to love or to hate

I do neither. I just stay away and pray for their well-being sometimes. Most times, I just stay away and think things through. I'd rather be neutral than find out which side I would be on. I just don't want to know what I could do if ever I swayed towards the wrong side. At least there's one less person to worry about right? Heh heh.

Hi marctiu, well it depends really on many things. It's always a case to case basis, as who was it in your life, what did he do to offend you, what was his purpose, how he had treated you on the past. All of these contributes as to how you are gonna feel towards the offense made. I don't like keeping grudges but sometimes its not that easy to forgive especially if you have forgiven him like a million times already and still keeps on doing it. But I don't thing that I would love him more because he did something wrong. I mean that is totally weird. Why would you love someone more because he did something bad or wrong to you. I think the more appropriate word for that is "thankful", if you feel you did learn something or got more mature because of it. Right? =)

I do not hate anyone. It is too much trouble.

Maybe I’m not mature enough I still feel difficult to forgive people who insult me or hurt me. So I can not say I will love them. But I also can not to say I hate them. Life is too short to hate somebody. I will choose to avoid them. I need to get more mature, but I don’t think people who insult me help me to get it. Many things happened in my life would help me to be a mature and strong person.

I just had to say, "you can only get wrinkles out of" having grudges is such a sweet way to put it! Lovely. I'm with you. I think anger comes from hurt, and the basic immediate need is to hurt someone back to let them know how it feels, but if you take the higher ground and rise above it, you feel much better later on, no matter how difficult it is at the time. Sometimes you have to let go of people who have betrayed you, but I think the best way is to send them on their way with the best of intentions. And if you've never had the bad times in your life, how on earth can you appreciate the good, anyway? If someone in your life turns out to be unworthy of your attention, they've still taught you something, but sometimes you just have to look a bit harder to find the lesson. There's a purpose to everything, and the bottom line is, you wouldn't be the person you are today if all the things that have happened in the past had never been. So I think, let it go, and live your life. The best revenge is living well!

humn...i am a type of person..who forgive to someone..for their guilty..but i never forgive those person..who are hurted my feelings...i hate those peoples..who hurted someone's feelings..and never admit their guilty..

I can be a passionate, loving or forgiving person. But I can be at times be a person full of hatred and grudges. I am just human. My emotions do change in every occassion and in every person that I meet. If somebody offends me, much more if he/she did it on purpose, don't expect me to love him/her. . .

Hi Marctiu Well it's a difficult question, personally I am a forgiving person too, though I don't usually forget bad things that have been done to me, but I do forgive those people. However I usually having hard time to forget things that are done by people over and over, bad things than being done by the same person over and over, would makes me very-very difficult in forgiving them, I usually avoid conversation or talks with that person so I won't hold grudge on them more. Maybe you should give me and advice for this ..

i a not a wonderful soul like you. when someone hurts me i get detached to the person to some extent. i may keep my interaction on, in this case i would not even try to hurt the person but for sure i would not have any affection for the person. i would maintain a formal relation that would just keep us in touch.

I guess that depends on what they made you experience. I am like you a forgiving person but when someone hurts my family it is not that easy to forgive especially if they are trying to disregard your kids. I have met people who thinks that they are better than me and I neither hate or love them for that.

You say very well,I agree.I wish you good luck!

Hi Marctiu, You may think me a bad person for this, but I do hold grudges. I tend to be quite picky about who I take out a grudge against, but if I ever do take a grudge against someone I can be quite hard to shift from it. Generally though I only hold grudges against people who have really done something to wrong me, so bullies, or people who mess with me in certain unforgivable ways. I also hold minor grudges, so if someone I really care about breaks a promise with me then I will hold a grudge against them, but it will be one that can be resolved by talking or something similar. If someone hurts me on a mental level I hold grudges against them either until I either know why they did it, or enough time goes by without any repeat incidents that I realise I am overreacting and can relax again. All that said, I am a very loving person. If it wasn't for that wouldn't be able to hate I don't think. All the best, Dranz

I don't get angry very quickly and often but when I do, I tend to hold grudges. But with time, I eventually forget it and you could say, forgive the person who offended me. I don't believe in holding grudges but what I say and what I feel are sometimes different. My head tells me to hold a grudge while my heart tells me no. My heart does not often win over my head although I try to be rationale. No point in getting mad at someone for long especially for petty reasons.

Hi, marctiu! I'm definitely a more loving person than a hateful person. I have been hurt in my life: by mere acquaintances to family members whom I trusted. The prevailing emotion I feel is not anger, but deep hurt. Of course there is betrayal and a touch of anger as well. There might be a period of time where I do hold somewhat of a grudge but as you said, it is useless to hold grudges and it does nothing positive for my heart and my well being. I don't think I've ever truly hated someone. I think someone would have to do something really truly horrible to me or someone I love for me to hate him or her.

Hi Marctiu, I'm kind of person who hate and love. But my hatred never last that long, coz i can forgive someone in a long run. I'm also a loving one to those who dear to me. Happy myLoting.