My husband's niece is a brat!
@Weasel_Sponge (1069)
Canada
November 13, 2006 11:05pm CST
My niece on my husband's side is a total brat. She's loud and extremely sarcastic, lazy (and extremely over-weight) and she uses foul language constantly, and her parents let her behave this way. Besides her behaviour, my main problem is that my husband invites the nieces and nephews to spend the weekend at our home once in a while, and right now we're having a big fight over her being allowed to come down and stay with us. Simply put, I do not want her here if she is going to behave this way, but her parents as much as say "she's 17-what do you expect?" and they think it is okay to allow her to behave this way in public. I live in a condo complex (apartments) and I'm embarrassed by her. I don't need her disrupting the lives of other people who live here, and the last time she was here, her mother yelled at me for tellng her that she couldn't behave like a spoilt brat in my home. (Do you see where she gets it from?) Anyway, if it were you, what would you do? I can only reason with her parents so much before I become frustrated, and they always think I am picking on her, which I'm not. I have seen her behave like a decent human being, so I know she is capable of it-she only does it when she thinks she can get away with it, which unfortunately, is quite often.
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4 responses
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
14 Nov 06
I think you and your husband need to sit down and talk this over in a quiet way. You need to make it known to him why you dont want her coming over and see if you guys can come to a compromise. Since he likes having his nieces and nephews over you could probally tell him that they should stay for a shorter period of time like only for 1 day instead of spending the entire weekend. And tell him it will be up to him to correct her and make sure she behaves. Or better still leave him alone for one weekend. And see how he copes with her and the rest. You can have a nice weekend alone or with your family. Best of Luck.
@Weasel_Sponge (1069)
• Canada
14 Nov 06
I was actually thinking of spending a weekend away-I think I just wanted confirmation that it was not just me being spiteful! I should have also added that my husband agrees that our niece behaves poorly, but he leaves the "discipline" up to me, which is the biggest frustration for me. (But she does listen to me, if someone backs me up.) Anyway, I thank you for your reply, and I'll be showing it to my husband and we'll see how it goes. I really do enjoy being around the kids, just not when they feel they can walk all over me.
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 06
i agree with melody, you have to discuss this 1st with your husband and he has to talk to his sister about this, because ur niece bad behave can effect your kids too and its not good.its all because her parent cant not teach them good and if they realize that they have turn their own kid into a monster and her future will be ruins too.
you shouldnt allow her to spent a night at your place again,it could be dangerous for your family
@helpful_ideas (1620)
• United States
17 Nov 06
Your house, your rules. She is a guest and needs to behave as such.
Let her parents know that if she will behave as a proper guest she is welcome in your house any time. If, however, she begins to misbehave, then her parents will need to come pick her up immediately or she will not be allowed to visit again.
I'd even say it in front of her to make certain she understands.
@richdreams (5)
• United States
17 Nov 06
I have a nephew that I love like he's my own, but he's had a hard time in life and so I know at home and at school he has behavior problems. I put it to him like this: If he wants to come to my house (which he enjoys because we do lots of fun stuff his parents never bother to do with him) he's going to follow my rules and he's going to respect my home and myself with none of the language or attitude or he just can't be here. I wouldn't take that behavior from my own child and I certainly won't take it off of someone else's. My teenage daughter knows that when her friends are over the same rules apply.
