How many people do you feel know you, better than you know yourself?

How to judge whether a decision is good or not by yours? But 4 sorts below: 1.profit yourself at the expense of others 2.profit others at the expense of yourself 3.profit all at the expense of nobody 4.profit nobody at the expense of all No matter what different thinking involved and no matter what understanding you got and no matter who is the best insider of yours,just reference rules above,the key is not who is the best one that knows you well but a more efficient result

Hello my friend Lord knows I am trying to understand what this means my friend,I keep reading it but I don't get this, please help me to understand what you mean. is this suppose to tell me how others would know me better? Come back my friend

Hello aprces My mom who has raised me does not know me better than I know me, its impossible, for 1 there are things about me she does not know, a lover same difference they know us yes, but not every detail there are things they may never see that we have stored away, I use to say I knew my boyfriend better than he knew himself, that was not true I knew his ways so there fore I knew when he would do something before he actually did it, but to say I knew him better not at all. Those closely involved cannot see clearly.This is a Chinese saying beside that is the spectators see the chess game better than the players I love this saying, same as "people on the outside looking in" when two people are explaining something to someone you being the outsider may see things differently does not mean you know better,you just have a different mind set so your going to see things the other two are not willing to see. Thank you so much for sharing this. please return so we can discuss further thank you.

Yes, I do understand what you mean, but I cannot!!! stop laughing about the stick bahaha!

Hello my friend Behave yourself lol, I responded to one of your discussions and lost the post,so I have to respond again, it was a good one, I hate when this happens Thank you my friend.

Hello my friend I see your point, as for me I can't think of anything I do conscious or unconsciously that someone would have to point out to me, I honestly can't think of a thing, I am always conscious of what I do, I do know people that may do something silly/dumb I will point it out to them but never think they were not aware they just did not think at the moment, I remember one time me and some associates was having fun drinking acting silly, so the next day one of my associates got a kick out of it cause she never saw me this way, she insisted on pointing out everything I did, I stopped her I told her everything I did and said, I will never drink so much that I forget, I know people do this I don't get it, but I believe it is possible, not sure why this is my friend but I am always conscious all the time, I make mistakes ofcourse, my behavior and mannerisms are in check at all times,someone said to me once its nice to see you relaxed without acting like you have a stick up your butt don't you dare laugh, in my defense this person does not know me, she only know of me, she saw a side she never see because I am not around her lol (you still laughing) I am serious alot of the time but I do have fun with people I like, o.k I will stop now. Do you understand what I mean lol

Hello my friend Thank you so much,I agree 1000% but we shall see who does not agree, I hope people respond to this discussion it can be great if the right people respond, thank you so much for you input, I am willing to say hmmmm, if someone makes that light bulb go off in my head I hope this happens lol Thank you so much.

I think perhaps there are some people who aren't very self aware where other people know them better than they know themselves. But it's not the case with me. I tend not to let people in...

Hello my friend I believe they know your ways, but do you really think they know you every thought? nah but you can be around a person long enough and pick up on their like and dislikes, for a person to know you know better than you know yourself this would mean they can get inside your head, the only way they can do this is by the things you tell them, now if you share your every thought with them, than that is different Thank you, please come back and tell me what you feel about this.

Hello I agree, was hoping someone would have tried to convince me otherwise, would have been fun, oh well this in all reality is impossible how can anyone know you better than you know yourself, I mean really as I said before my grandson who just turned 7 I can't say I know him better than he knows himself he has not been here that long yet this is still impossible to say Thank you.

Hello my friend What a great example my friend, I love it I really think people get these things confused, I consider myself a really deep individual I am constantly thinking and learning new things to improve myself, I know who I am and what I can take, my family don't know how to relate to me honestly then don't understand me although my mom has been around me all my life, I always seem to surprise her and this shocks me because you should know enough to know what will make me react, my daughter who out of anyone I would think would be the fastest to say she knows me better but she don't because she can't thats my child I can't say this about her, I know she works my nerve and there are things I do know, but there are things I don't I am here mom she is going to let me but so much. I really like how you explained this, people say this to me as well, you think you know me better no darling I know your ways is all, its impossible to actually get into someone head that is the only way you will actually know them completely and this will never happen, unless hypnosis plays a part on the equation lol I have an issue with therapy because I don't get how they actually know if they are helping someone really, how do they know if the person is telling them everything, people tell me they have books that teach them how to get things out of the patients I don't know seems to me everything boils down to the same thing your parents did something wrong, you are missing something from your childhood, I can say that, come lay on my couch. Thank you my friend.

Hello my friend Thank you so much, you are right again my friend,I think that is what it comes down to as far as therapy is concerned I have never been but it seems the conclusion is always the same I may be wrong, I wont knock it, I may actually try it just to see what they tell me,who knows I may learn something. my daughter friend use to say she knew my daughter better than me,this really pissed me off because who would say that to someones mom, you may know things about her that I don't know but you don't know here better, who's to say I may be wrong about that lol. Thank you my friend .

I think we're on the same boat. When people get close to me, they're always surprised by what they find out about me because they like to assume. I think people like to assume things without thinking. My Mom gets surprised every now and then by the way I think and with the things I do as well. She says she knows me but I would tell her, well, you know some things about me but there's a lot you don't know about me, too. And about therapy, for the most part, I think people just need someone to turn to. You can only succeed if you help yourself. That's what I think. No amount of therapy can help you if you refuse to help yourself. A lot of people turn to therapy because they find some comfort in speaking to someone who has the proper credentials but, hey, I've been there and it didn't work for me. I'm not discouraging it but as I said, you only learn and get through when you learn to help yourself. Thanks for the wonderful discussion.

Hello mikeysmom I agree,I think people confuse knowing each other well with knowing more, I agree this is impossible, but yes someone can know your ways that is expected after being around someone for a certain length of time, I know alot of my associates ways some need to be changed, others is just lost no matter how you look at it. I know someone that everytime I am around here she say things like I was just about to do this or do that, when I know this is not true,because if I see you tomorrow the same things will not be done, yet she does this all the time as if I don't see what is going on, I find this sad, what do you call that? denial something to that affect, this happens all the time, its like she don't see what we see, or she don't think we see I don't know, she could be a good person she has many issues, I feel bad for her. Thank you for sharing.

Hello my friend I agree,when I watch people I shack my head sometimes cause they are so lost and have so much learning to do its amazing, I spend enough time by myself that I know me really well, I knew from childhood I was different and that mentally I was blessed, when I had my daughter I was really young but people use to tell me how great I was and how proud they were of me, they say things like you seem to have changed over night, I never changed I just became more focused and decided to stop acting like a child and more like the woman I was becoming, at a young age I would watch adults take this from that one, don't want any of that from this one I knew what would work for me and what would not, yes I feel blessed if people actually took time to spend time with themselves they would know themselves much better then they think, people are afraid to be alone the thought of being alone does something to them this is sad. I know someone that moved into her own place she grew up with a houseful so you would think she would welcome the alone time, she said she would be home with her son she would do this do that, then she says to herself now what? I said huh, she said she did not know what to do with herself, I said talk to your son, think about your life, enjoy your home, but she could not do it, she end up spending more time at her moms then she did in her own home. the thought of being alone is too much for some people to handle. Thank you so much for sharing.

Hello my friend I use to to guilty of telling people this,I was young and really needed a clue this to me is impossible there are so many way we do things amazing ways we get to know others, I love it, I like to watch people no matter how long I knew you I will observe even when you doing doing nothing but thinking, I say to myself if only I can jump in their head just to get a idea of how their mind works, I would love this but that will not happen, so observing give me a good idea, but there is so much I will never really know. Thank you my friend.

Hello doormouse I think we all have been there, I know you better than you know yourself, if I knew now what I thought I knew then those words would have never passed my lips, ever this is something I feel we would like to believe but actually its impossible to say the least. Thank you, come back and share if you like

Hello my friend Great point, although having outside influence does help us, but its not like we don't know these things we may not know what to call them but we know how we are, like I know someone who is selfish when I tell her this she says give me an example of something I have done that makes you say this, so yes this is a great point my friend thanks, I find it hard to believe she was not aware but then again some people really do not have a clue I know my ways I am very sensitive too sensitive this I know, I have a big heart always putting other needs before my own, not a good trait, I have been told many times I wear my heart on my sleeve I love this saying although this could be a bad thing as well, my daughter tells me all the time mom you are too nice you need to toughen up, people take advantage of you, so in some instances I tend to use the word NO a little easier than I had before, sometimes its o.k to tweak a few things every now and then, in my case I had too, still sensitive and all those things but these are the things that make me the woman I am. Thank you for sharing my friend.

Hello cherrc I believe time help us to be more aware of these things, how often do you really need to be told you are doing too much or too little of something I try to be conscious of everything that I do, younger people fine, but adults I don't see why someone needs to remind you of your behavior, don't get me wrong I see this all the time, but it frustrates me, people do really stupid things for no reason and I have to point it out, after a time it becomes redundant and I say enough is enough. My daughter tell me I am too nice, well in all reality this is her opinion, but I agree, should I go around being nasty to people NO, but I will be careful with my heart because people take kindness as a weakness sad but true,there is always room for improvement does not say that person knows me better. Thank you so much for sharing.

Hello my friend And we must also remember people only show you what they want you to see, some not all it is impossible to get into someones mind, they may let you see some of what goes on in their but thats it, my mind is going constantly there is not enough time in the world for me to share everything with someone, I find it hard to keep up with myself lol. Thank you for sharing.

Hello my friend And that is fine, when I was coming up even a part of my adult like I thought I was suppose to share everything with people, lol I wanted them to know me, so I felt I had to share, NOT, there are somethings people do not need to know, I believe our parents know a great deal about us, their are still alot of things they do not know, don't get me wron some people tell their parents everything, that is great for them, there are some things I will not share, and things I don't want my daughter to share with me, to each his own. Thank you so much.

Hello my friend I like that Me,Myself,I this is true, you have to really be able to get into someones head in order to really know them, I have yet to know someone that much, I know peoples ways I know their mannerism that about it, really cool when you a person so well you what what they will do before they do it, my EX use to hate that lol Thank you my friend.

Hello Bluepatch I think when people say this they are talking about what you show them, your behavior you may be around a person so much you get an idea of what makes them tick, these things are different then actually knowing someone, to get inside someone head is impossible, sometimes I say to myself I know what my grandson will do, he always amazes me, I use to feel bad but I quickly realized this is impossible as young as 7 you would think it would be easy to actually know them NOT,I believe that once our brain is developed we become unique,that makes us one of a kind. "the mind is a terrible thing to waste" this saying is truer to me now then when I first heard it years ago.

well it helps that they are my 2 virgos and im a virgo 2 !! we are some strange ones.

Hello my friend Well this is true, there could be a good chance that you do actually know each other inside and out, most virgos seem to be alot alike, its crazy because me and my daughter both seem to attract virgo men 1 was amazing but we were young so it did not work, the other I don't know what planet he came from but it was not earth I use to say to him when is your birthday, are you "sure" no way, never met anyone like him in my life, total opposite of anything or anyone I ever met, glad he is finally out of my life for good, yuk. Thank you my friend.

Hello my friend I like this its funny my daughter works my nerve we are two different virgos she is mean I am nice, I know my daughter ways but can't say for a second I know her better, no way, it would be easy for people to say they know me I am a open book, but people find me strange as well, the only reason I can see is because I am honest and when I say things people look at me like I can't believe she just said that, oh well, you know its true so why should it surprise you, so people don't get me, but I am really easy honestly, my grandson who is 7 I think I think I know him so well, nope he always do the opposite of what I think he is going to do, its funny to know someone you have to really get into their head, I know his ways and things of this nature but lets say my daughter says something I say to myself he will not do that, always wrong I say dangit I give up lol Thank you.

Hello my friend I can honestly say I know no one better than they know themselves, not even my daughter, I sometimes think I know my grandson he is constantly proving me wrong and he is 7, I think this is impossible This is my take I honestly thought I may have a chance to really get into his head, this little boy is very unpredictable I give up on trying to figure him out, I know what he like, don't like all these good things thats pretty much it. Thank you my friend

Hello my friend Exactly, I love advice from others but the end result will still end with my decision, but welcome all words from anyone, just don't tell me what you think I should do advise me, I will weigh my options and go from there. Thank you my friend.

yes weighing views from other people really helps us to decide what we have to do.advice of other people also brings positive effect on our lives but still we are the one to have final decision.