i am confused what the true friendship is?

@peace001 (726)
China
September 21, 2009 3:43am CST
today i feel bad for my best friend seems to isolate me,it makes me hurt.we know each other when we was young,and she is my best friend in my opinion.and so we have the same friends.one of our friends have an badly accident,she knew it,but did not tell me anything.today when i answer a call from my friend and know what has happen to him.i am so sad.why does she do this to me?why not to tell me immediately? i am confused.i think it over and over and don't know what is wrong between us?
5 responses
• South Korea
21 Sep 09
hmmm... did you do anything to anger your freind? maybe shes really sad and just needs to see that you are a faithful friend. =D
@peace001 (726)
• China
21 Sep 09
i promise i don't do anything to hurt her.and i trust her why not to believe me just like i believe her?in my opinion a real friend should trust and believe each other first.
@Archie0 (5652)
21 Sep 09
there is no definite of true friendship as every relationship is different. the important qualities that make a friendship true in my opinion are trust, things in common, ability to give advice without being judgemental, being truthful even if it may cause offence...yes your bum looks big in that, don't go out in it...and knowing that whatever happens you can depend on your friend to share the good times and help you through the bad! hope that answers your question
@peace001 (726)
• China
22 Sep 09
you are right,i can not agree you more.i will think it over and find what is the really problem between us.thanks
@celticeagle (170798)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Sep 09
Some people are just that way. They want to take care of it themselves or they want to not bother their friends with things. I am that way. I don't want to bother good friends with emotion or bad things. The friend will probably hear about it later anyway and i just don't want to bother my friend with it. Maybe I feel they will worry or stress.
@celticeagle (170798)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 09
Yes, I so agree. It is truly how we show ourselves in times of adversity that shows our true friendship.
@peace001 (726)
• China
22 Sep 09
hi,celticeagle.but as a friends we should help and do our best to him or her. and good friends can will not desert you in time of adversity.i just do what i can do for him or her.
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@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
21 Sep 09
when you try to figure out why people do what they do. my thing learning to deal with it is more imporant. but i would like just call her up and ask what's up with you and ask why is she doing this
@peace001 (726)
• China
22 Sep 09
hi,syankee525.it will be a ways to solve the problem,but on the other sides it will make our embarrassed.so i think the best way is to keep silence and just do waht i want to do.time can give me a answer.
@redhotpogo (4398)
• United States
21 Sep 09
maybe just needed some time to grieve first. probably just didn't want to bother you with all her crying, and drama.
@peace001 (726)
• China
22 Sep 09
yes,at first i can not believe it and feel sad.and i think it will become fine and time can tell.
• India
21 Sep 09
hi peace001, Have you ever wondered what the real essence of saying " A Friend in need is a Friend Indeed" is ? people talk about the true value of friendship actually with knowing what it stands for. True Friendship is the one, in which individuals do not have to maintain formalities with each other. Sharing two persons is the situation, when the person you are talking about is counted as one amoung your family members, when the relation you share with him/her reaches a stage that even if you don't correspond for sometime, your friendship remains unscathed. Best friends need not meet up often to make sure that the friendship remains constant. The trust between best friends is such that if one friend falls in trouble, then the other will not think twice to help. If the bond between two friends is strong, true friends can endure even long distances. It would not effect their friendship. They make it a point to stay in touch. even in the verge of being exhausted due to the drudgery of every day life. True friendship never fades away..In fact, it grows better with time. True friendship thrives on trust, inspiration and comfort. Best friends come to know, when the other person is in trouble, merely by listening to their "Hello" over the phone. They can even understand each other's silence... True friends are not opportunists. They don't help, because they have something to gain out of it. True friendship is marked by Selflessness. Best friends support even each other, even if the whole world opposes them. It is not easy getting true friends for the life time. If you have even one true friend, consider yourself blessed. Remember, all best friends are friends , but not all friends can be the best friends. In this world of cynics and back stabbers , there are still some people who are worth being friends with. They have to recognized and respected for being the best friends, for the life time....
@peace001 (726)
• China
22 Sep 09
yeah,thanks!never again will i contribute to my downfall by refusing to face the truth and learn from my past mistakes.then i will know what the real friendship is. the good friend will not make you cry.you arae right,not all friends are best friends,the real friendship needs you to recognise.it is saying that it is easy to earn lots of money,but it is hard to meet a best friend.