facebooking
By reza092
@reza092 (76)
Bangladesh
September 19, 2009 11:57am CST
Is facebooking ruining our habit of formal and regular communication? I regularly update, check out & comment on friends update & photos. And in regular basis friendlist is increasing exponentially. My friends are also doing so. They are now informing about themselves over facebook rather than formally informing. Recently we have arranged a party and the party information was not formally informed to all, it was just updated on facebook. The party was not fully successful. Now my concern is, is facebooking ruining our cordial relationship and making it a machinery and imaginary one????
8 responses
@uchihaseymour (1025)
• American Samoa
19 Sep 09
i found facebook so fun. i enjoy facebook. its where i enjoy my time with my friends, commenting updated photos, playing apps with my friends, know more about them, know more about friends, the latest trends and what's new about anything. you can also enjoy facebooks' features. however, unlike friendster you cant put on music backgrounds and profile editings. one thing i found on frienster is this one. its weird but fun. try to do this also^_^ http://darksanninpaolo.blogspot.com/2009/09/facebook-magic-jutsu.html
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
In a way, yes. It's a techy world and let's face that. I'm a Facebook user and for me, it keeps me updated with my friends. Although we might say it's informal coz we only post blogs/shout outs in FB, it's the fastest (I guess), and easiest way to let everyone know your activities. Especially if you've no available phone number from your friend/ email. Actually it depends on the occasion too. If you've a wedding invitation, of course you wouldn't just post it on FB, right? I mean, if it's a party that nobody should miss, then of course a formal invitation (cards, etc)should be given. Maybe because they relied too much on technology (and they thought everyone was actually an active FB user) that they failed on having a successful party. It's just sad to know that people are slowly turning their backs from the traditional just because it's been taken over by modern gadgets/applications.
@twowizdom (861)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hi there reza092,
I totally agree with what you said, even I check facebook and my other accounts on other social networking sites regularly and it has become a daily routing for me. And it does affect our lives and on how we communicate with each other.
@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
I agree with you my friend. I have a bad experience too with facebook and it happened to be a bad one. There was this one day that we are going out for a review in our school. Then on that night before the review the venue was change. I was not inform because it was only posted on facebook and then I have no facebook yet that time. I was really angry because no one informed me not even in text message. I believe that it can ruin our daily communication and facebook is not an option of communication because once your post gets older it will go to the last page and it is hard to find and it will waste a lot of time.
@morange (92)
• Nepal
20 Sep 09
Yes i agree to you...Facebook really has ruined the life of many..they just sit in their room and start to chat with the friends too..which results in laziness...they dont like to go out too..mainly many of my friends play games in facebook rather than doing anything else...so this is not good too..
@animesh271094 (8)
• India
20 Sep 09
facebook has indeed ruined our traditional and formal system of cummunication.
when i initially joined facebook. it was fun cuz i started answering quizzes, used to chat with my friends, comment on photos,etc.
but when my(who is on fb) meets me in real, then u feel kind of odd when u try to shake hands with him. u just intend to say "lol!"
instead when we directly communicating with our friends, its much better.
i dont say that fb is the only such social networking siteas which are ruining our formal system of cummunication. other sites like orkut, myspace, etc are much the same.
@maude07 (61)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
Facebook is there to be an alternative way to connect with our friends. Nothing still beats communication personally with others. Personally, I enjoy Facebook in terms of games and reading updates from my friends. It is fun to learn what your friends are doing during the times that you're not together. But, still, it's more fun to meet up with them or talk to them over the phone.
@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Sep 09
In a sense, Facebook is probably ruining "traditional" means of communication. But certainly it has made communicating more convenient. I certainly don't have the time to chit chat with each and every friend that I have on the phone, nor write individual emails. Letter writing is out because snail mail isn't fast enough (and postage stamp costs are only on the rise). I don't have to send (or pay for) hard copies of photos as I can just upload them on Facebook for everyone can see them. I can be in contact with everyone all at once - at my own convenience when I get to the computer.
However, I don't think it's making our relationships like machinery or imaginary. I do get together with the people whom I consider my good friends . . . we have a relationship that defnitely goes beyond Facebook - and we all know that. I do not have this outside relationship with all the people on my friends list - and that's ok. At least we are in some kind of contact - versus no contact at all. Under the old communication circumstances, I don't think I would have contacted them at all. So Facebook has given me a wider range of "friends" around the world to say hi too . . . my real friends know who they are.
For something like a party information, I don't think I would have posted that info on Facebook. There's always a chance that someone could miss it (how many times have we overlooked someone's news?). If it's something important like an event, I would at least make phone calls or send personal emails or an e-vite or a snail mail invitation so everyone gets the information for sure.