SIL wants nothing to do with parents
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
September 17, 2009 9:00am CST
As some of you are already aware, we had a big falling out with hubby's parents back around 6 months ago, and haven't spoken to them since.
Until this past weekend! Hubby's uncle called the house trying to find hubby's dad (the in laws phone was broken). He told my husband that his dad wasn't doing so well, his bone marrow isn't producing blood anymore, he's anemic... etc. etc.
So hubby called his mom on Sunday, we met up with her at a playground and got some more information on the situation. Hubby is now quite concerned about his father's health. The man is 75 years old, so we knew it wouldn't be long before we were faced with this situation.
So, hubby attempted to contact some more family members to ensure they're all aware of FIL's condition. First he called his sister, who also hasn't spoken to her parents in years. She hasn't spoken to us in years either. She never returned our phone call.
However it seems as if her uncle did contact her, and she flat out told him she doesn't really care about her father's condition and she still wants nothing to do with her parents (or apparently any of her family).
Well nobody is going to change her mind, but I think she'll regret it someday.
Do you know someone who couldn't drop a grudge, even when someone was near death?
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4 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
17 Sep 09
I'm sure I have known some like that but no one specific comes to mind. Actually I think I would probably be like that. I don't know what kind of childhood your SIL had so I can't really judge if her feelings are just or not. But I don't think that if someone is dying they should get a free pass on the fact that they were horrible their whole life. I couldn't just forget everything done to me and go pretend like it was all okay just because they were ill. I know that is probably a bad thing and not a good quality to have, but that is where I stand right now.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Sep 09
No, my SIL is petty. Her father didn't hurt her or do anything wrong to her. SIL just doesn't like her parents because they're poor and have bad hygiene and she finds that embarassing. So she tried to tell them and they got offended and a huge fight broke out and she hasn't spoken to them since. That's all that happened!
FIL was a total @$$ to us, and my hubby is still p-o'd at him, but I told hubby this isn't for FIL!! It's for hubby and our kids, so that there are never any regrets.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
17 Sep 09
Ah, I wasn't sure since I knew they had treated you guys badly. Yea, I guess I get that, but honestly I don't think I would regret not saying goodbye to someone I disliked enough to not see for years.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
17 Sep 09
This isn't just anyone though.. it's her father, and she's the one being the brat about it. I think there will come a day when she'll wish she had said goodbye to her father. She'll never get that chance back!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Sep 09
I know one of my aunts is really worried about two of her daughters who aren't speaking to one another after a third daughter had some repressed memories come up in counseling. Daughter 3 is now convinced that her father molested her as a child. One sister believes her and the other doesn't and those two aren't speaking. My aunt's actually in the hospital right now, hopefully not too serious, but if it were, I would hope the dispute wouldn't keep one of them away.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Hey Kats! Love the new family photo! What a beautiful family
you have! I think that it is a terrible shame that your SIL
is acting this way! Surely, one day she just might regret it
and it will be too late. I do remember all the terrible things
that you and your hubby went through with your FIL and you
are willing to be understanding and reasonable because you
know it is the right thing to do. After all it is your husbands
father and no matter what he still must have some kind of
feelings for the man, to some degree and the man is very ill.
There are just some times that you have to try to let go of
a grudge in order to clear your own conscience and I know that
you and your husband are too good people to let the things
that your stupid FIL did get in the way of a very sick man's
needs.
@agirnow (157)
• France
17 Sep 09
I don't know anyone in that situation, but seriously, I think that the father should reach out to his kids if he wants them to come around now that he is sick. If he has done something bad enough to make his daughter stop talking to him, being sick doesn't change that he wasn't nice to her. I am in a tough spot with my father right now and I don't know if I would be nice to him if he got seriously ill, unless he sincerely apologized for some things and tried to be nice to me and my WHOLE family.
