who should spend the money?

Sometimes one person in the relationship is better with finances than the other. As long as the decision is mutual, the financial person should do it. Otherwise the decisions should come from both.

I think both should be in charge, but if one person is irresponsible and does not have good control over spending then it should be the one that can spend wiser. I am a two worker family and both of us are in charge. I tend to spend and never think about the future so I always ask before I spend.

See my parents had an ideal arrangement, My mother took care of the home department so whatever expenses have to be done she used to decide and my father took care of outside expenses.

My husband does not want to be bothered with the financial stuff. I am an accountant, so I understand the finances, but sometimes I wish he would help me out a little more with those things. I think both should contribute to the decisions for some things.