Do you always expect for your best friend to help you?

Hi, Just because a good, best friend cant always help dont mean they stop caring about there friend, some things are just out of our control to help, sometimes friends just good listeners, and do give there friendly advice. I myself dont have many friends because to much to put out there to trust all over again, so im set with the 2-3 friends I have and happy with that. the way I see it if there no longer your friend, yes it does hurt I do know this, say OH WELL THERE NOT WORTHY OF MYSELF OR MY TIME TO GIVE TO BE THERE FRIEND.THERE LOSS YOUR GAIN. Never sleep with your friend that dont work out too, I done that myself once and I felt ackward and really didnt want to be around him anymore he tried to be around me but I felt uncomfortable because it was an accident we slept together, but once cross that border cant change what will be. im thinking maybe u did that urself? but dont quote me. goodluck and im sure you have other friends that are with you to suuport you. U have many friends here with mylot im sure will converse with you, like meself. chin up and dont give up hope. :) Renee: Maine

You know, whenever I help out my friends, and they thank me, I always tell them - "No need to thank me, What are friends for?" And i have the same expectations from my friends.. I go to my friends with the expectation that they would help me, not to inform them of my problem.. But, there would be cases when friends just cannot help, no matter how genuine they are. In such circumstances, they should be available atleast as a moral support or as a shoulder to cry on.. Cheers!!

okey i see my freinds like a freind not like a people that must help me in anytime. that's not good because we have to rember that they have problems to and and i talk to my friends i tell them my problems but i didn't ask them to help me i ask them to stay by my and tell my what to do and i will do it. but i don't tell them to do it for me. my mom always said that have born alone and we must do it if it is alone we have to do it alone. if that freinds is by my i will be most stronger.

No, I never depend on anybody as long as I could solve and think my way out of my problem. I am better of to resolve it by myself than disturbing my bestfriend or other people. I would only ask for their help in extreme cases where i feel to the point of being hopeless and depress.

I would not always ask my friend for help as soon as i get a trouble.First i would try my best to cope with the problem.If the problem i encounter was really far beyond my abilities that i can't solve it by myself.Then i would share the difficulty with them.as we know many hands will make the flame brighter.

yes i share all my problems with my friends but asking for a help from them is the last thing i will do. as long as i can i usually fix my own problems on my own.

Sometimes another person may not understand your problem. Perhaps they have not experienced the same things as you. So, often times, another person will lend an ear: the purpose, they listen, and you talk, netting in you thinking through the problem, and making a valid choice for yourself.

I don't expect anything from anybody! I hope they'd help me in my time of need but I don't expect it. After all, we all have our own lives to live and take care of so I can't expect anybody to just drop what they're doing and come to my aid. Besides, when one expects something from someone, chances are they'll be disappointed and one can't be disappointed when they don't expect something. Hope that makes sense! lol

Im 53 and dont have to worry about parents. I just count on myself mostly to do stuff. I also dont like anyone to count on me. An occasional favor or exchange of favors is cool.

Yes,most of the time, I expect them to help me and I am also ready when they need me. I have only one best friend and I must tell you that he had had helped me a lot and today I have his Rs 4000 with me which I need to pay him back. I took it from him in the month of April and it is September but I couldn't return it back to him. I think I will be returning it to him in the month of November!

I don't expect anything to my best friend to help. Because my views is that if they want to help they can make it. I don't like them to bother about my problem or anything that will bother me. In times of trials we have face in life. That is to measure how our friend extent their helping hand if they really our friends but not expect for them to help you..have a nice day!

When I am in a problem or trouble I go to my friends and tell them my problems and ask for advise but I don't take it as granted that they would help me because they might have their constraints.The only reason why I don't expect too much from my friends is if I don't get what I expected i would be very disappointed and might think that they are not my friends.They may have some genuine reasons for not helping me. I cannot judge their friendship just because they didn't help me out. And at the same time if they are finding excuses everytime I turn to them then it simply means they are not my friends so its useless in depending on such friends...

I never had a best friend. I had a lot of friends, yes, but never a best friend. That's why I don't think there's any reason for me to expect anything from friends, or from anyone in particular, not even family or relatives. I believe more in each man being on his own and should learn to be because eventually, in the end, we're left all on our own. Besides, everyone's got to live their own lives. At some points, people may help us out. Maybe out of obligation as with family and relatives, or probably out of compassion or the urge to do so as with kind enough strangers. That's why whenever I come across some person I spend some time with, I never expect anything. I'll do what I can for anyone but I don't have to expect them to return the favor. Most people just receive so much more than they could give which makes me so cynical about mutual relationships. Most even expect and demand so much, masking these qualities with concern. Ha ha, I'm sorry for being so negative. Life just turns you bitter sometimes.

Hi hotsummer!!! How are you doing! I do not require the people close to me or my bestfriend to help me come out of my problem. For me it is enough that they listened and showed their concern on me. We cannot expect them to be always there on our side for they have their own lives as well. They might have what we need but they may be saving it for their own personal needs. We should try to understand their reasons as well. Everything has its limitations. We cannot judge our friend as "not a real friend" if they are unable to help us.

Dear friend, I do usually tell most of my feeling to my close friends actually we share our feelings that could be shared well. But I would avoid them to hurt, may to keep away those things I find they could find it difficult to help even if they want to. Still my best friends always helped me lot according to their capabilities.

I have a famous saying that "How you treat another, you will receive the same treat by another". So I think we should have treat with other as well as yourself. Sometimes, friends can help me but they can't help if I don't help them. Please help each other if you can.

My best friend is also my life partner and we help and support each other daily.

if my friends don't help me,i don't think they are not my friends any more.but i won't help him if they are in the same situation as me. but not often.that is not good for the friendship.

dnt thin it is a good idea to depend on the best friends when ever we are in any kind of trouble.. i think we should always try to solve the problem by our selves.. yeah friends who come to help us by themselves should be appreciated but that doesnt mean that we should always take help from them.. its leike being a paracite than bing a good friend.. lending a helping hand is ofcourse a great quality of a good friend.. but taking all those helps just because our friend is offering a help is not at all quality of a good friend.. right?

I don't depend on them. If they can't help that's okay. I can try at least to do it myself. So if I can't do it on my own than I can find somebody else to help. I just go through anybody I know that could help.