why cant you just be happy for me?
By se7enthbird
@se7enthbird (8307)
Philippines
September 15, 2009 8:53am CST
i met my grandfather last Sunday, we haven't seen each other maybe for a year or so. since the day that i turned my back on the woman they want me to wed and choose my (now) wife (for seven years already) they are not that interested with me. if they see me on occasions they just look at me and say something nasty. last sunday my grandfather ask me "are you happy?" i answered "yes, i am" and proudly showed my son. then he ask "are you sure you are happy even you have no money?" they are the one choosing a woman for me to wed because of wealth. i dont like to be wed with someone with other reasons. i want to get wed with the reasons for we love each other. thats the reason why i dont attend relatives party for i know this issue will still open. i am happy no doubt about it. why cant they just be happy for me because i am happy.
2 people like this
7 responses
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
well there are a lot of people who are happy for you, there are a lot of people who thinks you and your wife is a perfect pair, so you dont have to think about what they will say. as you said its been seven long years already.... dapat sanay ka na . let then have that reaction and love your wife and son more. important is you are a good husband and a good father to your bundle of joy.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
dava letran!!! if they dont like seven's wife then atleast they are honest. i know it can be painful but atleast they are not entertaining the wife then say something when she turn her back. we can not please everybody. nakakainis true, but there is nothing we can do. as long as seven is happy with his life together with his wife and satisfied with his son.... go now go walk out the door dont turn around now whahahahaha
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
yeah, i agree with roni, here you should have gotten used to it since it's been so long. probably you really missed them too but at the same time you're mad at them for not being happy for you.
. well, they can't hate you forever seven, they're too not human if they do so.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hi se7,
Wow...there are really people who are like that?
ANyway, a lot of people really think that money is the most important thing in this world but reality is, a lot of rich people are not happy for some reasons especially if there is no sincere love from the people they love...
I hope someday, they will realize that and you did a great job for fighting your love over wealth...
1 person likes this
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
hi che, how are you? money is important but love is more important than money. for money can be earned and when you are inspired to earn the more happy you become. marrying because of money is greed (just my opinion). i dont like them to realize that i did a great job to fight my love from wealth i want them to realize that the woman i marry is a good person and a good mother. thanks a lot for the response and hope to see you more.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
20 Jan 10
I'm glad that you decided to marry the woman you love, instead of some woman just for her money. It's your life, and this is the woman you have to face everyday. You would have been miserable if you had married who they chose.
Your wife sounds like a lovely person, and it's amazing that she still encourages you to go for these gatherings. Your son is really really cute too, if that's him in the avatar.
Ultimately, money can be earned but happiness cannot, so good for you that you took the steps that you did!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
i have seen a lot of people that got married for money and was never happy. maybe they look happy for they can buy anything they wished for but they can never buy love. i took a step that would make me happy and it prove me right. of course there are ups and downs in our relationship but we make sure we held hands to make it through. i know that there are more to come more ups and downs but still i am happy to share any ups and downs to the woman that is perfectly fit for me. thanks for the response
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
har har har, yeah lucky me i have also people who are happy for me, but sad to think that my own relative does not feel the same way. too bad we can only use three icons i am sure you wanted to put more har har har. thanks a lot for the response and thanks for letting me laugh
1 person likes this
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Sep 09
That is such a shame that your family doesn't share your happiness. I know it's hard but I don't want you to let it get you down. You are the one that lives your life and although you love your family, you have done what you feel is right for you and it's working out great! Take care and give that wife and baby a big kiss.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
it does not let me down but that is one of the good reasons why i dont like such family gatherings. for i know this past issue will be around the surface. i no longer enjoy attending this kinds of gathering, but my wife insist that i bring my child along with me. thanks a lot for the response
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Well, too bad for them if they are so not open-minded people! Arrange Marriage traditions are slowly dying and they should! parents don't have the right to choose the woman they want to have you married with. what a crap they don't care about your happiness they care about theirs! and since they want you to marry a rich person ,they'll just suck your money dry. i consider it self-fish. If i were in your shoes, I'd say just stay there and DIE...that's your life and not theirs!!!!!!!! ohh! am so boiled right now...@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
i am getting tired of them already pal. my wife is the one who insist me to attend on gatherings so they can see our son, but my wife does not come with us. its been seven years now and our son is three years old. i just wish they will be happy for me for i am really happy and satisfied with our live even we dont have money. thanks a lot for the response
1 person likes this
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
that is their problem and not yours, soon they will regret in deep sadness.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
i hope so too. Your decision was well-fought for. Perhaps, it is just now. In the long time being, they will accept everything..
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi grace, but i guess seven years is long already. and we have a son already, i just hope they stop yanking about this issue i dont like my son hearing that i married the wrong woman. thats the reason why i dont like to be present on family gathering for this issue always comes up. thanks a lot for the response
