Men Really Need Respect??? Over Love ?!?

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Lately I have been having relationship problems with my husband. I mean I always knew deep down inside myself that I am jealous, controlling, and a little on the nagging side...but that's me he should just deal with it right? Well I let things get so bad that I kicked a hole in my wall because of my own jealousy... I started counseling...and then started reading as much as I could to try to find information on how to improve my relationship... You see I grew up in a "broken" home so really I had/have no idea what I'm doing when it comes to being a wife...especially since my single dad raised me for the larger portion of my life...so I never really had a mother/wife role model...well except for TV and my grammy who was also singe...so I could learn some mother stuff but marriage...what's that?!? So I finally realized that I had no idea how to be a wife and only a little idea about how to be a mother...(I became a mother at 16 -- before marriage) So what I learned is that most men would choose to be alone and unloved in this world before they would choose to be disrespected... WOW I never knew that respect was so important to a man... Okay so now that I know that how do I do that? Well lately I have just been telling my hubby how proud I am of him, giving him space, praising him, and making sure that the things he likes to be done are done first...like dishes .. UGH!! but I choose to do them and God rewards me by making the process of doing dishes not so unbearable... And guess what results I've gotten already... My hubby brought me home flowers the other day!! :) This man hasn't gotten me flowers since we were dating, and never without me asking for them...so giant success!!! We haven't been fighting, and he's been a lot happier!! as have I!! I don't do this manipulatively either, I am genuinely trying to be a better wife!! and God has rewarded me and our relationship largely!! So if you are having problems, even if they aren't your fault try respecting your man! I know it's hard, but that is what men want...right guys?? A man is more apt to stay in a relationship where he feels he is respected..and although I don't want to say this word because I know what everyone will think...but men also like to be adored....