Discussing outer appearances...do you judge by those?

Morning Karen.CLEANLINESS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME. I don't think u can judge people by their looks if they are clean & their clothes are clean. U don;t know people till u get a chance to know them. easy on the eyes is good but that doesn't mean doodly squat as to what type of person they are. I think it's hard to make friends nowadays because i hate tosay this but u can't trust people like u use to.

It's very hard not to judge people by their cover, so to speak. If they are clean and not totally out of it I can befriend just about anyone who is not yelling or hitting someone. For me actions speak louder than words.

Honetly I diddnt judge anybody by there outer appearance because I know there will be something within. They just have to be my friends to know them better and to judge them finally. I dont want to accuse somebody without knowing there real personality because that is unfair.

Yes i do agree with you. But we cant say that if a book or any other thing has a good cover it would be good or bad and if does not have good cover it would be good. Both of the things are independent. But today most of the people even i go first for the appearance . And thats why if you go to the market you ll get attracted mostly by beautiful things. And every body first goes to the outer and then inside. whether it is a book or a person.

i really do agree that we should never judge a person on how he looks because what really matters is the goodness of that person's heart. appearance doesn't tell us anything about the person's attitude unless you will give time to know them more.

I think i'm good at not judging people by their appearance. Yeah I admit I have judged before but for the most part I haven't really been a judger. I always try to be friends with the people I see by theirself who really have no friends. The "pretty" people or whatever you want to call it really don't have that great of a personality. It's not something I want to be around

Hi Karen! I see a book by outer cover first…………..LOL! If I meet a new person, I would initially judge by him/her outer appearance, how s/he looks, how immaculately s/he is dressed, how s/he speaks and communicates. However, when I come to know about real he/she, I then start looking towards his/her inner qualities and inner-self. When I get closer to him/her then his/her outer appearance becomes secondary to me. I have few friends in real life and here on mylot, who certainly are wonderful human beings, irrespective of their outer appearance and I love their inter-personal relationship and conduct with me and they are very dear to me. Deepak

I learned a long time ago that the outer appearance of a person was no reflection on who that person was. I have a friend of many years who loves body art, for instance. She has tattoos covering most of her body. To look at her someone might assume that she was a thug or not particularly classy or bright. She is, in fact, a computer graphics designer, very intelligent with excellent manners and a lot of class. When I managed the Technology Services dept. at a community college I also learned not to judge a person's skills and abilities based on outward appearance. My computer technicians and network staff were both young and old, natural born citizen and immigrant, conservative in dress and one girl who was very fond of gothic style clothing. They were all great employees and assets to the college.

Hi Karen, if you mean in the way that someone dresses or looks then not really. I'll just give one example of appearances being deceptive. There is a local 'character' here, large, loud, over pushy, clothes way too tight, who has the constant habit of being overly fond of the ladies and a bit too blunt in his public way of speaking far too much about s*x which he tends to mention even more in casual conversation than the average Greek (I should add here that this kind of talk is perfectly accepted out here and the curiosity extending to what others get up to a major part of cafenion or taverna conversation.) So whilst terribly bombastic in a public place about such things this person presents a front which reveals a heart of gold, and despite curious looks when I have a coffee with him in the cafenion, I know what he's really like, which is a perfect gentleman at his own place. I have no worries at all in calling by his house for coffee on the terrace and always leave laden up with the produce of his garden. I give not a hoot if people were so petty as to gossip about my car being outside because despite his appearance he's a good and caring friend.

Yes, I admit I have judged by appearence, realized that it is wrong and stopped. Sometimes it is very hard not to judge because the person just looks different. I always remember the golden rule "treat others as you would like to be treated."

Honetly I diddnt judge anybody by there outer appearance because I know there will be something within. They just have to be my friends to know them better and to judge them finally. I dont want to accuse somebody without knowing there real personality because that i unfair.

i think a book with a nice cover can also have a better story than a book with an ugly cover. i try never to make any assumptions on any one based on first impressions or even outer appearence or fashion sense or way they talk. because there are so many different people in this world it's just impossible to generalize. you never really know a person unless you've been with them for years and even then there are many secrets.

sometimes i judge people based on how they look. but i have learned so many times, that looks can be deceiving. so i always try to get to know them more and talk to them if i feel like it. i really try my best not to make any judgments on people based on their physical appearances.

Nope i dont judge people from their outside appearances, it's better to know the person carefully before we judge them, but sad to say most people judge people by it's outer appearance well it's just human nature i suppose. But some people have the outer appearance similar to their inside.

hi karen thats so wrong but I know a lot ofpeople 'do that and I think its so sad. I have known very pretty women a nd handsome men who were'selfish and the women were pea brained. a pretty cover'really doesnt tell you whats inside a person. some rather plain and even ugly appearing p;eople are some of the nicest people you would ever meet. one of my'friends' was very homely but was kind and smart and generous to a fault.so never judge a person by'their clothes or other appearance as that tells you nothing.

Of course what's inside is more important, intelligence and good values and so on. But that doesn't stop me from looking at somebody and thinking positively,negatively or neutrally about their appearance. But it doesn't change how I treat them.

hi karen madam, I also see the inner beauty of the persons,than the outer beauty,we cannot estimate persons with outward appearance,have a nice day

If someone has not put his or her best foot forward in a situation where it is important you better believe I do. The reason is this, if someone has a creless attitude about their appearance at a time where it matters this attitude will extend to other areas as well and I have no patience or interest in going through a bunch of drama with an immature person who doesn't understand what respect is or what's appropriate when.

I think the expression means that the book’s exterior (outside cover) may be ragged and worn, but the pages could be filled with brilliant colors and an exciting story. I think the expression means that sometimes there is much more to an object or a person than you may have initially thought (or than you may have thought at first).

What a person looks like is my first impression of them. Because of how they look my mind will naturally begin to recall past experience, attitude and behavior of people I've met with similarities. With that said, I have learned not to be stereotypical for all of the reason your have stated in your post. Needless to say, my prognosis based on looks was most often wrong.