Jealous Friend
By Sherka
@Sherka (82)
Jamaica
September 21, 2009 12:03pm CST
My best friend and i talk about everything,he knows i think everything about me. When we became friends he had a girlfriend and he said he loved her, they fight alot and we'd talk about, sometimes its seem like they are gonna break up but they never did. I was single from the start of the friendship. he confessed that he has feelings for me and if he didn't have a girlfriend he would want to be with me. i later got a boyfriend and now he acts jealous most of the time, he refuse to call like before because he says it makes him uncomfortable. But then he said that he's my friend he wishes me the best in the relationship. But after a while i stopped hearing from him and i asked him why he's acting so weird and making me feel guilty about starting a relationship. He said that i knew that he liked me and i knew that he and his girlfriend were hanging on by a thread why couldn't i wait on him. He says i'm moving too fast and that i hurt him and i have every right to feel guilty. Is he being selfish by asking me to wait on him. What would you do in my situation.
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7 responses
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Sherka-
If you love and feel strongly about your new boyfriend I would explain this to your friend. He had a chance to have a relationship with you. He could have been honest with his girlfriend that he had no true feelings for her and had a relationship with you at that level. He made the choice not to, so now you have to do what is best for you. It is wrong of him to give you a guilt trip though. However, to paraphrase loosely a comment the late Eleanor Roosevelt once said, no one can make you feel anything unless you choose to feel so.
Namaste-Anora
@dpauli (407)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 09
You've done the right thing by moving forward and not wasting time on someone that cannot even make decision for himself. Why would you have to wait on him without any assurance that he would leave his girl then be with you. Moreover it's not good starting out with someone while he's still having some disputes in his past relationship. Keep moving forward and let not wasting more time on him. If he's a good friend, he realize it. Just keep being nice. :)
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
22 Sep 09
He Is An Opportunist .. Say Bye to His Friendship .. There Are A Lot of Single Guys In this World More Worthy Of A Relationship .. Knock Him Off From Your Friend Circle Immediately .. The More You Wait .. The More You Suffer ..
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
21 Sep 09
i would tell him he is not moving fast enough. He knows he likes you, his relationship with his gfriend is next to nothing, why not leave her before it was too late? Some man think that the girl they like will be there forever. If you really like someone and think there is a chance, you would do everything to speed up the process wouldn't you? Don't feel guilty, just because he didn't want to move fast enough to be with you doesn't mean you had to wait for him forever.
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Oh my God that guy is full of insecurities, because why on earth he will let you wait for him to become free?if he really loves you, there's should be no condition. He is just making you an option and I think that's not an indication of a genuine love. He never loves you at all, just concentrate in your relationship with your boyfriend, who knows he is the right person whom God given to you.
@Dewfunk (87)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 09
Hmm he may be a bit selfish but that's normal cause I think he do loves you and he believes you loved him too. For him you might be the one he want to spent his time with all day, and when you have someone special he is hurting inside. My question would be do you liked him more than a friend too? cause sometime the best lovers is the best of best friends. My point is if both of you liked each others it would be better if you guys be together, because you might regret it when he really leaves you.
@snowy22315 (180703)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I think jealousy on any level makes people do strange things and I think that sort of thing is no exception. There are alot of things that people do that are partly a function of jealoys and envy. I just think that you should concentrate on your friends and don't worry what the others are thinking.
