Life is not written according to a script.

You are absolutely right Zandi.Life itself is nothing but a chain of memories.Nothing is constant here.Time has no value.The moment i typed my last sentence is not existent now.It has become history and gone into oblivion.Had we lost our sense of memory the life we have lived so far becomes a farce without any meaning.So the past remains only in our brains. The wise thing to do is to dwell on our past sweet memories being prepared to face the future which God only knows what it has in store for us.

Oh how right you are.I am supposed to be married to a very rich man with six adorable perfect kids who do what they are told.I should have a staff of devoted staff who help me run my mansion while I spend my days getting my hair and nails done.We lets wake up to real life,no one know what is around the corner,good times,shocks,struggle and bad news.That is real life and I think we all know what that feels like.I take strenghth that I can share lifes rich experience with my beloved husband and three not so perfect kids and a grumpy Dad.As I am far from perfect just the one who muddles through this maze of school exams ,housework,grandchildren,a miriad of friends all trying to make the best of whats dished out to us.Thinking about it things it is not so bad.Compared to how others in less fortunate position in life.We have our health and strength most of the time,and if not we share in others who in turn share us.I think that is the only way to go.When one of us runs out of steam we rely on others for a while.

Hey, Yea life is truly unpredictable, and I also think that no one really knows what is going to happen the next day. That is the only bad thing about life, we have no idea what will happen the next day. We can only take one day at a time, and see if life will be good to us. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!

i've never really been in love or had a serious relationship so i haven't had the opportunity (fortunatley) to have lost someone to anything especially not breakup or divorce.

Hi zandi458! I haven't been in a relationship yet, but I've experienced being heartbroken :) I'm talking about a used-to-be close guy friend I had back in high school. We've known each other since, but got closer when we entered the same youth group. In college, he started texting me more , and we finally went out. Being close with him, I couldn't help but still get closer and finally fall for him. AFter a while, he stopped texting (he used to walk me home too), and I was left hanging. I merely brushed it off when my friends bugged me to spill about it, but deep inside I had a lot of questions. Only then, a close girl friend of mine confessed that the guy was texting her and they went out too. I was dumbfounded. She asked if I was okay. I answered yes even if I wasn't, I was too hurt. Having found out that I was used like a bridge to get to her, it was just too much. I prayed really hard to God and I surrendered all the pain that I've felt. Thank God, I'm over him now :) Truly. I still have good memories of the guy, when we used to joke around with my group of friends as well. And when I was really down, he used to comfort me, and he'd listen to everything I had to say. :) Really good discussion here :) Happy MyLotting! :)

Yes yes! Life is so full of surprise and you better be ready to face it when it comes to you, it's not about destiny it all depends on what you do in your life to achieve such things right? So maybe you need to think and think more and more about what's going on and face it!

Yes, it is so true that life is unpredictable, and these days you can never predict what is going to happen for sure. People think that their life is secure and then they get laid off, loose a home, or loved one, and they begin to feel like their life is falling apart as well. It can be a trying time for sure, and makes one wonder where did they go wrong as well. Personally recalling Good memories no matter what you're going thru is definately the Best thing you can do. Also keeping a strong Relationship with Jesus is another good one, and Praying for help in any situation can surely help out things in life as well.

A fantastic discussion topic with a wealth of meaning in it..Loved and lost in the sense of when someone is no more then I should say that I do cherish memories of my kind father.But, in the case of losing relationships on account of misunderstandings I would say that there would be painful , sad yearnings for the"might have been"s and only occasional bouts of good memories.SADLY, the bitter experiences in life, make me reluctant to think of anything at all, lest I SHOULD relive the pain.

Always. I always get that warm feeling whenever I think about my loved ones that is no longer in my life. The memories of them spending them with me, the wonderful things we did together are things that still brings a smile to my face even after so many years. These memories are the only thing that is keeping their legacy alive. I look forward to life. But I never forget my past. I learn from the past to face the new changes that awaits me tomorrow.

I have good & bad memories of lost love. I guess maybe the good outweighs the bad in some of the ones i have loved but the bad ones are right there close i'm sorry to say.

Hi ZandiYes indeed there those things we want to happen but turned out the other way around. It is depressing for someone who loved deeply and gave her all to still come out a loser in the name of love. It is so sad to end up separated from your one and only love with whom you've built your whole life around. Unpredictable things really do come! But not all are bad anyway. There are still good ones and in fact if we will only think deeper, most of them are really good although nor really given enough importance because just one disappointment in life tend to overcome us already. Well it is worth counting all the blessing every day no matter how small that blessing seems to be. When a loved one is lost then no matter how sad, always think that God must have a better purpose why it did happen and in the end everything will come out for your own good. It is easily said than done but what is the use of crying over a lost loved one. It will only make you old. The best is to cheer up, move on and let God do his purpose. One good way of having a positive disposition in life is recalling good memories every now and then. Yes you are right it is good for our health and also just as you quoted staying entrenched in stress is potentially detrimental to our health. this is the reason why I do still keep good memories not only with persons I have love and lost but also with practically all people that became part of my life.

Life is certainly not written according to script! No matter how carefully we plan we ultimately have no control over outcomes and that is the hardest thing for the majority of us to accept. Breaking up with one we love is perceived by us negatively because of the hurt it causes us at the time and it is so very difficult to see that there may have been a good reason for the end result. It is easy to see in retrospect of course. My ex husband and I met when we were only 15 and 16 and it is so clear now why our lives had to take different directions by the time we reached our mid twenties, although at the time we felt devastated. We are both with new partners now and have new families but we have neither regrets nor hard feelings. We loved but we didn’t lose we learnt valuable lessons that have made us much better people and the memories we keep are ours alone and priceless.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Whatever, you have brought out is your self experiences in your life. Further, none of us are soparable to these facts. We remeber our old days of child-hood. Children may not care, but we as a parents are concerned about them. This is fact. Old places, remmeberences are life-line for me. Everyday we remember our parents and compare with our children. May God bless You and have a great time.

I can understand what you mean by good memories of the good times shared whith those whom we have loved with all our heart and soul. I am married for ten years and have a four year old son. At present I am going through a divorce and also fighting for the custody of my son who is forcibly staying with my husband. I miss my son too much. He was taken away from me just before his fourth birthday and never for a moment was he away from me. My husband does not talk to me nor does he let me meet my son and even talk on the telephone. All that I have left with me now are the wonderful memories when we were living together. It does seem good to think of the happy old times and gives hope and courage for the future.

always!

hi zandi458 oh if I didnt have my good memories to sustain'me while i am in this place a retirement center called, tongue incheck for me, Gold Crest.the only damned gold here is what they make from taking most of our social security and ssi checks for room and board, what they euphamistically call rent.he he he. Anyway I was homeless so I had to come here while myson got into gov.paid apartment with three other guys who are all out of work. Our lives got taken upside down and split apart by this bad economy and mysons job loss. but i am here with my wonderful computer an monitor and am always busy here, and I have a ton of good memories too.plus I am writing every day a sort of memoirs of my life.my good memories sustain me and help me stay sane and foccussed.

Good to forget the past,, It might be only halfway possible though,a time comes u start to hate ur own

Well I can agree with you that our life doesn't go according to a script and we should make our own script in life and face each problems accordingly. I really keep precious memories especially of my loved ones. I can always cherish the memories in times of our down moments. We can reminisce these memories in order to keep our life going.