Think of another person's feelings

I do not think that it was a racist comment. Most probably the guy was trying to stress on a point. It is a fact that different cultures approach the same thing from different angles. Someone moving into a different culture should try to find a compromise, instead of trying to force his/her values on the host culture. I lived in the UK for eight years, spending the last four years as a nurse, so I am not making assumptions out of nothing. The other man should have a discussion with his colleague first, instead of running to the boss and make a formal complaint. Maybe the guy should have explained to the other person without making any country comparison by for example saying "There are procedures that we follow here, and it seems that the method you use is not compliant to the procedures." Racism works both ways.

I can see how this might have come about - I am very respectful of other countrie when I go there but, in return I expect other cultures to be respectful of the way we do things over here and I get quite annoyed by how we change things so much in this country because of other nationalities not liking our way of doing hings - we after all wouldn't expect other nations to change for us and most certainly wouldn't!

Hey max, I think we have to take the circumstanses here into consideration. However, I can see where the local person may be coming from, as different things are done differently in some countries, as you well know from all your travels. However, if it was directed personally, and had an ulterior motive, then that could be a totally different situation.

I guess it depends on what the guy was talking about. If it was how to cook, or something that would generally be different in any country, then I can see how he could have taken offense to it. But, if it was something that was illegal, like jaywalking then I don't think that the man should have been offended. Nor should the comment be construed as racial. When I was in the Philippines, there were a number of men from Malaysia skinny dipping in the pool at the hotel. Many people took offense to this, and they had to be warned several time. Maybe that is the way they do things in their country, but they shouldn't be offended that others don't approve of it.

I really don't think it as racist. It was just a way of him telling the other guy that he was doing something that was messed up and possibly giving an opportunity for discussion on how something worked to someone else. It doesn't matter where you're from, you're always going to hear comments like this....in my country, state, house, school, town, it doesn't matter...the comment is always the same. Even Alice in "Alice in Wonderland" says...."In my world, it would be like this" and no one seems to be offended by it.

Hi maxine, Hi think that the man who made such a comment, more than being racist, was very stupid. But usually both things go together. Noone can put in the same basket all the people of one country. There are all kinds of people everywhere. I would have complained too. Many times I say nasty things about my country with other chileans. Noone likes EVERYTHING in his country. But another very different thing is that I hear comments of people who are not chilean. It IS different. I read many times of american politics here at mylot, but I don´t say anything. It´s not my country. I can have my opinion but I will not word it. It would only hurt. Hug friend!

maximaxi8 well that man should have handled that better than 'that as it came off racist but I think he meant there are several ways to do this,but here we do it this way.now that'is not offensive unless the other man had a chip on his shoulder and one should not be too uptight when working with other races as there are bound to be differences. the other man should have just listened to his boss and done things the way the boss wanted them done, this has nothing really to do with race just more with different work places. No the Pakistani should not have taken offense as he has to learn how this company does things, not how the other places he worked did things. so the English man needs to leave out the country and the pakistani needs to not be so quick to take offense.

i would say that the man made a harsh comment. though i can't say if it was racist or any thing. but i agree with you we should say it nicely that will not hurt other feelings. that man did seem to intentionally a harsh remark because he was angry or pissed on something. i hate this kind of remark . i stay from such people who just give such remark casually.

Hi Maximax8, I think while the intention of the man making the comment might have been a good one ;what he said and the way he said was not ok . He might have told : "This is not the way things work in England" . Why refer to a person's country or race etc ? Would that man have felt right ;if he had been at the receiving end . Regards

I agree. We have to consider the feelings of others even though we are in different races. But most of the time racial discrimination arises especially if we are in foreign land. The color, cultures, beliefs and the way of living of individual that we carry everywhere we go. Like how do we expressed ourselves, because this the way we are raised by our parents. I had an experienced during my stay in Italy, one of citizen there smiled at me sarcastically for the reason I don't understand. I blushed in front of her. Whew! the unforgettable moment. All I can say is: be a good man to each and everyone wherever we are. Be nice and friendly.

It is very nice thinking to understand another person feeling.The person who is standing in front of me will love with me if we understand him/her feelings. But his/her feelings sould be considerable to all point of view not only me. In India very little people can do this because they have not good response for another.

some people come to do a job without changing themself.they are havig in them ego of their native place their personality and their family background.it hurts their colleague most.we can ignore their egoistic style as much as can .we can not afford to teach them .in such cases we can pray to god .some people are effecting to people to little extent . we can easily handle them by .we talk to them in a very friendly manner and they will become good person.

well, we just can't avoid that can we? if that guy from pakistan did something that upset the brit and said that, for me i'l be pissed for sure. but of course, it's also a good information for them to know that what ever that person's doing is not allowed in England.

If he did not mention Pakistan like saying "That might be the way you do things but we do it differently here in England", it wouldn't have been impolite. In effect he was being a bit rude, because it's like saying we do things here better in England than in Pakistan. The guy who made that comment is very aware of that guy being a Pakistani and not someone who should be considered as his colleague without mentioning or commenting on his country of origin. To my mind, people should be proud of their countries of origin (even if it's a poverty, corrupt ridden country). It's what makes up you, who you are and no paper stating that you are of a different nationality now can change this.

Hi maximax8! It doesn't really sound like a racist comment to me. However, I guess I would have to be in that man's shoes before I could make that decision. I don't like to hurt other people's feelings, either. I've always been highly sensitive and I try to treat other people the way I would want to be treated no matter what their nationality is. I'm sure I might have hurt other people's feelings not meaning to. If I feel like I might have hurt somebody's feelings, I'm nearly always quick to apologize about it. Kathy.

dear maxi, i think so too that is is a racist comment. we all know that each national has love for the country he grew up with no matter what their practices are there. i always say that my mom is wise in telling me that it is better to be silent rather than say things that would upset anyone. happy mylotting ann