should i quit and just get a job?
By femaleinohio
@femaleinohio (10)
United States
September 16, 2009 8:14am CST
I have been going to school on and off since 2003 and still have not received any type of degree. I just feel really dumb and I'm really sick of all the homework. My family does not always make it easy for me to study or do homework. I have had many family related issues that have caused me to have to quit in the middle of a semester and to be honest, i am just burned out. I'm sick of people asking me When u gonna graduate? I owe financial aid out the butt, plus i do have a personal loan for school that i will have to pay back. Maybe i am just whining, but i am so confused, i feel like a failure and i cant seem to get over it.
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21 responses
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
8 Dec 09
I don't think that you should give up on school. With you going to school could be a great asset to your life in the future. Although it may not seem that way right now. No matter how long it takes you. Don't let people get you into thinking that you spending all this time is school is a waste of time and that you are taking too long to graduate. Maybe though you should look for a part time job to help pay back some of your loans while you're attending school, if you think you can handle it. I know how it can be to fall behind on your school loans, I have and I'm finished with school with no job, but I am greatful for the training that I have had so that I can be able to find a really good job. Good luck.
@charlies2805 (777)
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19 Sep 09
If you already know that it's failure, then I really suggest you TO GO FIX IT RIGHT NOW! Don't listen to those people because nobody knows you best but you yourself. If you can still afford it, AND if you still want to continue your education, then go for one. There will be word 'Late' if you really want to finish it. =) Hope I can help.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
19 Sep 09
Hey,
Ok just continue your school and just don't give up. You aren't dumb, I know your pain I also have been doing school for 6 years now. I should have finished last year, but I had to repeat a year so I am doing that. All of my friends are gone, and I am the only one left. But I never gave up, and I am still doing it! You should never give up, finish your study!! Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!
@qqyyzk469 (108)
• China
18 Sep 09
Hi,do not quit!
Finish your study,and it is important for everyone.The chance of study is the things you should fight for,do not give up!Insist and be confident that you can do it.You know,if you quit,you will be nobody,and you do not,all difficulties will pass.
So,do not quit.
good luck.
@dhart87 (53)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Hi femaleinohio
I think you should just sit down to yourself in a quiet area and think about what it is you really want to do. I understand what you are going through because I have two little kids age 3 and 1. And, sometimes it gets very stressful on me having to be a single mom and really not having help. But, keep a focus and clear mind and do not give up and I promise you everything will work out in due time. Everything takes time but when you set your mind to do something and stay on a straight path it will pay off. Look at Oprah, Bill Gates, or Diddy, they got to where they at by never giving up and staying focus.
@gOzaru (20)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 09
Hi I'm William.
I see your problem..
I think you need to take a recreation for your self even it is just for three days.
Take a permission to your teacher.
And do what do you want to do in the deepest of your heart..
Sometimes when you feel relaxed, the next day you will be able to continue your life.
But if you still confuse about the financial aid, why don't you try to work part time? If you don't have any skills, it's alright. Everyone has its first time.
But the most important things to go on is how you care about your self first.
If you've done it, believe me you are already setting the start.
GBU, femaleinohio
William
@ninelysse (12)
• United States
16 Sep 09
If you really want to persue a career that requires a degree, then I say stay. Not only will you be getting your dream job but it will also be easier to pay off your loan.
If not, I say quit and get a job. Work for awhile and save money. Try to pay off your loan as soon as possible. Once you're stable, you can decide to go back but this time you will have the money to support your educational needs.
@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Don't fret. It can get better. This I know personally, due have been in those shoes. What exactly are you studying? What type of degree do you desire? I realized I want to be a phlebotomist many moons ago (I'm 35). I went to a 2yr school after graduating. That just wasn't for me. I get bored easily. I just wanted to draw blood, but had to do medical assisting to get there(so I thought). Anyway, long story short, I finally (many moons later)went to Portage Lakes Career Center and obtained my phlebotomy license. But of course that was after an attempt to go to Akron U (yes, I live in Ohio). The attempt wasn't necessarily failed by me, my grades and attendance were good. However, my husband at the time got ill and I had to quit school to take care of him and my children(took on a third job). Then somewhere down the road of not getting hired as a phlebotomist and renewing my license for two years ($200 to renew) I decided I needed something else. So, I was inspired by my oldest child and ex-husband to go to school for criminal justice. I went to Kaplan online. I loved it. I was on the Deans list and everything. However, yet again my education was put on hold because of some man in my life. My fiance had me so stressed out to the point I had to go to therapy and plus deal with the fact that no wedding was going to happen, I had to put school onl hold. So, now my dreams of having a criminal justice degree to do intakes in the juvenile facility with my phlebotomy license and now STNA license is in layaway, yet again.
So, I'm happily working in my STNA career and doing sales on the side. The point is, college will always be there. Kaplan University is great. In fact they just opened an admissions office in downtown Akron (FYI). That sure makes it easier for submitting admission papers. But whatever it is you are striving for, remember it's ok to break it up in sections. You don't have to do it all at once, some people burn out that way.
The beauty of college: It's always There
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Sep 09
you are not a failure. You definitly are not a failure. I am guessing that you are very young and just don't know for sure what you want in your life. It's ok. Maybe taking a break from school and working will lead you in the right direction...who know's? Sounds as if you are trying too hard to please everyone but yourself. Follow your heart.
@nicholasxyhc (1)
• China
17 Sep 09
hey man, just quit it! Because u have no idea what you are doing there for. I think the course u majors do not interestes u very much but just for a degree. If so, u had spent 6 years on the boring days with out get anything usefull, so why do not u quit and look for a better job which isn't the goal that u hope to get degree from school for?
@renea129 (11)
• United States
17 Sep 09
You need to find something different then. Getting a CNA certificate could be a start. Check with your local colleges, and there could be a cna program where you graduate in 6 weeks or less. Only way to pay off your financial aid is if you get a good job. But, quit feeling sorry for yourself and just do what you have to do and don't let anyone get in your way. You need that education!
@satan88 (584)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
16 Sep 09
Never give up on your dreams. I've been in school since 2006 and i hope to graduate on 2011. but if i have to stay longer i will. I'd love to get a good job and enjoy life some day but right now i like school. ONce you leave you'll miss it.
@alatecablebill (519)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
we are on the same boat. i have been studying and working on and off for the last 5 years i think. i don't have a college degree yet. what happens is that i go back to school, then i get tired of it, i decide to look for a job, i find a job then i decide to go back to school again, then i get tired of school again so i just focus on my job, etc etc. it's a cycle. i know i am not dumb. you are not dumb too. just do whatever you feel like doing now. it's not a good idea to force yourself to do something that you don't feel like doing. that takes the fun out of your life. good luck to you.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
QUIT. Im surprised you didnt think of it earlier. If you keep paying for classes that you cant graduate from becuase something happens and you have to quit. Thats a huge sign that you need to quit for a while. If i was you, id start paying back the loans, and then think about going back, or take one course at a time so I can graduate but work at the same time. Im in the same boat I missed alot of school and work becuase I had pneumonia, and realized I needed to work first if I didnt want to be in massive debt. So I plan to take a couple online courses. That way I am slowly working towards graduating, it would be a SLOWER process, but atleast you would be on your way.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
16 Sep 09
Well in this situation if you feel you cann't go on with your study then getting a job is quite reasonable and good for you. Please don't look down upon yourself . A lot of are not good at school but they did work well . If my son in the future doesn't like to study at school i think it's ok for him to try to find some jobs and then studying while working at the same time.
@vinocitd (218)
• India
16 Sep 09
Never quit till u get the success try and try until u get the success , u can get a job after u complete your degree, u can't complete u r degree if u join the job,
my suggestion is to complete the degree
@prikayjo2436 (699)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Hey femaleinohio!
Well my honest opinion is for you not to quit... It might be hard for you now, but it will benefit you and your family in the future... You have a sense of security with a degree and job hunting should be easier on you! If it is to hard just take a whole semester off to cool down and just make sure that you go back! That is what happened to me! I only have a few credits to graduate and as soon as I took a few semesters off I have not gone back! So don't let this happen to you!
@MikaOkle (43)
•
16 Sep 09
One day a boy came t her mother and said I will not go to garden to play football now,his mother took it for grnted and said ok your wish.Next day he again came to her and said I will not attend music class now and her mother responded same.His denial from activities kept goin and once he told that he dint want to live any more.His mother was not there to listen him because he denied to live with her many days ago.
Life is the name of struggle and need to win every time not to escape from it..OK.