Im a young and spirited girl with all guy friends. I dontlike girls. We dont mix
@bri_baaaby_09 (2)
United States
September 16, 2009 10:35pm CST
I have a boyfriend who htes the fact that all my friends are guys. He says.. guys are guys and not ever just friends. I dont know how to get him to understand that that thought of me and another girl hanging out is... gross. I think most girls are too argumentative, bossy, and drama filled. Guys are laid back. dont hold grudges, and really fun to be around! i dont see that harm. I let all my guy friends know that i have a bpyfriend and that respect that. Have never tried to do anything with me. But my boyfriend seems to think differently.
5 responses
@agirnow (157)
• France
17 Sep 09
This is a kind of sensitive subject, especially when you take your fella's background into consideration. I feel kind of the same way you do... not that girls are gross, but I relate a lot better with guys because of my calm nature and because I grew up with brothers and no sisters. My husband voices worries about my being too friendly with guys, but he also realizes that that is part of who I am and he just wants to me be aware that most guys can't don't have strictly platonic relationships with girls. Also, I think that he has never really had a girl that he was best friends with before me so that makes it hard for him to understand too.
Explain your side to your boyfriend and ask him to try to be understanding. Maybe cut back the amount of one-on-one time you spend with other guys, so that he doesn't worry that you are making out while he's not there and reassure him that he is the one you want to be with. It might make him feel better if you didn't talk too much about any one in particular more than the others. It is natural for a guy to be a little jealous and it can be kind of sexy sometimes.
Don't let him or your friends ruin your relationships with any of them. If he can't cope even after you have made an effort to make him more comfortable, do not give up your friends for him... that is not what a good boyfriend does to his girlfriend, but don't kick him to the curb before you try. Relationships are about compromise.
Good luck!
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I have aways had a lot of fellows as well as women as friends. Back in the day, I worked in an occupation where there were not a lot of women. I always made sure I kept my signicant other (especially after I got married) in the loop and made sure he knew all of my friends and they knew him. I also kept girl friends and wives in the mix. That did away with the jealousy factor on all sides.
I'm sorry you think MOST girls are argumentative, bossy and drama filled. I think you have had close encounters of a bad kind with some bad actors. There are some women like that, but let us hope, not a majority.
@jenniely (41)
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17 Sep 09
I understand what you feel bemuse I also have a lot of guy friends. I think your boyfriend just taking care of you It's really obvious that he don't trust your friends but it's normal. If you really love your boyfriend you will do what he wants maybe he think that your guy friends are not good for you, I'm sure your friends will understand you if you don't go out that much with them.