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I think it will take some time for her to adjust. She is not use to the new environment. Whatever you do, do not give in. If she realizes that you will give in every time she cries, she will keep doing it. I could say the same thing with my daughter. I was a first-time mommy so everything was new to me. My thought was that when they cry, I need to do anything I can to just make her be quiet. Usually that would end up in her getting her way. Then, my mom would see it and say that I was using a wrong approach. She said that when you pay attention to their behavior, they continue it. So, henever she would cry or throw her tantrums, I would ignore it. If it didn't stop, I would take away her toys one at a time and explain to her why I was doing it. Now, she is well-behaved. She still has occasional moments, but I have learned that talking to her in a very calm manner has helped. I never let her see that her behavior is too much for me to handle. No matter how ridiculous things may get, show your daughter that you love her, but you are in control. Good luck!

Ignore, ignore, ignore. Give her a verbal warning once or twice about how you're done with it and you don't want to hear it anymore because she is fine and will continue to be fine. After the warnings, don't acknowledge it anymore. Go about your business and just let her cry. It will work but she must see that you truly aren't giving in and that you aren't paying attention. Also, sitting her down away from toys or other items that can be a distraction, getting down on your knees so you can look into her face and telling her that enough is enough there is no need to cry helps too. Once you tell her that she needs to finish, let her know that she can leave the spot at any time once she's calmed down. If she continues to cry and try to leave, warn her once, put her back and the other times if she continues, just continue to place her back without speaking. It will work eventually but it will take patience.

Time out is a seperation form the person you love the most. This really works. Try it.

Hi I totally agree with you and understand that it can be very frustrating. I didnt have that trouble with my son but unfortunately my daughter, who is yet to complete 2, behaves in a similar manner. I didnt have any problem with my son coz I was alone in a different city. Incase with my daughter, I live with my in-laws and they wouldnt like me scolding or punishing my daughter. They would interfere at that time and now my daughter knows that even if she is at fault she will be rescued. So I have told them not to say a word when I am dealing with the kids and trying to control their behaviour and discipline them...You need to be the same and explain why they need to stay out of it, its for the child in the end...Yeah I agree that you need to ignore your daughter's cries and tantrums, though its very difficult and gets to you, or she will manipulate you which would be a disaster...its not easy to stay calm in such situations but you will have to develop that...all the best and hey you will definately get thru it...Neera

I read a parenting article yesterday that, actually 2 years old is the very first time a kid rebel. Maybe your girl is getting her rebel time sooner than 2 years old. It is stated that at this time, the kid will like to show her temper by crying (of not what she used to be) and even started to against what parents said. My girl is behaving that now. She also gave me fake cry when she can't get the things she wants. I will choose to ignore her and walked away from the scene. Once she stop crying, I will explain to her about why I did not give in. Of course my daughter do cry when she falls down or hurt, but she able to stop crying after I count from one to ten. It seems like she is able to calm down after she heard the counting from me. I will usually do it slowly and it worked most of the time.