Will you do whatever it takes?

If there was something that my son or daughter really had their heart set on doing I think I would be doing the same thing you are doing. Is your son going to make it to the NFL? Realistically, Chances are no, but you should still encourage him to try just as long as he knows that there are plenty of people who had the same dream that did not make it.

I think what you did is awesome. You are a great mother and supportive of your child. Your son is old enough to know what he wants and to work hard for it. And he is old enough to decide whether he really needed those stitches in his finger. I think that if I were in that position that I would have made the same choice. My kids still kind of young and my oldest is afraid to try anything.

I wish my children HAD a dream like this.

I just wrote a long response to this, lost power during a storm and lost it all! I haven't read any of your discussions about your son's injury since I haven't been reading too much lately. And I have no idea how the stitches hinder him from playing football. I figured it must be in a place on his finger that keeps him from throwing the ball correctly - I'm just guessing/speculating. I would never push my child into anything because, if something happened to him/her, then I'd feel like I could have stopped it. I understand children have dreams, but sometimes dreams fade as they grow older. I always wanted to be a nurse when I grew up, but grew up to decide I didn't like the idea of lots of blood. My true calling was to be a school teacher since I loved school, but I was too shy to go to college when I finished HS as the Salutatorian. I've faired very nicely in life without either career. Accidents happen that keep our children from doing what they have their heart set on at times, too. My daughter's youngest son was to be the starting QB for his 8th grade team. But he also plays Premier soccer. The weekend before his 1st game, he had a soccer tournament in which he's the goalie. ON Sunday morning about 5 minutes into the game, he went up to keep a ball out of the goal and broke his arm as the ball hit him very hard in the wrong place. So that put him out for 6 weeks playing soccer and 4 weeks with football. He can't be QB right now - he has another week to go with the small cast he got when they removed his full cast last Wednesday. He did get to kick twice in their game last night. But his desire was to QB and he wanted to follow in his older brother's footsteps. That grandson was QB in the 8th and 9th grades, kicker the next 3 years with QB periodically. He even did all the kicking/punting the last 2 years and QB'd during some of those games. But his desire to play football went down the tubes when a well known coach was fired from the school he was wanting to attend. We had heard that our grandson had been chosen to be their kicker, but the new coach did not honor any of the old coach's choices. Our grandson then was going to another college, all set up to play and knew who his roommate would be. But he changed his mind and went only 1 year to a local college and decided it wasn't for him. Children's minds change and all we can do is support them in what they think they want at the time. Sometimes they give up those earlier dreams for something maybe better. We do miss our oldest grandson not playing college football. This would have been his 3rd year, but it wasn't to be. And I look at it another way- both of these boys could have been hurt badly playing football during the time they haven't gotten to play had it happened the way we thought it would. We never know what GOD has in mind for us. We just have to be willing to be patient and take whatever comes our way.

I just wrote a long response to this, lost power during a storm and lost it all! I haven't read any of your discussions about your son's injury since I haven't been reading too much lately. And I have no idea how the stitches hinder him from playing football. I figured it must be in a place on his finger that keeps him from throwing the ball correctly - I'm just guessing/speculating. I would never push my child into anything because, if something happened to him/her, then I'd feel like I could have stopped it. I understand children have dreams, but sometimes dreams fade as they grow older. I always wanted to be a nurse when I grew up, but grew up to decide I didn't like the idea of lots of blood. My true calling was to be a school teacher since I loved school, but I was too shy to go to college when I finished HS as the Salutatorian. I've faired very nicely in life without either career. Accidents happen that keep our children from doing what they have their heart set on at times, too. My daughter's youngest son was to be the starting QB for his 8th grade team. But he also plays Premier soccer. The weekend before his 1st game, he had a soccer tournament in which he's the goalie. ON Sunday morning about 5 minutes into the game, he went up to keep a ball out of the goal and broke his arm as the ball hit him very hard in the wrong place. So that put him out for 6 weeks playing soccer and 4 weeks with football. He can't be QB right now - he has another week to go with the small cast he got when they removed his full cast last Wednesday. He did get to kick twice in their game last night. But his desire was to QB and he wanted to follow in his older brother's footsteps. That grandson was QB in the 8th and 9th grades, kicker the next 3 years with QB periodically. He even did all the kicking/punting the last 2 years and QB'd during some of those games. But his desire to play football went down the tubes when a well known coach was fired from the school he was wanting to attend. We had heard that our grandson had been chosen to be their kicker, but the new coach did not honor any of the old coach's choices. Our grandson then was going to another college, all set up to play and knew who his roommate would be. But he changed his mind and went only 1 year to a local college and decided it wasn't for him. Children's minds change and all we can do is support them in what they think they want at the time. Sometimes they give up those earlier dreams for something maybe better. We do miss our oldest grandson not playing college football. This would have been his 3rd year, but it wasn't to be. And I look at it another way- both of these boys could have been hurt badly playing football during the time they haven't gotten to play had it happened the way we thought it would. We never know what GOD has in mind for us. We just have to be willing to be patient and take whatever comes our way.

I have always supported my children in what they want to do but now I am facing a difficulty. MY eldest son has always been interested and involved on some level in politics. He lives and breathes politics in this country. I cannot blame him as we were all politically conscious both in my family and in his father's family. Growing up the children heard a lot of political discussions and also witnessed the victimization that there father suffered on some occasions. Before he left to help settle his twins in Dubai he was interviewed for the position of a Caretaker MP in the party. This would mean that when the next general election is called he MAY be selected as the opponent of the current member of Parliament. This perhaps would be a Congressman in the USA but on a much smaller scale. If he is selected, and he stands a very good chance, then there would be so much to contend with. The politics out here can get both violent and dirty sometimes. This bothers me. But I know in the end that I will support his decision and assist him in any way possible. But I am worried. I know the other person who he would be running against and he is not so nice! anyway, it may not happen. I worry more about my second son who has learning disabilities and finds it difficult to get a job. He is planting some vegetables on the farm right now. The other children know that they have to look out for him.

I think that you did what you thought was right and that no matter the decision as long as it doesn't cause harm to your son, it should be no one's business but yours, your son's, and your spouse (?)... I would be worried about infection in the stitches but afterall if that was a big possibility the doctor would have said something I am sure... so no need to worry!

of course i would definitely support a child just you did to your child. but not all parents will entertain that idea. like go to the extent doing every thing for their kids to reach their dream . they will support in one way or another but if that means they will sacrifice quality time on their studies. or will they bother to do other things just for the child to be closer to his dreams.

Yes and no. Yes, if I can help it. No, if I can't. Simple logic. We have to guard against wild reams. They might just run amok! However, if he is truly good, I will coach him along. When it is time for him to go professional, I will get him professional coaching. He must be the best or none at all.

If I were a child, I would definitely do anything to let him achieve his dreams, especially that it is my frustration now to being not able to achieve some of mine. Although, I would make sure his safety first, That's more important.