can i move on...
By jheLaichie
@jheLaichie (4438)
Philippines
September 19, 2009 10:43am CST
my days are off and i am a bit of not at my right paces. life is getting hectic and then everything just goes down to drained! and i just lost the person whom i know wont be here for me.
and now i am alone.
i have friends, they are always there for me to support and give me a pat on the back when i needed it. but this time its different. i have this one friend whom i can just open up to and thanks PARTS!!! you make me alive even if i am dead for this past days. its like i am losing my mind and all i can do is cry.
and now i have tried to be here. to let it all out again. but then my tears just cant seem to stop flowing. like e rapid river of darkness, aches and a feeling of lost and undenying hurt of ones life.
but then i just try to keep it up. try to move on even if i cannot! trying to be strong if i know i am so helplessly weak and vulnerable at this moment. and then a tear again would just let go and i am running out of breath.
can i do it? can i move on? but i know i cant!!!
how can i? if i know he is the only one for me. we have been thru alot and i just cant let it pass away just like that. i need to fight! and just be strong...
jhelai
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17 responses
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
19 Sep 09
Hey be calm and Be peaceful.. Think Positive always I was also in the Same Situation as you was. But at that time no one was there for me I was Backstabed by my friends i never had a true love Cause i never had a special person who could do that. The Thing that makes me happy is know my Friends iam Enjoying with them as iam in my Paradise. Know how this drastic change became. At that the only thing run into my Mind was don't thing what others are thinking about you. You are always special to someone. Remember what Jesus said " When Someone Insults you. You are the one that is blessed" and this Sentence made my Life changed thinking that there is someone who cares from me. And for that moment my Life changed and i started getting True Friends. Don't Cry Remember when Sorrow comes in your Way there is also Happiness and Joy Behind it waiting for you. So don't feel Upset feel Free this is your Life Be yourself And Just See the Change.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
hello there Princelierocks! and thanks so much for inspirirng me.
we have been through this kind of situation. and i am happy that you did move on. and yet find a better you from all the trials that had been through with your life. and i know i could get thru it all... just have faith anfd trust in him. i know he has something good instore for us. like what you already have right now.
thanks so much again friend
jhelai
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Dear Prince,
You are right...this Words of God is so true!
When there is a sunset, there will be a sunrise
tomorrow. Soon we will see the light at the end
of the tunnel.
Dear jhe,
Hope to see a cheerful smiley soon :)
God Bless you, He cares for you!
When there is a sunset, there will be a sunrise
tomorrow. Soon we will see the light at the end
of the tunnel.
Dear jhe,
Hope to see a cheerful smiley soon :)
God Bless you, He cares for you!2 people like this
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
Iriene88, you are right my friend. a good word form the Lord. and i will always remember it. and i know HE surely does cares for me and for all of us.
thansk friend for always reminding me on how to just lift everything all up to Him.
jhelai
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Dear jheLaichie,
Your new avatar is crying too .
Cried it out, cried it loud......
You need to pour it out!
Just remember one thing :~
Everyone who came into our life, [b]has a purpose for a
reason and for a season.[/b] He is there for you when you
need him the most, he gave you the moral support, care
and love. Definitely he has left his footprint on the path
of your life. Therefore, do appreciate and treasure the
moments that you are together, the fond memories that stay
forever! At least you do HAVE IT before. He is like
an angel sent from above to look after you for a season.
I believe another angel will soon be in your life. When one
door closed, another door is open for you. You just need to
look. As times goes by, you will be fine...take care :)
.
Cried it out, cried it loud......
You need to pour it out!
Just remember one thing :~
Everyone who came into our life, [b]has a purpose for a
reason and for a season.[/b] He is there for you when you
need him the most, he gave you the moral support, care
and love. Definitely he has left his footprint on the path
of your life. Therefore, do appreciate and treasure the
moments that you are together, the fond memories that stay
forever! At least you do HAVE IT before. He is like
an angel sent from above to look after you for a season.
I believe another angel will soon be in your life. When one
door closed, another door is open for you. You just need to
look. As times goes by, you will be fine...take care :)
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
oh my dear Iriene...
thanks so much! you surely did uplift my weakend heart. and you made me smile. how come you know my dialect? i was just so amaze and happy to see such a lovely person in you as well... i am just so happy that you and the rest are here for me. to uplift my life in a moment like this.
thanks so much friend
jhelai
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@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 09
Dear jheLaichie,
You are most welcome! You are one of the
nicest person I have ever met here at myLot.
Many myLotters here will be there for you to
give you the moral support that you need.
Even we are thousand miles apart, words of
encouragement can lift a person high enough :)
God Bless you and take care!
"sige adto sa ko ha? kita-kita lang ta unya!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Sep 09
hi jhe I am sorry tohear you are so sad, you are young'and right now it seems you cannot find a silver lining in all your clouds, 'but g
believe me you will soon and You will find happiness again trust'me. Ihave been there too and felt like the world was collapsing around'me then I met the one man whom was right for me, and we fell in love, married and had children, and much happiness.now i am widowed and alone but I have had 43 years of happiness, you will too I just know'it. keep your chin up. God Bless.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
i jst do hope so my friend. its just a bad time and everything adds up. and momentarily i just cant help but just cry.
thanks friend. i know someday maybe i could. or if i could not i just hope i could again put that smile back on my face and say... "see? i have just done it already"... but for now all i can do for myself is pray and hope for the thin line to pass by...
jhelai
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@janebeth (2032)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hi jhelai,
your avatar seems also reflecting your sadness now..
she is crying a lot and very hurt, oh i am so sorry for that, 
..
i can also feel your pain when i also loose mine the other year,
but see now i am totally fine and i can say you can also do it..
maybe for now it's very hurtful because it is still fresh, but later
you can realize it's not the end of the world.. don't 
jhelai,
love your life and don't loose hope.. maybe sooner or later he will come back
and will cry in front of you, begging to accept him back, we'll see..
janebeth.
..
i can also feel your pain when i also loose mine the other year,
but see now i am totally fine and i can say you can also do it..
maybe for now it's very hurtful because it is still fresh, but later
you can realize it's not the end of the world.. don't jhelai,
love your life and don't loose hope.. maybe sooner or later he will come back
and will cry in front of you, begging to accept him back, we'll see..
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
thanks my dear janebeth. i am not letting go yet ... and still holding on. i love him and that is what matters most for me right now.
though how hard this could be, but i never losses hope. and i would truly love my life much more better now. i just have to let go of the pain and aches and cry it all out. its been three days that my pains are not subsiding. but i am just still here... waiting, hoping, praying...
jhelai
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
.. do you have misunderstandings?? or third party??
i know you don't want to think it back all over again but i am really confused..
hhhmmmm can i say all of the above my friend. well its really complicated but i do not want to think about it all over again. but what can i say i cannot hlp but think and then cry some more...
jhelai
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
First of all, sorry for your loss. I'm a bit confused, is this a lost love or a lost friend? Anyway my answer is yes you can move on! Everyone can. Remember your not really alone. I'm sure there are other people around you, you're just taking them for granted because your focus is only with one person. If you tend to see the things and the people around you in a different manner, I'm sure you'll realize your not alone and definitely your not alone:)
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
can i just say i am losing both?! yes i guess we surely can... but i just dont know how... life for me is always like this. never a moment where there would be this one person whom tobe mine. and i always end up being lonely and alone all over again.
its like a cycle and now i just dont know how to move on...
jhelai
and thanks friend
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@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
Yes, you can. I am sure you will, after a considerable amount of time. I know it is just so hard to forget, most especially if you know that that someone is so special and is hard to live without. But you have to face the truth that there are certain things in life that just happen because it is ought to be. Everything happens for a reason, as you would know. Well may be you will not be able to know the reason behind it as of now, but someday, you will. Moving on takes a lot of courage and patience, and I hope by the time that you did move on, you will no longer have bitter feelings anymore. You can do it girl! Just believe that you can. You have your friends that will help you pull through somehow. Cheer up!
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
thanks so much dear! your one in a million! and i thank you for being here. i am doing mylot and everything else from now on. to occupy my time and as not to think of anything in particular for a moment. you are so right! i can always talk to you and the rest of my mylot community!!!
thanks much
jhelai
@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
You are always welcome :) Just remember to keep yourself busy so that you can shift your attention to more productive things and not waste your time pondering over that matter. myLot is always a first to get yourself preoccupied! you can always to talk to us here :)
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Hi there,
I'm sorry that you are so so sad. I don't know what to say not knowing the circumstances. Are you going thru a breakup or did someone die? I guess it doesn't matter. You are hurting and I am going to give you a big hug and I hope others will do the same. {{{{HUGS}}}}}.
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
i don't know particularly how you can move on for this is one thing that humans figure out for themselves by instinct since it is embedded in us to survive be it physically or mentally preserve our sense of it. of course you can move on. no offense but almost everyone in the planet underwent what you're going through and some (surprisingly) coped when everyone thought they lost it already. besides if coping up with something like this is close to impossible then i guess we'd all be zombie-like now from depression.
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
as others may say there is always hope. when we are depressed we say so many things we never thought we could have in us. but yes i know i can move on my friend. God wont give us problems we cannot handle and everything that happens always happens for a reason. maybe its just that we need to open up our lives to such changes and still cope up with it in our own small ways. thansk friend for such a wonderful response.
jhelai
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@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
i feel sorry with what you are feeling now. just be strong, every sadness and frustrations in life will just end and it will be exchange with something color... pray to God, and have more time talking to HIM... that would help a lot...
@Crazyracer (177)
• China
20 Sep 09
yeah,jhelaichie,you should, could and shall move on, though you think you cant, but actually you can, definitely! 'cuase time wont leave anyone at any piont of the history. and now one of my friend encountered the same question, but i dont known how to persude her to move on because i have something to do with this condition of her. but when i come to yours, i clearly know the future of you, you would overcome the situation as the time goes by. something or someone new will overwhelm you. and get you busy, i will be helpful.
and happy life, more confidence, time will leave nothing to the past!
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
20 Sep 09
It does take time but you will find you a love again. Someone who will make you smile in every way. Someone to laugh with you and even cry. They will be there for you through thick and thin when there is no one else out there for you they will be there. Don't give up hope. It will happen again and they will be a lot better. Did it just recently happen, if so, then you do need time to cope but then it will pass and everything will be okay.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hello there trisha. sorry if it is just now that i was able to comment back on your response. i just have a very tiring and hectic month and now i hope i could be back in full force again. i just miss this joint.
anyways, yes you are so right. everything would be okay. there is always hope for alll of us who have been weary and in deep longing for such eagerness in life to be a new one. all needed to do is pray and pray and hope that someday things would be okay. thanks friend
jhelai
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hello lovely jhelai, what's wrong. you know it's like just seeing small pieces of the puzzle here. I believe every-one, most specially you can move on if you are determine to do so, i had my moments too like this planned reunion. am afraid to show up because i think am the only one who didn't really make it alright in terms of having a job. i don't like being pitty by them.
People come and go. and probably you must have some affection to this person that you have open yourself to. just so you know i don't have that much friends off-line, just here. 
. 143. you're not alone.@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
whew! sorry for such late responses from me. i am quite out of my league this couple of days... and i am not being here for a month already. so sad but true. just so busy with work and all other things. that i was not able to give my comments to all my discussions. hope i over from all of this soon.
thansk so much my friend LK. i know what you mean. i have been to such situations before as well. but yes you are right! we and i must move on. there are much greener pasture yet to be found...
thanks dear
jhelai
@cannabizmachine (14)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hi there miss lychee. :) of course you can move on. just don't give up. everything will be ok soon. life is just like that... full of diappointments. but that's why we are here for. to be alive and to be pissed off! i can relate to what you are feeling right now my friend. and i don't understand why these things keep on happening. but anyway, just don't give up with all those s**t. you still can find a way to get out of that hole you are in. just like what they said, everything happens for a reason. and that reason maybe, is for you to be more stronger and tough. don't waste your time thinking about your loss. think about on how you can overcome the burden. it's just a matter of diverting your attention. look for things which you find interesting and focus on it instead of sitting there and flooding your room with tears. this site is a big help actually. you got a lot of friends in here. and they will be always there for you because you are a nice person indeed. cheer up! :) we are all here for you.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
thanks so much dear cannabizmachine. and you are right!!! so right that i just end up laighing this whole b*LLsh*tz out of my darn life!!! we go through a lot in this F8ckin life but that is how and always will be. how can we be strong and know how to deal with it if we haventgone through it at all..
i am diverting myself to a more progressive me and mylot is one of the best there is for that kind of thing.
thanks
and you did cheer me up!
jhelai
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
22 Sep 09
hi jhelai.
is this another tele-serye in the philippine television? or is this going to be an MMK production? just trying to cheer you up.
let's move on, anyway it is, we can always move and look forward. i had been through a lot of downfalls before, name it, you can have it. but those never stopped me. and look at me now. i still stand, head up high. looking forward to every sunshine. cheer up.
just trying to cheer you up.
let's move on, anyway it is, we can always move and look forward. i had been through a lot of downfalls before, name it, you can have it. but those never stopped me. and look at me now. i still stand, head up high. looking forward to every sunshine. cheer up. 
@dbutheking (2347)
• India
21 Sep 09
Hi jheLai,
So, you lost your friend?? That's really sad.
You lost the person mean he leaves you or misunderstood you?
You have been crying all day from making this discussion, it is time for you to move on..
But i really confused whether you lost your friend or lover.
You need to fight with him? Why?
Have a great day.
So, you lost your friend?? That's really sad.
You lost the person mean he leaves you or misunderstood you?
You have been crying all day from making this discussion, it is time for you to move on..
But i really confused whether you lost your friend or lover.
You need to fight with him? Why?
Have a great day.
@al2fenrir (64)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
I'd been in the same situation many times already. I use to get depress just like you did. But believe me, it'll pass, and there will be happiness waiting for you somewhere along the road. It may not appear the same way as you had been asking for, but it can provide you the same satisfaction. Just wait..
I can only hope that you will remain open until that time. Meanwhile, you can divert your attentions to other things.. cry if you have to, that's better than keeping it inside. Experiment on other things.. get yourself busy.. these should help you clear your mind.
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