will you re-accected your ex who abandoned you?
By buping
@buping (952)
China
September 17, 2009 4:54am CST
hi, fellow mylots. one of my best friend came to a serious problem. she aparted with her ex-boyfriend for nearlly one year, the reason for their apat is that her's ex abandoned her to love another girl. at that time, my friend was in heart-broken. for the last year, she did live her own life. and now the ex come back for her, and she love him right now. do you think whether she would accepted her ex or not?
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4 responses
@involved62 (790)
•
18 Sep 09
Sorry, I am very strict on fidelity. If it happened once, it can happen again and again. I don't think she should get back together with him. There are plenty of fishes in the ocean, so to speak. Surely, she will be able to find someone who is faithful.
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@buping (952)
• China
18 Sep 09
hi, involved. thare are a plenty of fishes in the ocean. that's definitely right. now i know most of us care about fidelity and honest. but there is a social phenomenon, that most of the husbands have no feelings to their wife, and come out for a younger and more beautiful lady. what a pity.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
17 Sep 09
Hello buping :) Well, I can't say with certainty what your best friend should do but I know what I would do. I would not accept back someone that abandoned me to be with another person. I would have lost my faith and trust in him for doing such a thing to me. In spite of my feelings for him, I know that I could never be convinced that they truly wanted to be with me and wasn't just waiting until the "next good thing" came around the corner. I would always be waiting for him to repeat his behavior and leave me again and I wouldn't live that way. There is no solid relationship without trust and honesty. People say that the best prediction of someone's future behavior is the way they have behaved in the past. I would hate for your friend to be heartbroken all over again, especially when she moved on with her own life for a whole year :(
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@buping (952)
• China
18 Sep 09
hi, thanks for sharing with us your thought. you definitely explained what you would do in this situation, it helps my friend, now she is by my side watching what you have said. and she said she will try her best to find one who is worthy trust.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 09
I am not qualified to decide for her but for me, I don't accept cheating partner, even if he come back crawling and beg on his knees. He ditch me for someone else, it will happen again. I don't trust people to change easily. Plus, I already betrayed. I won't forget something like that and pretend it never happen.
@buping (952)
• China
27 Sep 09
hi prinzy, i am sorry to hear what you said. you said that you already betrayed, that i do not know you betrayed by someone or someone betrayed by you. but i am agree with you that people do not easy to change, so i do not accept cheating partner either. anyway, hope you a optimistic attitude towards people.
