A limelight or a behind-the-curtain person? What are you?
By mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
September 16, 2009 5:27am CST
I cannot sing but I have a strong music sense, I cannot dance well but I have a good number sense, I have strong taste buds if not culinary skills. I have always been a background person - shy, hiding, do not want to come to foreground. That makes me a relatively good task master.
What are you, a limelight person, a honey bee, who cannot help atracting people or a behind-the-curtain person, who shies off from the game and glory?
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34 responses
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
16 Sep 09
I should say that I do not belong to both categories mimpi dear-[changed photo in avataar?]
I do not go after limelight ;neither I am too active everywhere.In certain groups where I can let my hair down I used to sing and dance and make merry[I would organize games, sing film songs, win anthaksharis with a lot of gusto and enthusiasm-my cousin called me kalagala once[Tamil meaning is equivalent to bubbly].
But otherewise, I would just make easy conversation with anyone and help around where needed[ in a common household function etc..,]I do not go after limelight but where it was given to me I could easily shine and steal the show.I am a bit outgoing with select people though not everyone.[In my in-laws' place I was a fairly docile person]
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
16 Sep 09
For eg When I attended my niece's wedding in the year 1998 I was the star in the group--fooling around, making up songs , leading the group etc..,
Similarly in the year 2005 when I attended another niece's wedding reception at her inlaws' place, someone requested me to sing a song in the receptiona nd I immediately did it with mike in hand.If someone asks me to do something I would immediately do it.THat is all.No shyness at that point of time.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 09
I have an ear for the good music and I cant sing but can dance.
I am a connoisseur of good food.Well I do not have to be a cook for that.
And I make up my inabilities with my participation in all the activities and organizing the events.
And I have never been a background person because I am very loud and boisterous.That makes people to flock me.
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@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 09
I guess you are saying you are the background person. In other words, an enabler of sorts. I am not good in playing musical instruments but I can sing. On doing work, there are times I stay in the background. At other times, I will take clear leadership roles! So we cannot be broad-brushed on a blanket basis. All of us are different;each with our hidden talents and giftings.
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@fan_philo (227)
• India
17 Sep 09
I am behind the curtain personeven i feel very nervous when i meet the persons or go to stage so i avoid all this and sit quietly in a cornier and watch.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
16 Sep 09
I've been in the limelight related to certain cultural and organisational activities, but must say did not quite find myself fitting into the role too well. I found myself much more comfortable as you have put it behind the curtains, co-ordinating, helping and seeing things go off well.
A good reason why i try and avoid the limelight is because i'm not comfortable with a hundred set of eyes on me and also probalbly because my first few experiences did have some embarassing moments, which i can't seem to forget.
So when it comes to doing something, i'm not usally the one sticking my hand up first.
@derek_a (10873)
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16 Sep 09
I reckon I have been both types of person during my life. When I was a kid, I would rather just be in the background. I don't think it was shyness so much, as I tended not to join a conversation if I didn't know what the people were talking about.
I then became a musician and joined a band, and was soon singing background harmonies and then one day somebody said I had a good voice, so I practiced a few songs and started singing solo.
I stopped being a professional musician when I had to be responsible for a family and re-trained as a therapist and have been doing that ever since. Now I can talk to anybody and have even lead self-development groups.
In my spare time though, I prefer to be on my own, or with my wife. I just prefer things that way I guess. I have proved my own abilities to myself during my life, which was important to me, but now I can get to choose how I wish to be.. - Derek
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Sep 09
Then you could be a great support person.
I've been a support person at work for most of my life. I've watched all the jokers talk their way in and out of classy jobs and failures as they all try to be leaders with the big salaries.
I, too, know more and do more than most of the workers in my department.
That has been so for over 20 years !
Welcome to the Support Division !
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I would also love to be invisible in anything so I can say that I am those "behind-the-curtain, behind-the-stage, behind-the-camera" kinda person. I am more comfortable in the background and Im actually satisfied being just a support to my friends when they get to be in the limelight. Sure I can say that I cannot avoid being in the limelight at times because my friends are also supportive of me. When I do a good work, they kinda push me into the limelight and I get recognized for my efforts, which is nice also. But if it really were up to me Id just prefer being in the background.
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@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I used to be so shy when i was younger but as i matured i learned how to deal with that shyness and had developed my self-confidence. I can not say that i am a limelight person but being the leader of our church organization here and my job working as one of the secretarial staff of the city council, sure helped me develop confidence. Facing a big crowd isn't scary to me now, i mean my hands and knees no longer shake if i have to speak or dance or sing during gatherings. May it be a church gathering, an office party and a meeting or hearing which i am required to attend.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 09
Hi mimpi I am a person like honey bee.. I will be involved in one or the other things to work.. I dont like to sit idle.. So in my free time I do myloting to keep myself busy lol..
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hello Mim. Since I am shy by nature, I would rather remain in the background that be at the forefront...or in the limelight.
Every now and then, while it is nice to "imagine" fame or the spotlight, from all that I see of those who are truly famous, they suffer.
So I will be content to remain in the background!
Karen
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@balasri (26537)
• India
21 Nov 09
I always have all the spot lights focussed on me.Well I don,t strive for that.May be my gregarious and outspoken nature attracts the attention of the people wherever I am.I like to lead the events and help in organizing any party or event.It is my nature to make any place I present lit with laughter and merriment.Last year I was selected the man of the evening in the New year eve events at Hotel residency Chennai.It happens everywhere I go.I am definitely not the behind the curtain person.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
20 Sep 09
I'm a little bit of both. I like the limelight if I am confident about what I am doing....no singing on stage for me...but I enjoy dancing on stage. At the same time, I am also a behind-the-curtain person and love organizing stuff without really being out there in the limelight. Even though I do enjoy being in the limelight, I am quite shy of the comments I receive later even when they are comments of appreciation.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
21 Nov 09
I think i have the same nature as you.I am a behind the person person but i too got very good skills.Actually i have also got a part to succeed from my dad as a pastor when he retires from the church so i need to prepare myself right now.Right now i am a shy hiding person but i pray to God to give me strength so that i stand in front of many people and preach the word.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
21 Sep 09
Kemunasen!
I would have to describe myself as a behind-the-curtain person. I too love singing but the good Lord has not given me a good voice. Though I kind of like my voice, especially when singing in the shower. In a group I'm just to shy to sing in case my voice is even worse than I think.
I also love to dance but again my body doesn't seem to have a nice rhythm like others seem to have. So at parties I kind hold back from dancing. I go home wishing that I could be less shy and have danced more. Though at home I have fun dancing alone. At dances I'm always glad when someone drags me to the dance floor.
Yeah, I guess I prefer singing and dancing in the shadows rather than under the spotlight. But one day!
@babyjesus (277)
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22 Sep 09
When i was young i was very shy and i just don't want to people stare or look at me. I said to myself that i need to reinvent myself to give me confidence. I joined in clubs and plays in school just to give me confidence to face people to know how to talk to others without getting the red face. Finally i did it i was able to gain confidence but not necessarity in the limelight. SHould there be any opportunity to be there in the limelight, why not but i also like working behind the curtain because its also challenging
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I've always been fairly shy as well. I like doing things, but I don't like the attention that being in the lime light gives you. I would love to be rich, but definately not famous. I don't like to be scrutinized on everything and so often that ends up happening when in the lime light.