is different religion a hindrance in a good relationship (MARRIAGE)?

i think that basic problem is not religion but the real crux is mentatility and understanding of the partners so religion is no hinderance to it,love doesn't seem to effect by these things.on the other hand if true love is present you will be in heaven otherwise your life will become hell,ultimately all is our brain's crux

hi! theoretically speaking it isn't but practically it does.even if the couple shares gr8 chemistry,commitment and open communication lack of societal support most of the times breaks the bond in the long run.my boyfriend (who was a follower of islam) and i (a non believer) had everything gr8.we had made up our minds to be together forever too but his parents and relatives got so rigid to the religious issue that we had to part ways. im glad it happened before it was too late.

I don't think it has to be an issue and especially not in a good relationship. In a good relationship they would respect each other and each other's differences. Prior to getting married it is a good idea to discuss how they will deal with the issue in the event of children. I don't think it would be a bad idea to expose the children to both religions and when they are old enough let the choice be theirs.

Hi amyson, I know many couples married from different religion and they are living happily. Among most of the couples the female is following the religion of male part and only one couplee both are keeping their own belief and living happily. Marriage is the relation between two people but when relatives and friends make any problem then the issue will be a hurdle otherwise there is nothing can do with religion. If both can do adjustments and compromises then they will be happy.

Hi amyson! :) I agree with you. For me, religion shouldn't be a hindrance to a good relationship such as marriage. Both parties should understand each other and most of all, respect each other's beliefs and yes, not force one to follow the other religion. I've met so many people and some of them are friends whose parents are of different religion and they go along very well. That's because they respect each other's beliefs and principles and not criticize each other's teachings. There is one religion I know, however, which doesn't allow their members to marry someone of different religion. I think that's where the hindrance would come. Personally, I'm not quite inclined to them only marrying someone of the same religion since marriage should be based on LOVE, not religion :)

I have already experienced this question in real life. My girl friend is of a different religion than mine. And we have never faced any problems or had any conflicts among ourselves pertaining to our religion. We respect each other's religion and there beliefs. Infact I celebrate her festivals and so does she. I think mutual understanding is very important in such matters. Apart from this liking towards the other religion should come from within and should not be forced upon for such relationships to be succesful. I am very happy with my girl friend though she being of a different religion and we will also be getting married without anyone getting converted. There's a saying " Give respect, take respect" .

My husband and I follow the same religion. But I have friends whose spouses are from different religions. My cousin is married to a girl of a different religion. REligion doesn't create a hindrance if the couple are open and accepting. It only creates a problem when eith or both partners are rigid about their religion or customs and expects the spouse to follow their religion. From what I have observed, my friends do accept the spouse's religious beliefs and customs especially when it is not forced on them. It happens unconsciously. And the kids get the best of both worlds. They follow both parents' religions and are free to choose when they grow up. Even when different religions have different food habits for eg. a vegetarian married to a non-vegetarian, I have found the marriage working out when the partners are accepting of each other. In one instance, the non-vegetarian gave up eating non-veg in the house and would have it at their parents' place or outside. In another instance, the vegetarian partner learnt to cook non-vegetarian food but would not eat it themselves. So, it's all a matter of understanding and accepting each other.

I think different religions is not a hindrance in a good relationship as long as the husband and wife gets along fine.as for the extended family,if the majority approves of the relationship,then this is good. The children can have best of both religions and they can choose what religion they will follow.

Hi amyson, I think it depends on the people involved, if both are very religious it will very likely make a difference, if one is not it probably won't matter. Of course, there are always some who can work things out regardless of what's thrown at them. I know people with different religious backgrounds, where things have worked out very well. I do feel however, that it's something that should be worked out before marriage and certainly before having children. Blessings.

There a lot of problems caused by religions and religious beliefs and these sort of relationship problems are some of the saddest. What I think is particularly unfortunate is that none of these religions have any real basis in fact. There is no real evidence that any one religion or sect is better than any other one. I know some people have need to believe in something outside the realm of reality but it is a pity that it has to interfere with the real world

My boyfriend is seven day adventist and I am sunday church, but we get along really well. This is because we have so many other things in common; we are both sentimental, old fashion and peaceful. So being of the same faith alone will not let things go well. Communication is very important though and being compactible. I believe it can work if they both are peaceful and put love at the center of their union.

What they also have to think about, and I'm using this example mainly because its the only one I've encountered: My friend was dating a Jewish boy, and she had also just gotten her first tattoo, and I had heard previously that if you have a tattoo, and/or piercings (I may be incorrect of the piercings part) that you can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery. That turned into if they got married, she'd have to get it removed in order to be buried with her husband when the time comes.

Hello This has never been an issue for me, I don't think we should allow anyones beliefs to compromise our relationships, people take these things way to serious for me, as for the children I would let my child make this decision when they are old enough, we have so many other things to worry about . Thank you.

I don't agree with that .I think those who believe into Christ are not match with the unbelievers.Because this is a principle in the Bible. As to me ,I must marry with the one who has the same religion.Only in this way can we have many topics which we can talk deeply.Also we can go out and have a meeting together.

I think it may depend on the people involved in a relationship as to whether religion would be a problem or not. Personally, I am a Zen practitioner and have no particular religion, but I do accept concepts from all religion, but will adhere to neither one exclusively. However, because I practice Zen meditation (zazen) I understand how beliefs work and would never interfere with the belief of my partner, or anyone else. I have had strong beliefs myself, and if it weren't for those beliefs, I would not have grown to the point that I have today - so it is part of our growth that we be permitted to examine whatever belief we hold, and if later we let go of that belief, that is fine, but it is also fine if we hold it for life. All religions teach about love and understanding, even though there are some who still say that if you don't believe in their particular religion, you are damned. Personally, I feel that if you love another then you will be 100% accepting of who they are as a person together with whatever beliefs they hold. - Derek

hi amyson my hubby and I had different religions and we didnt'gight about it as they were a bit similAr although I really did not like Seventh Day adventism, I stuck to my Methodist upbringing. and we got'along just fine

Religious differences should not hinder a successful marriage, unless the couple involved are members of different religions which clearly forbid inter relgion marriages. Apart from this the couple involved should be prepared to face resistance or opposition from their relatives and society, and their actual feelings towards each other. In certain cases the strength of love can overcome most, if not all, obstacles. The couple need to look deep at their priorities in life, and and all possible reactions of other people who come to know of their relationship. They need to look far, including the time when they have children. They may also need to make plans to move to a different place. When I was in London I met several male Muslims who married Christian women. They were living a happy marriage, because they accepted that there will always be differences in attitude towards certain things. Nevertheless whatever religion we hold on to our basic characteristics as human beings are the same.

It definitely depends on how different the religions are and how open-minded the couple is. In some parts of the world a Catholic and a Protestant would just as soon spit on one another as be friends...nevermind married. But, where I live, for example, their centuries old disagreement isn't as much an issue. And while their execution is a bit different, their overall values and beliefs are quite similar. I think it all boils down to the couple, and (in some cases very unfortunately) their families. In some cases the couple has accepted their differences and found a way to deal with them but their families cannot do the same. Sad, really.

My best friend's parents were of a different religion growing up, but it never caused a hindrance to them or to the kids. Their mother took them to church and made sure that they got their religion. After the kids were all grown, her father actually converted to the same religion as we were brought up in. However, my brother and sister-in-law are of differing religions and they can't seem to find a middle road with which to bring up their daughters, thus resulting in the fact that neither of my nieces have been to church in their lives. They aren't baptized or blessed or anything like that and it makes me feel really sad for them. As for my children, my husband converted to the same religion that I am before we got married because he really wasn't brought up in a church. Both of our children are baptized and we do take them to church. However, we aren't trying to force religion on them. They are both too young to really make the decision of what they want when they are old enough to make a responsible decision.

Hello, Yes I think being of different religion may become hindrance in due course of time. Though in the beginning if the couple happen to be married after a long courtship, they may feel that they can iron out any differences. But it will turn out to be a difficult task even if one partner is very particular about his/her religion. Actuallu I feel religion is a very delicate issue. In my feeling childrenshould be brought up to respect religion because in my opinion religion is just a way of life.So parents different relions may in due course create confusion in children's mind. I have seen many cases where it has happened