Is it ok to open the cellphone of your patner or even read text messages ?

There is trusting your partner - in which case, why would you need to check their cell phone? And then there is intuition - is there a reason your instinct is telling you to look? Intuition is not the same as fearful, unable to trust. Do you have a valid reason to look besides just insecurity? I trust my partner when it comes to "cheating" or sneaking around. But if one day, I felt an intuitive hit that something wasn't quite right - yep, I'd check. And I would tell him this is my approach. It's no secret. Be up front and earn the trust I place in you. And speaking for myself in the same scenario - if I was sneaking around, I would feel defensive about having my phone checked. If he is looking with the intent to find something, then I'm not going to like it. But would I feel so defensive if I didn't have something to hide? Probably not. My partner just randomly looking through my phone out of maybe curiosity - no big deal. I have nothing to hide from him....so go ahead. Why shouldn't he feel the same?

Hey there! I respect my girlfriend's privacy as well but when I ask her who called her or who texted her, she has no problem with telling me. I don't have a problem with her checking my phone either. We both don't have anything to hide so there really is no problem. I don't understand why couples would fight over something like that. If you have nothing to hide, it shouldn't be a problem when your partner checks your phone.

I think everyone needs their privacy, either you trust the person you're with, or you don't. I pay my own phone bill and there is no reason anyone needs to see what I use my phone for. If someone has a problem in a relationship, the problem needs taken care of. When someone checks someone else's emails, text messages or phone calls, there is no trust in the relationship. I've seen where one person gets a hold of the other persons phone and starts making phone calls to previously dialed numbers, sending text messages to people on the phone, even if they don't know who it is and it does nothing but cause problems. A long time ago, I had a bf that got on my phone and seen that a previous caller "Danny" had called me twice and I called "Danny" once. The bf called the number and demanded that he talk to Danny.....He was embarrassed when he came to the realization that Danny was actually Danielle and if he wouldn't have looked at my phone or asked in the first place, he wouldn't have looked so dumb.

I don't think it is right to check a partners phone, unless of course that person asks you to. Sometimes if my boyfriend gets a message or call, he will ask me to read it to him or answer for him, so that is ok. Snooping around, on the other hand, is not. Either you trust your partner or you don't!

no. u are right, it is a privacy thing. i don't even dare opening text messages of my children. i know many couples fight because of that. it is because one distrusts the other. it is a matter of trust between the partners.

I ever fight with my brother because he did it it's unpolite. you may not read others text

its one owns privacy i think its not right for anyone to priveon someones else personal belonging

I guess me & my girlfriend are on opposite end of the spectrum then most people... We've been living together for 5 years & been together for 7... Quite frankly, I don't care if my girl friend looks through my cell phone... Half the time when I'm with her, she'd answer my phone anyway... We both treat each other's cell phones like a house phone... Whoever is closer to the phone answers it... When I'm home, I don't carry the cell phone on me... I often lay it down somewhere in the house... If it goes off & my girl friend is near it, she grabs it & answers it... It works the other way as well... A lot of the times when I'm taking a shower, I'd ask my girl friend to check my phone, if someone calls me or text messages me... She & I are completely open to each other... I could careless if she goes in to my cell phone or computer or emails or bank accounts... Everything in my life is completely accessible by my girl friend, & vise versa...

i totally agree with you, everyone deserves their privacy. i have seen some people actually do that, but it has been because the other person has been doing the wrong things, if you know what i mean, but in that case i just think they should try to get it resolved some other way and if not possible just let things go. but no one should ever be looking in someones phone unless the owner shows it to you.

No.At least I don't think it is wise to open the cellphone of your partner or even read text message.Let me assume that your partner take your cellphone ,and read your text messages.What do you think about this?

Hello amyson I love this saying "what you don't know wont hurt you" I would not feel comfortable looking through someones phone as long as I don't know I will be fine, there can be something innocent then we argue and fuss for what, "trust" is the bottom line here, and as long as you truly trust your partner then you should not feel the need to search through his phone. Thank you.

We need our privacy and be respected on such things as opening or reading personal text messages. Couples always fight about text messages because of the distrust it creates on the mind of our partners. Relationships were ruined because of these actions. Everyone should have their own privacy with regards to these matters. If we trust our partner, then a simple text message is not the answer to be doubtful of not sharing their message inbox or text messages.

if you love him/her, then you can check partner's cell phone contacts and messages. Nothing is personal than your lover. Your lover is more precious than any other one. You should feel happy that your partner takes interest in your life. But you cant do this in case if he or she is your friend.

like you amyson, i respect his privacy and that respect was equally returned by him. but it's never an issue on us, i let him read all my messages and he lets me read his. but we don't abuse that privilege. best of all we trust each other -- we don't have to sneak just to read each others messages :)

No, I do not do that as doing so may be the cause of disrespect and loss of trust. I prefer not to look on my partner cellphone. It is like a private things that should be leave as a way to respect their own privacy. If you really trust your partner then it is not necessary to know what inside his cellphone as in doing so may just results insecurities which i do not like to happen, I opt not to read text messages.

I agee with you that it is an envasion of privacy to read others messages, unless they are told they can. In my cituation, there is no one in my house but me, so I don't have to worry about that, as my son would never ever ask for my phone to llik at my messages nor would I do that to him either. I wouldn't check other people't messages either, unless I was told that I coulddo so. My daguther and I text everyday, since we live miles away from each other. Even if we lived in the same town or in the same house, we would never ever read each others messages. She had texted her niece when she lived with me, and never once did I ask what she said, as it is none of my business whatsoever. It is just a matter of backing off and letting others have their privacy. Take care and happy mylotting.

I dont really like my wife to intrude my privacy by opening my Cell phone. I respect her privacy and will never read the msgs. You are right, men dont really like their privacy to be intruded, especially with cell phone. At the same time, men have to be trustworthy too, without cheating their wife/ gf.

Hi Amyson, Nice discussion you have there. For me, I don't like others to read my text message. But of course I don't keep what secret in the text message. It is just about the privacy. For my hub, he does not really read my texting too. But if he wants to read my texting message, I don't mind to let him read if he has ask permission from me.

hi amy, i have also made a topic like this amy, and you can scan for it.. obviously and majority of the people who answered it is NO.. NO as in no for reading and they say it is a private thing of you partner, so you are not allowed to scan it without their permission.. but in my case i find it wrong, for me if you are together with each other there's no guilt between the guy, if he hides nothing so let it be.. my partner is open, so he let me use his phone, and vice versa.. i am just open minded and i don't worry such things like private messages of my partner.. so if ever i can scan secret messages, well i need to break up with him.. we are not fooling around here, so why hide it.. what do you think?? janebeth.