Do you think love can be learned?

yes very well said

I think so my parents are also don't love each other first. My mother told us that my father first court her parents especially her Father to married her. When her Father told her that my father told him that she want to marry her even if they don't know and don't love each other. It is like a force marriage because she don't have a choice and that time the had a problem with her menstruation and the doctor told her that it is difficult for her to conceive if she delay to have a baby. At that time my Mother is 27 yrs. old and her siblings always leave their kids to her so she decided to marry my Father instead even if she don't love my father at first. Sometimes I asked her if she regret it but she said she doesn't because she saw us, her children.

Yeah, you can love the person, If you only open your eyes and see the sincerity of of her/his love. Love indeed needs a lot of continues work for both parties, on order for it to spring up and lives forever. That's why many couple end up apart because they forget to shower,care and nurture their love for each other. They have misconception that love would stay and remain in their heart. Love will die if you would left it out. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and have a great weekends!

I agree with your mother. Just a simple look to your kids take away all the tiredness an sadness that you feel. How can a mother say that she regret the day she met or marry her husband if she has wonderful kids?

As for me love is not merely a feelings but rather it's both feelings and emotions. It it's a feeling alone then it's just a complete set of physical aspects and bodily sensations. Anyway it was just my simple thought and understanding. Anyways thank you very for taking time, with us and enjoy your weekends!

Yeah absolutely. Through time you would learned to love the person. Especially if the couple tried to work together through kindness and thoughtfulness for one another. Their work and patience to make the relationship remain then later on they would reap with LOVE. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and have a great weekends!

Yeah, you're right! Me either, don't believe in love at first sight. Love that is based on physical attraction is very hollow and would only fall apart. A love that is established on understanding, respect and appreciation for each other would likely last forever. And it taken good care and nurture each day then, it's a sure guarantee to stand for a lifetime. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and have a great weekends!

Thanks... I think it is easier for me love my husband back then because I don't have other relationship at that time. It might be harder (I think) if you already have a loved one and then you try to fall or love another person. I don't know what will I do if that happened to me.

Your welcome. Yeah, my mom told me that it was very difficult for her, since she love her boyfriend that time. But through prayers my mom learned to let go and accept the reality. That was then that she learned to open heart to love my dad, since my dad is not really hard to love. Again thank you and enjoy the rest of the weekends!

Yeah, It must be case to case basis. If the person is very kind and if you learned to appreciate the sincerity and kindness the person showed then it could probably turn into love. You have a quite interesting and inspiring love story. And I'm glad to know that it turn out to be a real happy love story. Because sometimes in our life, we are not aware what is important and what makes us happy and it's only when the person or thing is gone, we realized the importance of it. And it's necessary for us to know, as early as possible, so in the end there's no regret. Thank you very much for sharing your story and thoughts with us... Enjoy your weekends!

Yeah, I do respect your views on this matter. We all have different opinions,perceptions, experiences and beliefs in life. And mostly we based our judgment and outlook on certain areas primarily on what we have seen,taught and experienced. As what my parents taught me, that love can be learned in the sense that a persons feelings and emotions can be changed. Love be can be developed through persons sincerity, kindness and thoughtfulness. Anyways thank you for taking time sharing your thoughts with us. I really appreciate it. We may have different views on love but we have the same mission of loving one another. Enjoy your weekends!

hi, I am living near the UAE. Almost all marriages are arranged here. After observing things here I have come to the conclusion that most husbands and wives don't really love each other in this country. It is an arrangement and people play the "roles" that are expected. Most people know nothing about real love as there is no opportunity for experience or getting to know what real love is. After the marraige most people fall in love, but not with their spouse but with their girlfriend/boyfriend. I would say 90+% of men have a girlfriend on the side. The married men here are always on the chase giving their numbers to many women. it is a rare man who doesnt. if this is true how could they really love their wives by disrespecting them so. also the women cant really make a fuss to their husbands even if they are dissatisfied in someway. So the relationships are not balanced which you need for true love. the wife is just more love of family and comfort and she might actually be a family member (cousin). what they call "love" here is not real love; so i guess they can learn to accept and be happy in the situation. after living here, i really really disagree with arranged marriage unless it is more of introduction with no family pressure. it holds society and progression back by many years and creates many defected children due to the inbreeding. in my neighbors family, two people have severe hereditary handicaps. my answer is not pc but not meant to be disrespectful. this is what i have actually encountered based upon my experience living here. i like your comment careguarden it sound nice and maybe in some cases this happens but it does not seem the actual reality here found in the behavior traits of the people and culture.

Love can be learned but not all people can do the same thing. You can't force your self to love the person. Yeah, perhaps parents knows what's compatible for their children. Anyways I understand yours and what you did was right. Your boyfriend deserved someone who would truly love him the way he give love to the person. And I'm sure he'd able to meet the one that is meant for him. And you as well. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!

Hello Opal26, Oh, I'm sorry to hear that your parents marriage didn't work. It must be very difficult in your part. Yeah, I'm very grateful to God for helping my parents to persevere, and give strength and courage to work it out,and to my parents that they tried hard to learned to love each other. Yeah, it's not all stories turn into happy ending, it's only on fairy tales. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and enjoy the rest of the weekends!

Yeah, not all relationship or arrange marriages work. Some would fall apart along the road, but what matter is both couple tried their best to work it out. Yeah, in life most of the time we need to learned in order to live a happy life full of love. Thank you for sharing with us and have a great day kitty!

Yeah, love can be learned. I'm glad that your parents relationship work and turn into love and affection for each other. Because I have also heard other arranged marriages who didn't work and turn both lives of couple into misery. Anyways thank you for sharing with us and have a great weekends!