I read this great book about love...
@kasainrasami_07 (25)
United States
September 21, 2009 4:25pm CST
If any of you have ever read this book, you will know what I mean. It is called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is a fabulous book and I would definitely recommend it to everyone, especially people that have any type of relationship problems. Like for me, my mom and I have never gotten along. (this book is for marriages btw but it applies to friends and children and parents as well) And I know that that is typical of younger women and their mothers and they say that as you get older you become closer etc. etc. But part of my problem was that I felt like my mom didn't care about me, that she didn't really love me. I knew that she loved me because I was her daughter, but it really didn't feel like it at all, so I suffered because of it and lashed out in hurt and anger. Well, in this book it explains how people speak different love languages and that we express our love in a way that makes sense to us but that it may not necessarily be the way that makes sense to others. It turned out that my mom and I each speak opposite love languages, the one I know the least was the one she was speaking to me in, and the one she knows the least, is the one that I wanted to be spoken to in. (it doesn't mean literal languages, it means like actions and words) When I realized that, the tears just started pouring down my face. I was just in shock that all this time it was so simple and I never knew. That all this time I had been hurting and upset with my mom and she had just been trying to show me that she loved me in the wrong way. And now I know why my mom has seemed unusually nice lately, it's because she was the one that let me borrow the book and was following it's advice to speak to me in my love language, so I'm going to put more of an effort into doing the same for her ^_^ This book made me realize so many things in all the relationships in my life, everyone would benefit from reading this book, and it's not long (I read it in about two hours) but the positive effects it will have on your life will be. Have any of your ever read something (or heard something etc.) that really changed your life for the better?
3 responses
@kasainrasami_07 (25)
• United States
7 Oct 09
^_^ Thank you for your comment, and I really hope that you can get ahold of it and that it helps you with your relationship with your mother. It really is nice that we're finally getting along, especially after all these years of conflict .
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Ho kasainrasami_07, I also read the book of Gary Chapman " The Five Languages". This book is the reason I already understands my parents. My dad show his love for us by giving us material gifts, he thinks that if he has provided for our material things, his obligation is already done. During my childhood, I usually feel some neglect whenever he fails to compliment me for the good grades I am getting. But what I didn't understand then was that it is not his way of showing his love. For my mom, she show it through service. As long as she has cook our food, laundry and iron clothes, and she make sure that everything is fine in the house then it is her showing her love to us. Even is she nags most of the time, it only means that she wants everything to be in placed at home. While for me, My primary language of love is Quality time, I make sure that no matter how busy I am, I make sure that I spend quality time with my love ones.
@kasainrasami_07 (25)
• United States
7 Oct 09
Thank you so much for your response. I apologize for taking o long to get to it .
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Since talking to you through FB, and your telling me about it really makes me want to get this book! I, too, have had problems with my mother and wish I could understand why and never could. Maybe it'll help me in great ways as it has with you. I'm going to the book store in the next few days to find it. Right now I'm still sick but a lot better than I was so when I'm better, I'll be out finding this book! Thanks kasain!! Love you!!
@kasainrasami_07 (25)
• United States
22 Sep 09
^_^ I really hope it does help you, it wasn't until like, the last chapter (or second to last?) that it really hit me. I'm really glad that you're getting better and thank you for your feedback ^_^ i love you too! *lots of hugs*
