Do you make friends before you court a girl/guy?
@darknessfalls (180)
Philippines
September 17, 2009 12:15am CST
I had been very confused with this question for a while now. Just recently, a professor of mine asked us to list the steps in choosing a girl which we would like to marry. After he had tallied all our answers, he began to explain that becoming friends with the girl you like is not something one should do as it suggest that you are only using that friendship to be close to her. He suggested if ever we had chosen the girl whom we love it is best to began earlier. He also specified that the reason for dating for the two of you to get to know each other. What are your opinions in this? Do you think that making friends with the girl/guy you like is inappropriate?
4 responses
@darknessfalls (180)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Well, actually he was proposing the opposite which is going directly to lovers...:)I'm a guy but I still haven't court a girl. It may be weird but I'm not yet that ready to fill in a girl's need...plus, it isn't my nature to court a girl(Not yet though). They kinda appear on their own.
@azraemusica (5)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
Hi elsmarie. :)
Anyways, it is awkward for a girl to court a guy. :D
@azraemusica (5)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
For me, it is better if you would be friends with a girl because you can get to know her attitude more. :) and AFAIK, one way or another, the best of friends(i mean, a guy and a girl) will still fall in love with each other in the right time. :D
And another thing is, it is not right if you would fall in love someone that you would be dating without first being friends with him/her because you would only get to see the person's best personality.
So the bottomline is, if you would want to court somebody, try to be friends with her and get to know more about her positive and negative side. You can't be too sure, ayt? :)
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
17 Sep 09
Some of the happiest marriages I've known are between people who first formed a sound friendship which developed into more personal feelings.
I have been very happily married for almost 50 years and I would have to say my husband has been my best friend for more than 52 years.
Surely, anyone would want his/her wife/husband to be their best friend? When would the friendship develop if not before marriage?
I have always counselled young people that it is far more important to LIKE and RESPECT a prospective life-partner than it is to love one. Love can flare and love can fade and die. If there is a genuine RESPECT and LIKING for a person and a mutual sharing of ideals, philosophies, interests, attitudes, likes and dislikes, then that will develop into love - maybe a genuine love of a friend, but more than likely a genuine and sincere and life-long romantic love.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
yeah.. definitely its a must that you know each other first before you`d be into some relationships because not knowing each other would kinda mean that you`re just infatuated with each other with no involvement of love on it.
