Financial stability is also the infrastructure of a relationship

That is right. Many couples fight over the money matter, and they just blind by the sight of how important money can influence their lives. Maybe it is a true statement. But without a love and strong relationship, Whether money exist or not, they still gonna split.

Yep, if you don't have that inner connection, it doesn't matter how much money or how little you have, or how it is spit between you, you will eventually part company. In fact, I am willing to bet that 'money' can be used to start an argument or a difference of opinion, which can facilitate (subconsciously or otherwise) the start of a split.

You are so right. Lack of money can be a real relationship breaker. But it is a rather general term. There are so many elements to a relationship, and there are many combinations of reasons why a couple might split. Money being just one strand. YOu are right about there being never enough. We tend to live beyond our means, that in itself is a stress, and if you have a chaotic and pathological relationship (I'm trying to picture that, hmm!) then no matter how much you have, it's not going to make that aspect of your life an easier. Money can't buy you love, but it helps you to love to buy.....£££££££££ Yeah!

Be Strong. Have faith. Things will get better.

What a lovely post. Best wishes to you both. If you end up in a tent, then at least you will be together. I am the main breadwinner in my relationship. We have been married 28 years, and will have been together for 30 in November this year. We have had bad times and good times (financially) and are currently going through a very bad time. But we try not to let it bother us. We have lots of good friends, who are also having bad times. We share what we have on occasion, and it comes back to us ten-fold. The friction that can be caused by frustration at not having enough money to cover your commitments, can be devastating. But the commitments are still there, even if you fall out with each other. You can make it work, if you scale things down. The only consolation to having a bad time financially, at the moment, is that I am positive it is not my fault. It is the banks' fault. They caused this recession and now one of my little businesses has folded, and the other is teetering on the edge. I am earning just enough to pay some bills. But I know that my creditors are pleased to get anything, even small amounts, rather than nothing if I go bankrupt (which I won't). I know what you mean about letting things bother you. I think this philosophical approach comes with age and experience. You have come so far, and have survived this far, that you feel able to continue without the crying and the desperation - after all, stress can kill you. So, don't stress. Accept that things will get better and keep you health in the meantime. If you are broke, take a walk in the park - hold hands, walk at night, look at the stars, read more- take self-help books from the library, start a supper club where friends bring food dishes around, and you eat together and have good company for very little money. The world is bigger than the size of your bank balance. Be together or give each other space/quiet to grow as individuals and as a couple, as we do. Enjoy each other - there are no pockets in shrouds.

Now that's what I call a deal breaker. There is no love in a relationship like that. Just a user taking from another, almost like a pimp. There is no way I could survive a relationship like that. In fact, I wish there was a questionnaire which you could give to your prospective partner, with all kinds of scenarios like that one, asking him what he would do if.....blah! and then, later, you can show it to him, and get him off his butt.

I believe that, through compromise, both sides can work things out easily. Without compromising, and understanding, no matter how you try to solve the problem. it just simply persisted as it was. So, love and compromise, and work together as a good team is great important project for a relationship to work it out.

Great mind are think alike. Yes, we have to face reality somehow, and we shouldn't neglect the fact that a strong relationship must go through many difficulties in times too. We have build up our financial stability through cooperation as team work. We shouldn't always put on complaint on each other. We learn to love and work together as a great team.