Mother /Son Relationship

I totally agree with you, this is a universal truth and the boys are affected much in case of choosing one of the 2 most important ladies.In order to have only one choice of choosing their girl friends.while the mother is left alone.many times the guy leaves his mother and lives separately with his wife. But I think,in this the girl has a very important role to play to unite the members and understand the feelings of a mother rather than getting reccomendations from the guy.

Yeah mother is only the person who sacrifices everything for her child.She does everything to make her child happy.But as I see when her son grows older he get married & almost mother-son relationship ends.The son even don't care of her mon anymore.He starts his own life away from his parants.I wonder why these changes occur after marriage.Have the newly married girl encourage him to do so?So I suggest you just don't do anything that break their lovely relationship.You can also behave her as your own mom.

I am a prospective mother-in-law and I well remember the time when I got married, my feelings at that point of time and also my mother-in-law.THere is a thin dividing line between domination and love but this would depend on the man concerned.The man always is faced with a tough situation and whoever is more understanding gets better peace of mind[between the two women].As a mother, I realise one important factor--namely-my son needs a girl and I cannot give the same joy of togetherness that my daughterinlaw can give him .[If I have such insecurties I should not wish that my son get married at all.]--AS a young girl. you be aware of this fact and be contented with this thought.Even if your motherinlaw feels insecure you do not worry.If you are good to your man, he would always give you a special place in his heart for you.You do not eb the cause of any conflict .Ultimately every mother would want to see her son happy.Things would fall into place and do not worry. Once a newly married young girl told me[I asked her for advice like what you are asking in this forum] that there is a bit of wariness on both sides as to how the other person wold view things. She said that problems arise only out of this extra caution and it would not be too bad if you just go about in in a free and friendly manner. You are pretty understanding and you allow your man to take whatever decision he wishes to take.Only if you try to impose your will on him, the problems would start.In my house my husband always had the say and I would follow him implicitly, because he is a very fair person.

you will have the same feeling when u become a mother of a son in ur future and ur son becoming a boyfriend of some girl.. i am very young to respond to this discussion, i am a boy of 19, anyhow i have some ideas, i dont have any girl friend and i dont even have any girls as friends, because, i feel very shy to talk with any girl in the real world and i was raised in that way...i always follow my mommy .. i always follow my mommy's words...i will marry a girl of my mommy's choice, so there wont be any breakdown between the bride and my mommy.. now to ur case, u said that u are the girlfriend, there is no problem in this relationship, just go to ur lovers house and see his mommy and talk with her and do all the things she wanted to have...its usual that u and ur boyfriend going to cinemas and shopping malls, so i do say that u take his mommy along with u to social networking place once in a week or a month..then she will socialize with u...then u will not face any domination problem... happy to respond.. hapy mylotting...

Yes its true that mother-son relationship is a vital relationship because in that a good personalities starts. But what happen to some parents who ignore their offspring. What could be the reason for it. Could it be because of poverty or because the mother itself don't have the compassion towards its children. There are lots of irresponsible parents nowadays. They don't care much for their kids. The question is why this people engage in giving a birth of a child when they don't care for it or they don't have the qualities of being a good mother.

Hee,hee......awfully difficult situation here- for both the girl and the mother! Yep! Thin lines are always drawn, That's because you and the mother of the boy draw these. There are no thin lines. We creat them from nowhere. You seem to be a nice girl and I believe, understanding too, so if you love that boy, really love him, then make him feel comfortable - that should solve momma's side of this problem. You may have to change your attitude and adapt yourself to not a submissive, but caring, firm, strong and wonderful person. I may sound a bit harsh, but if you like something, anything, it does come at a price. Doesn't it? Good luck and have a lovely relationship.

I have trouble with the realtionship with my son. He is just a bit difficult. I think that he needs to speak to me once a week, but he is older 21 and doesnt feel he needs a mother figure anymore. I just want to find out what he is doing in his life. i am not the enemy. I dont think I am trying to dominate him.

I do not know what to say because my son is just a baby about to turn 1 year old next month. Maybe I will have that feeling 25 years from now. But then I as a mom believes that we do not own our child. We are only their guide and the person whom they owe their life with. Anyway at first it may be hard to accept reality that time will come that your precious one will start building his own family. You may be left alone and that is why a husband is equally important as your son is. I will be there no matter what for my son and will learn to accept whatever his plan is for his life. As long as it is for his own good and as long as it will make him happy then I should be left with no worries. Time heal all wounds and sadness. And maybe time will still allow a mom and a son to be back again.

It's true. Once another woman walk into their son's life, mother will have a different feeling. I think she's feeling that she's no longer important to her son since he has to choose between two woman now. At least my mom feel that way when my brother get married. I think both girlfriend and mother need to cooperate. The mother need to give space and time to know the new woman in the son's life. The girlfriend need to show the mother that her appearance is not to take him away but to be a part of the family.

TRUST !! Trust is the word you need to work on. If you feel on the whole your MIL is a nice lady, trust her. She is always for the good of her son and you. Since she immensely loves her son, she cannot harm or hurt you on whom her son is dependent on. You only need to understand this and have trust in your husband and MIL. Sit back and appreciate and enjoy the lovely relationship of a mother and son. You can do that for your son tomorrow, who will thoroughly enjoy too.