem to accept each other at the beginning, with no demands made. Out of the blue they separated and get divorced. Have you noticed that couples who occasionally quarrel over certain issues tend to stay together?

Hi riani, Accepting your loved one as he or she is i think running away from the responsility. In most cases unless people are living together the person dont really know each other before marriage. And when marriage comes then responsiblities come and you can not run away from the responsiblities. I dont say that everyone has to change 100% but things which can harm health, financial condition of the family has to be changed. It is no good saying look i dont want to change my spouce and even before marriage he had so many girls sleeping with him so i dont want to change it. This thing would surely end marriage sooner than later or if husband is always in casino and throwing away every penny of house which was for the better life of family and kids..then i guess you have to put your foot down and assert yourself. Your husband doesnt give up smoking and telling you if you love him.. well ask him does he love you more or the cancer stick more. If he loves you then he wont do anything to make you a widow .. would he?

Oh my, I've just been there. Well I guess it all depends but in my case, giving way and accepting your partner for he/she is would be a fine option to keep the relationship. But there should also be a compromise every now and then. A relationship is supposed to be something mutual where there is a give and take but not necessarily coming to the point of demanding for something in return for whatever it is you give away. You're supposed to give it willingly. Sometimes this demand becomes a measure of how much love you have for each other, one wanting to compromise by changing for the better and the other doing the same thing. It would be really difficult if you both try to impose what you want and having your ideas clash every time. This will result to an unhealthy relationship, in all aspects. One has to back down but not always. Just keep the communication lines open because in terms of accepting and understanding, you will never agree on anything if you both play deaf and dumb to each other. Swallow your pride and deflate your egos. Always telling the truth even if it hurts also helps keep couples together, not hiding anything from each other. This way, you will see how far is the extent of your willingness to be together, where love becomes a choice. The way I see it, compatibility is not a matter of how much in common two people have but the differences that they share and celebrate without question.

Love is accepting who your partner is. And that doesn't include blindly accept he's a criminal or an a** just because you love him. Love is about give and accept. If he love you, that's mean he will also accept you for who you are and will protect you from harm. Smoking is another form that can harm you. The smoke contains dangerous substance.