Who has the most power to hurt you with their words?

just like you my family hurts me most cause i expect them to understand me more cause they are my family if they act like more a stranger i feel so hurt.

My husband is the one who always use hurtful words as well as the things he do as well.He is usually in an argument with me when he uses them and then he expects me to be like nothing has been said or done when he has finished.He says he say them out of temper and he says he knows what he says really winds me up and thats why he do it.

I think for me anyway it is family and friends. And even online friends. I ahd this happen here on mylot not long ago. I had started a discussion and this person was very mean in their response to what i posted. Another mylotter even noticed it and spoke to me about it privately. This person was someone who I had just gotten to know,so I don't know why it upset as much as it did,but it did never the less. Family sometimes are more blunt with us than strangers and sometimes they forget how hurtful their words can be.

I know there is that saying, "sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me"---but heck, words CAN hurt, especially if they are abusive, and yes, maybe we should make whatever insulting, abusive comment slide and not give it power but it's more difficult when it's a family member and especially if you had lived with them...of course in my case, I'm speaking about my mother who was very verbally abusive my whole life, in fact even my grandmother was verbally abusive to me. Now even though both are passed away, sometimes I'm still haunted by things they had said to me and like the person you're talking about when they were alive and I'd comment about their nastiness they looked so innocent and didn't realize how hurtful their words were to me.

Just about anybody I care about, can hurt me, with nefarious, derogatory, insensitive comments...and it does happen! If I am connected to that person at all, I have left myself vulnerable, therefore open to insensitivity! And to be truthful, it can depend on my frame of mind, at the time, as there are days (and we all have them) that I am more sensitive..so much easier to chagrin! The same thoughtless comment one day will stir me...another day, I can just let it roll off my back! I give away my power, when I care about some-one else! You're looking great Ambie....haha....dear friend. Have a great day & Cheers!

My family defintely has the power to hurt me but other than them a few close friends and lately I've allowed myself to get too attached to one of my professors. So is she gave me a tough critque I might be a little upset which is stupid because I have to get use to this sort of thing. so I'm going to work on not giving her that power.

I have a brother in law just like that..I swear he ends up upsetting me everytime..He has always done that. I have everyone telling me to look over it..let it go..that it means nothing..that it is just how he is...which I can say he is that way with a few others in the family as well. It seems that we are always letting the family have power to hurt us. Family have the most power to hurt me..because they are supposed to love me..or so you'd think..but sometimes that isn't true. I help my mom alot, alot more then the others in my family so my mom will help me when I need it..Others in the family don't see it like that..they think that she loves me more and chooses me more..but it isn't the truth. We just help each other.I am not the chosen one like they sometimes say..and in a way that is hurtful to me..and sometimes they say everybody loves me..and that I can't do no wrong..well..it isn't what I feel. If it is within my power to help any of my family I do so..no favoritism...except maybe for my little 8 year old sister..but that is only because I helped raise her. We shouldn't overlook it to much because when we do it seems to give them the right to keep doing it and saying it again and again. I don't have the guts to stand up to my brother in law..so I lost a good friend(my sister in law) because of it. I just quit going to his house except for the few times I can't get out of it. I go to there house 2-3 times a year and they live right next door..and it used to be either I was at her house all day or she was at mine. But her husband and his ways put a stop to that by his words and actions. So I don't want others to be like me.. I am not a chicken..but I am softhearted and hate fights and so I let alot of stuff go instead of confronting it. And that gives people the power to hurt me.

I got in a bit of a arrgument myself today with a member of my family. I hate borrowing money. Mine was with a man also and of course he thinks he is right about everything.It really made me mad more then anything else.

Right after my second book came out my older sister said somethings that really hurt...so much that we didn't talk to each other for over a year.....I realized that she was just jealous of all that I had accomplished....but I still don't let my guard down when I am around her....but when we did make up I told her if she ever said anything to me like that again I was going to make sure all the family knew....instead of holding it inside myself. I would expose her nasty ways....we have gotten along ever since!

My daughter...she can hurt me with just a few words and not even realize it. Sometimes it is her tone more than what she actually says. The hurt, I think is in equal measure to how much the person means to you. Someone else could have said the exact same thing or maybe worse and it would not have felt so bad. maybe would not have felt bad at all.

hi ambiepam Ithink that would have to be my son and my best friend, snd sometimes I do think that men have a different scale ofthinking and sometimes they just dont get that what they said was hurtful.for one thing most guys think purely logic so they are too blunt in what they say to us,I know several times myson has said something that hurt me and he was dumbfounded that I felt hurt by it. its just the facts he said. well now not in my eyes it wasnt. also if my best friend nelda said something that was hurtful I would be so hurt as she is my very best friend.

My parents are experts at hurtful words especially my mother and, you are right no matter how your react to the insults they hurt; they hurt because the words come from someone who is supposed to care about you. Words hurt more than sharp knives and leave much deeper scars. I remember every single hurtful thing my mother has ever said to me from when I was young and it still stings...

A realtive too. My eldest sister whoi is a control freak. She also drinks and when she is in the drink she lets loose at me in very hurtful ways. She does it when she is not drunk too. Just hurtful and critical. and yes, after a ifetime it still hurts.

I Think the one who can hurt us with words is our parent. Because they have so much expectaion in us, they believe we can do anything. But some time, as hard as we try to pleased them, we failed in fullfiling their expectaion. Because their expectaion is so big that somethime our failure hurt them very much, and with our realising it, they speak something that hurt us too. I Mean, we try so hard, and there seem nothing we can do to achieve what they want us to be. We try, and we spend most of our time, to achieve them, and then we failed, and they speak like we have never done anything to achieve their expectaion. I Know they have no intention to hurt our feeling, but it is the one which make the words become so much hurting. Well, that's it for me

People I love That is family and Friends As for others no the words can not affect me as I don't know Person and I let it go over my Head

I think my husband has the most power to do so when it comes to that. He is not only my husband, but my best friend as well. If he ever says hurtful things to me, I would feel so alone.

Hi AMBIE, I GUESS SINCE MY PARENTS ARE GONE MY KIDS CAN HURT MY FEELINGS QUICKER THAN ANYONE, NOT THAT they do it often but sometimes i think it's just the way u feel sometimes when it happens. Hope ur day is going well.

I think that the people who have the most power to hurt are the closest friends and family members, simply because with these people we tend to have our defenses down. It's easy for them to 'blindside' us with thoughtless and unexpected comments. Then there are those, men or women, who are clueless as to why people are hurt by what they say. They're concentrating so much on being funny or cute...that they aren't. I'm sorry that some one was thoughtless to you...you know that you're aces in my book!

Hi AmbiePam,when i was a student in college,one of my best friends have hurted me deeply.we were classmate and we made friends when we met in the classroom the first today.we went to class together,went to shopping together,having dinner together,except sleeping time,we spent almost all the time together.we were getting on well at first two years. but one day,she said some hurtful words to me without any reason,i still don't know the reason why she said that,i was hurted,i cried for her words. but one month later,she apologized to me and i forgave her,but from then on,i keep a distance from her,and her words can not hurt me anymore.

my step- daugther she can say some pretty bad thing that realy hurt deep i guess that she has always been jealous of me and her dad getting together she say i took him away from her when we got together any way he passed away i year ago and her and her dad got into a big fight and she said things to him that would curl your hair and he had enough and told her to be quiet and she still kept on any way he got sick and she did everything she could to get to his bed sides and tell him how sorry she was but to this day i know that she still has to live with the fact of did he here her or not so yes i think we all better think before we speak because it just might be to late.