My oldest grandson is entering those troubled years evidently

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I live with my daughter and her three sons, ages 10, almost 8 and 4. The middle boy is ADHAD and is on medication for it, the youngest boy is on the autism spectrum and is difficult to deal with. I'm telling this for background information. The oldest boy, the 10 year old has so much negative attitude and it is getting worse and worse every single day. Now he got in trouble at school and had to be picked up by his mother. Since it was his first time getting in trouble at school, they did not suspend him thank goodness but they very well could have. He got caught taking something that was not his. I am still in shock over it and so is my daughter, his mother. We are so worried about him. He has absolutely no male influence in his life. His male parent left and has nothing to do with his three sons here, doesn't pay child support, doesn't visit, doesn't call, no contact at all. We have a case with the child guidance clinic and are in family counseling for him and his brother but maybe that isn't enough. Does anyone have any ideas? I mean about anything, does he need time with a male influence? We signed up for Big Brother but it's not real active in our area so we will be on a waiting list so, cross that off, no help there. We don't have much money and are not doing well financially so we can't send him to some sort of classes or such. We're clueless here, what do 10 year old boys need that he isn't getting at home? Is there something we can do to help him? I would welcome any ideas, thank you.