do you believe in arranged marriages?
By killersss
@killersss (638)
India
September 21, 2009 5:02am CST
hello everyone, i would like to, how many of you believe in arranged marriages. if you ask me, i don't believe in arranged marriages, i think if you don't love your partner than there is no point of marrying to him/her. that would be just a formality. love should be there to have a successful marriage. what do you think?
have a nice day and keep smiling!!!
6 responses
@killersss (638)
• India
21 Sep 09
hello, thanks for responding,
yes you are very right, both should understand each other then only, they can live happily. take care and have a nice day.
@Archie0 (5652)
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21 Sep 09
I personally prefer to "arrange" my own marriages. The main requirement for me is not even "love", it's compatibility. What good does it do if you're in love, but not compatible? If you find someone you're compatible with, and who's company you enjoy - love will come; but to do so, I believe you have to look yourself, not have someone look for you. It is likely that you will make mistakes and experience setbacks - but these are good life lessons; no one can learn them for you, you really need to try yourself.
@killersss (638)
• India
21 Sep 09
hello, thanks for responding,
that is a bery good point that you made about being compatible, that is true that you should be compatible to get married, if you are not compatible and in love it is of no use. thanks for sharing views. take care.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
i don't subscribe to arranged marriages. but this is a cultural thing and should respect countries practicing this.
i still believe the people should get married because of what they strongly feel for each other. marriage happens because they love one another and are committed to a harmonious life ahead.
@killersss (638)
• India
21 Sep 09
hello, thanks for responding,
that is so very true what all you said,i think marriages happens when two people strongly feel for each other and they love each other,
take care and have a nice day!!
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
21 Sep 09
In my life personally no I dont agree nor do I believe in them....BUT I do realize and understand that in some countries and cultures its the norm and has been for centuries ya know..I dont think its fair to either person by any means...In fact in some cases (probably more than less really) I think its downright cruel and somewhat mentally and emotionally abusive BUT again, I realize that for many around the world its just the way it is...
@killersss (638)
• India
21 Sep 09
hello ravendadyj,
thanks for responding,
i don't believe in it too, but yes you are right that in many countries it is practiced and people do get married forcefully, i think that is not good.
take care and have a nice day.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Sep 09
i think it depends on personality and beliefs. i think love is hard to define from infatuation and lust. i was married 4 times that turned out wrong. i thought i was in love but it was obviously infatuation and/or lust. i finally married a 5th time and learned to love the guy more then anyone ever. i respected him. and he was very good to me. he became my soul mate and should have been with me from the start. so, therefore im not sure i guess.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
27 Nov 12
Arranged marriages do not exist in my country or culture. But I think that every culture has its own ways of getting together people. A succesful marriaghe may start with love (or attractions, or passion). But at the end, what counts, is respect, compatibility and a great deal of patience in both sides.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
26 Jun 12
I think it's terrible to go through it. It's unthinkable to accept and live with the choice of others and not feel the thrill that is naturally lead you to the altar and not an obligation.
There were whole centuries of arranged marriages, but do not know how I feel that great love, those that had to happen, happened, however, and when. As the chance great love, keep by destiny, not the will of parents. That love is a chance that transcends the ages, weights, resistance. And that no matter how oppressed the arrangements would be those who need to meet will meet ...
