Did your first love dies? I mean the feeling! not the person.
By ivygrey
@ivygrey (550)
Philippines
September 16, 2009 3:04am CST
I saw my first boyfriend last Sunday and in many years in my life I've always wanted to know how will I react or what will I feel in this situation. So how was it?? NOthing!! nada! zero! I was just shocked and smiled, I was really expecting more, like I might feel the same feelings all over again, but really..... nothing. I think I just proved to myself how much I love my husband! how about you? Have you been in this kind of situation?
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10 responses
@airakumar (1553)
• India
16 Sep 09
Love is a choice first, a feeling second. In my life, the feelings that come back to me when I make loving choices are more magical and awe-inspiring than I ever dreamed possible. This simple truth (a truth to me, that is) has made life so much simpler, and easy - and “genuine love”, I believe, IS easy and simple. I often use the phrase “love is so simple, even a child can do it” as a reality check for me. Our children can give us some of the greatest lessons about love, when we let them. The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get; the less sharp, bright and exciting the falling in love experience is. Some couples continue their relationships and get married; some fall apart. It’s reasonable to say that more clothes in the closet and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of the falling in love phase, but it also can be the beginning of genuine love.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
8 Jan 10
if you had bitter experiences between you and your lover and the fault was on his side,then it is no wonder you don't feel anything positive seeing him again.What if the case if it is vice versa?I have the same love for my first and last girl,I loved so much but couldn't join her hands due to social reasons.I still have the same warmth in my heart,reserved for her.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
Haven’t been in a relationship in my whole life. What I can share is my first crush. Loser. I remember my first crush is JC Bonnin of Bagets LOl. It fades away after JC Bonnin linked to I don’t remember the name of the girl LOL. I had my very huge crush which I equaled to love when I was in grade five. He was my classmate. We are not close as he belongs to different group. I was disappointed because for all the time we were classmates, I didn’t have a chance to be friends with him. During my highschool and college and even that I am now working I still remember him and reminisced with what happened in the past. Last 2008 I got the chance to saw him on friendster, added him as one of my friend, accepted me and we communicate a little there. After that I realized I get over him, I didn’t like him anymore. I don’t know what has happen, the spark was gone. I remember because I miss him dearly before, I researched him patiently on friendster and when I stop searching I found him. Now I just smiled when I remembered him. I don’t know the explanation behind, but what I believe when the spark is gone the feeling is about to end.
@bearound (132)
• China
17 Sep 09
It is quite normal that the feeling of somebody is changing even some ordinary freinds you have not met for many years.You lost the strong loving feeling of your first boyfreind is not strange.It can happen to any of us.I think the most important things is we can not lose our love in our heart. It doesn't depend on who you gonna love or being love.
@buping (952)
• China
17 Sep 09
i completely understand the situation you occured. and i have so much feelings about this topic, i imagined many times and how we would say to each other,maybe in street, shopping,etc. but for now, i have not meet him since we aparted. but i have no feelings to him any more.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I actually had the opportunity to date my first boyfriend years later after I went thru a divorce. We were so young when we dated and it was all so innocent. It was cool to re-connect with him but I will say that it was not the same. We were still good friends and still are but the romance didn't happen.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
it is hard for that feeling to fade specially i am still single. maybe i could forget my first love when i have already a new love to start life again.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
16 Sep 09
Yes i have no feel about my first boyfriend now . When we broke up a few years ago i was very sad and cried all the time . I'd thought that i would never forget him and was hard to find a guy as good as him. I'm so wrong. With time passing by i begin to realize that my first boyfriend is not what i want and i'm lucky to meet my hubby and we are quite happy now.
@alwayzzcitra (1861)
• Indonesia
16 Sep 09
Your post really tickles me! Lol. Nope, my first love is still alive, in fact I married him last year, so the feeling is still exist. Well, even if I have an ex, I don't think I could handle that situation as good as you can. I imagine it would be very awkward and I may act ridiculously, especially I were still single and he was like married with a gorgeous wife and have beautiful kids. I might not have the love left, but the sense of competition and maybe jealousy would be there.