Hard Decision Please Help

Philippines
September 20, 2009 5:52am CST
I made this discussion because of a friend suffering such situation. If you will be in such situation, which one will you choose, love or money? Let's dig more on the situation. She has a boyfriend but her parents don't like him. Her parents like another man who is rich but my friend doesn't even like the guy. She's really in a hard decision making because her parent kept on telling her to marry the rich guy (this guy is willing to). I suppose, the parents are in a great need of money. What do you think should my friend do? She really loves her boyfriend.
2 responses
• India
20 Sep 09
Hii cyber This is not a normal issue to deal with however this is her life and her situation so unnecessarily don't involve yourself into that matter unless and until you have decided that you would face the consequences of your involvement and the consequences may sometime disturb your life.Thats my sincere request and advise out of own experience.. Now lets come to the problem.First let me ask you something..In these situations we should think practically.. How are the parents towards your friend rite from her childhood? If they are very good parents from her childhood onwards then I don't think they would force her into a marriage just for money. Secondly Is this boyfriend of hers settled in life? If not then its in the best interests of your friend to leave him.because how can she follow him if that person is still depending on his parents.. I think her parents are scared that she might unnecessarily waste her life in the name of love.. My advise is if that boy is well settled in life and is earning good income,let him go and talk with her parents if he is earning good there is no reason why they should object? If he is unemployed then ur friend should better leave him because you know the obvious reasons... Ofcourse all the above stated things are what I think are practical issues regarding this because I am not present there and I don't know whats the situation is......
@Lucky09 (1763)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
hi cyber^^; We cannot blame the parents sometimes.. there are some women who are blind and madly inlove with irresponsible men. Ofcourse, we should follow what the heart says but getting married is not that simple. If she get married with someone merely because she love him and doesn't consider how they build their family then it would end up to something she will be regretting. If her boyfriend is responsible enough and can support her financially when they start to have a family, then she can go for it. They should show to her parents that even if the guy isn't that rich but if they work hard together then they can soon be successful.^^;;