You've waited all your life, then you got married. Suddenly he/she appeared..

Another love affair :) Well, I will divorce my husband and marry him instead :) Just joking! If my Mr Perfect came along a bit too late, then it is his loss, not mine. I have married the man of my choice, he is there for me all the while, what more can I ask? The Mr Perfect will just have to go to the dens, it might be just a fantasy, if you come to know him better, he might not be the one you really love to have. There are build in fantasies, what is real is the man who sleeps with you each night, who fathered the child you are carrying, that is the real REALITY! (do i make sense here?) :)

If my marriage was working before this new person came along...I would avoid that new person at all cost. No sense tempting fate, and your spouce deserves your love and loyalty.

Well human mind cannot be satiated that easily.That is how we are made to archive great goals in life.But if we are to be really happy we have to find the right limitations in our expectations.Set a goal archive it and relax to enjoy it is my motto.There is no use of feeling sorry on what you have missed.It is always wise to be over what you have gained.

i'm not yet married but with your situation, since you already reached through the stage of holy matrimony, then i think it's best if you'll resolve it while it's still very early. don't compare you partner to anybody because when first meet her, you thought that she's really the one meant for you and since you found somebody else that you think is much better, it's very possible that you'll regret in the end.

submerryn, Are you still looking for the Perfect Prince Charming with Shining Armour driving on a White Horse? I don't believe. You have found one. Haven't you? My wife is a good wife. I am not going to look for another. She is irreplaceable. She is the BEST a man can ever ask for. If given a second chance I still ask for her.

Well for me perfect relationship needs a lot of effort. We might not like all the qualities of our partner but if you love the person you can work things out. It takes two to tanggo. Stop looking far, just be thankful for what you have and treasure it. You would not marry a person if there is NO LOVE after all. You are attractted to him or her in someways and you cant deny that. You must just learn to accept her weaknesses, there is no perfect person. And one of the reasons why we are beside our partner is to understand him/her and help him/her change for a better person. Didn't it cross your mind, if your partner is feeling the same way as you do? I don't think thats a good sign. Keep your communication lines always open. Thats a key for a healthy relationship. And stop looking and concentrating to your partner's mistakes or imperfections, why not start looking on the brighter side of her/him.

Our mind is within our control.Once having taken a decision, other thoughts like this ought to be nipped in the bud.Only after realising that "there is this someone who has all this while been there for you" your imaginary character has made a decision to get married. Then he/she ought not to give rise to thoughts like thsi.In life, somethings would always be better than others but when we have the mindset that what we have is the best then we would also realise that this would work out best for us[by the grace of God]I believe in this strategy . To your question" what will you do" I would definitely look at all the positive aspects of my partner and feel happy with what God has given me[in the imaginary case this is his/her own choice/--so once he/she makes a decision ,especially , when the person has arrived at this after some thought , thoughts of the kind must not be encouraged.

I have gone through this entire discussion and I dont know what is wrong with your statement . Most of the respondents are thinking that this is your real story and the responses are progressing on that line. Anyway I will ignore the perfect love as I have married for seventeen years and I have a wife to love me and my kids, even if I am not showing the same sentiments to her. And I want to say that there will not be 100% perfect love in this universe and it will remain as a dream for ever.

hi submerryn well if it were me in this situation I would remember just why I fell in love with my wonderful husband and how muxh I did love him yet, and know that I was just daydreaming because I would know that this man I married was the man God had sent for me, I knew when I saw him and I would not some temporary lust thing ruin my marriage.

the common fact is that the person who you think that has all the characteristic of what you have been looking for all your life is not really fit for you. many perfect things always are only your imagination. so i think you should take good care of the happiness your wife or husband have given you. please don't be immerced in the mealingless thoughts and imaginations. finally ,wish you all the happiness.

Even though I may have found someone that may be perfect for me and was everything that I have been looking for, I would continue to stay with my husband. Let's say that you decide to take the plunge and dump your significant other for that certain person that was everything you wanted and more and when you decide to take a chance with them and they were not everything that you thought they were and it doesn't work out. So then you're left alone and the person that you were married to, no longer wants you back because you dumped them for someone else. Besides you made a commitment to the one you've married and you know that even though they may not be everything you've hoped for well at least, they have some parts of what you've wanted and you're married to them and you love them and that must be part of the reason why you got married right? Its just best to stick with the one that you are married to.

I believe that marriage is not just about love but also about commitment. Sometimes we need to listen to our head and not heart alone. However there are times when you have to move out a relationship for the better. At such a time I would gladly move into another relationship without keeping my partner in the dark and without betraying him or her.

i actually asked a question similar to your's today but i didn't word it nearly as well as you and i didn't set the story like you did either.. anyways i would still stay loyal to my wife because i'll still love her for being there for me. love is developed over the years it's not about characteristics it's about two people being there for each other.

Hoo La! It seems that several misunderstood submerryn:). In my opinion, once you are married, YOU should be responsible for him/her and the family you built. Human are always not satisfied with what they have. So please cherish what YOU have, like the story submerryn has told, if he/she choose the 'perfect' love and married her/him, maybe he/she will find the best is whom he/she's missed!