EX-BF wooing again..
By reanaclaire
@reanaclaire (101)
Malaysia
September 17, 2009 9:53pm CST
Ever wish your ex-boyfriend coming back to your life? Few years ago, the girl (Tam)broke off with him cos she knew he was interested in another girl at the same time. He told Tam not to break off yet cos he didn't know who to choose, give him some time. But Tam didn't heed his words and left him for good. Feeling no choice, her boyfriend went out with this new girl and broke off after a few months. Now few years later, he came back into Tam's life. He asked her for a second chance to be together, this time he told her that he will not let her go ever again. So, do you think Tam should give him a new chance? He is still the same, caring, loving and they have lots in common. What do you think? They are both in their forties now, both still single.
5 responses
@lilhyppo (47)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Hi claire! It's really hard to tell what's the real intention for wooing Tam again. But never try, never know! At least if he is going to repeat the same by breaking it off again, then Tam can always tell herself, "at least I tried". And the most important part is, if he has really changed for the better, she just landed herself a life partner that is loving, caring, and share lots in common!
@reanaclaire (101)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
So most of here agree that he should be given a second chance..right? Hope she will and she does and all the best to them! thanks for coming by and giving your view on this.
@allforhim45 (23)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Me, being a guy, have to see the mans perspective on this one. I think that she should give him another try, even though i would never admitt to my girl that i liked her and another one at the same time, she was right to dump him the first time, but now i think he probably has realized that she was the best thing in his life and he wants her back now.
@reanaclaire (101)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Perhaps he has finally realized that she is still the best... the other one was a mistake. Hope it will be for good this time if she really accepts him back..
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
18 Sep 09
Hello, well it sounds like he is ready for a committed relationship with her and only her.Still if that were me I would always have what happened between them in the back of the mind mind. But yeah, why not give it another chance if she feels like this time it will last.Why deny some happiness in life. Nothing is ever guaranteed.
@reanaclaire (101)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
thanks ds6413, relationship is a very subjective. It depends on individual whether they dare to go for it or not. Some people are discouraged after a failed affair and some go forward to take it up again, pursuing their own happiness.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
Oh reana,
Since they are both in their forties and are still single, why not? They are, after all matured enough to think for themselves. This is not a case of highschool flings.
Sometimes, the 'time out' they had previously is good. It gave them a better prospective of life and are now able to appreciate each other more.
I'd say go for it. They have nothing to lose. It's always good to have a companion. Just let it flow and see where it goes...
@reanaclaire (101)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
hi Merryn, so your suggestion is "GO" for it.. after all, how many more years to have happiness, right? hahaha.. Yes, definitely not infatuation or puppy love anymore. Your wordings "Just let it flow and see where it goes..." is very rhymatic and the deep meanings are there too... thanks for your opinion..
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 09
reanaclaire.. sometimes God just play with our faith and fate ya.. but anyway, if these two person have got the common and with after so many years, the guy will much in love in Tam, then no harm accepting him again.. Although we seldom says, a leopard can't change it's spots, but we do hope that he is the exception right..
what I am more concern if whether this man is back to Tam because he can't find anyone outside, or is he truly in love with Tam.. if he just want a companion, and he knows may be with his age, it's not going to be any easy, therefore turning back to Tam is an option.. but if he come back with a full change and promise the proper promise, then Tam should give it another try.. no harm right..
all the best to Tam, and I am sure she will find her own definition of love..
@reanaclaire (101)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Funny, sometimes we as humans have to go through mistakes then only we realize that we are sort of wiser after that. No wonder the saying "trials make perfect" meaning the more mistakes we make, we might be wiser after that. I guess when we reach our matured age, our thinking tend to be more matured and not so childish anymore..
