Steer clear of topics that might offend people

People look so heavily inward, they do not realize that the whole world around them is full of other people in need. Those of us who know you well understand that you are not harsh, Hatley.

Unfortunately advices are not taken in good faith. I responded to one discussion when the poster was asking why newbies were advised to response first and not to post discussions. I told this guy he should make his presence felt here first by responding to discussion and once he is known here it is easier to get responses especially from people that he has responded before. Many newbies are complaining that they receive pathetic response or their discussions not getting any response. He was not happy with my response and try to create an issue out of my words. In the end I told him it is only my views and suggestion and he need not follow but he was not too happy of what I wrote.

Too bad if we meet people that are hyper sensitive. We don't have the slightest idea of how our words can pierce through someone's heart and make them cry. Should we have known beforehand that a particular person is sensitive emotionally then we try to shift our conversations so as not to cloud their feelings.

People need to adopt to the style of mylot culture and be more open-minded so we can have an enjoyable life here. We should stop being sensitive and appreciate others views with open heart.

Thanks Karen. I have NEVER ever been a disrespectful person here. I know where I stand and would not try to even belittle the views of others. Question asked and I gave my honest views based on my experiences in mylot. When I stretch the truth, I got snap back. It propelled a chain of distasteful reactions and I was made to look like someone who is unreliable or maybe a fool. But why ask when this poster can't even weight the views of others in broader prospect. I have tried to explain in detail but my explanations was futile as it landed on deaf ears. I am not arrogant but there is no need to apologize to this person as I was all along only trying to help but my words never reached its destiny instead being challenged. I wish the discussion still exist you could have seen my response to it. This discussion that I have started here has close link to that discussion. As you know I have been a long standing member here and this has been the first incident that has really made a deep mark in what is supposed to be a clean record of truthfulness, friendliness and happy go lucky person. In my race for excellence, I believe there is no finish line. I am more concern with character than with reputation. The character is what you really are, while reputation is merely what others think you are.

One have to be good enough, smart enough to be engaged in mylot battlefield as mylot policemen are all over tracking on people who have over shoot the boundary. I have to stop short of further arguing when the barometer reaches boiling point as I would not wish to be banned for one silly mistake that wipes out my long tenancy in mylot as I still love to interact with people here.

Like you, I believe we learn our entire lives. In one of the discussions where someone merely wished to be contentious, I responded one time and only one and left the rest of the remarks unanswered. I can see by your number of posts that you've been here awhile and yes, in good standing. Some love to pick a fight just for the so-called fun of it. Carry on! Karen

You said it all and I am grateful to have an open-minded person to give her views and your views at least gives me a ray of hope that I am who I am and my words are my opinion which am entitled to and it doesn't mean to offend others. Misinterpretation is the cause of this misunderstanding.

thanks there rocking dude, just bear in mind that some people have either a chip on their shoulder about something, or they are just confrontational. they have the option to boycott your posts, we all have a choice to participate. i for one do not stand for silliness or putdowns! rock on!

Hi Iriene, Yes, we can't avoid not to step on some toes here as we all come from different backgrounds and cultures. What might be good to us might not fare well to others. It is not only talking about sensitive topics but to understand human nature, as have very fragile emotions and some are hot tempered. Language is another problem here where we might not be as conversant as the native speakers or people who have a strong command of this language. They should take that into account and not blindly condemn the weak.

Dear zandi, What you said is very true. It really make me feel better to know that someone do understand our weakness. You are right, we all from different cultures and what seems allright to us may not be the case to others. Like the saying :~ One's man meat can be another man's poison... Thanks for your wonderful comments, truly appreciate it :)

Mylot really teaches us to be tolerant, smart thinkers, and patience with people of different cultures. We should keep guard of what we say to compromise with the level of mentality of the different people here. To be on the safe side, we should be flexible in our approach.

Listening is one thing and accepting the truth is difficult for some people to take. The truth hurts and that is the reason for them to ignore others views.

Hi rosdimy, May I wish you SELAMAT HARI RAYA ADIL FITRI' and to all our muslim brothers and sisters who are celebrating this joyous occasion. Well we just can't please everyone here. Unfortunately, some people don't have the courtesy to respect others views and that makes it more difficult for us to establish good rapports with each other. In the realm of human behavior, you can't win them all. In fact, you don't need to win them all. We should utilize our endurance to protect ourselves from such insults and press on with our life in mylot.

I agree there are many topics worth discussion here that can bring everyone together in jolly mood.

Politics is a hot topic everywhere either in the virtual or real world. They are best left to people who are more politically minded as this interest has the tendency to raise our blood pressure when it is debated in open.

Mylot practices democracy and we are free to mingle around here and response to all.

I have done exactly as you did but some people can't compromise on certain issues. They feel that they are more superior and their words are their command. Unfortunately, we can't please all.

You said it right but some individuals have questionable character. They don't show it through their posts but when it comes to their responses, they can rise to the occasion and blast you for going against the grains.

It is impossible to please everyone here so they are some we have to be extra careful when dealing with them.

It needs a long association to understand the ways each of us write. I am glad that you can read well my ways of writing. When I am misunderstood I am quick to clarify but not everyone can accept our views, unfortunately.

In the eyes of others it is better to look stupid so no one really bothers about us. I agree with you mylot is the place where we can exhibit our mental strength without our identity being exposed.

A blunt person is not necessarily a wicked person. The outspoken people have extra wire in their brains that spur them to say things that might not go down well with others. But again, my principle is take it or leave it as I am only sharing my personal views.

You are right. But we should be able to interact with people of all creed and races and accept their views in good faith and not try show that they are more superior than the other. There is no place for arrogant people in mylot. Everyone has their own strength.