Long distance relationship DONT work!
@vendiola_rica02 (2)
Philippines
September 21, 2009 9:08pm CST
Long distance relationship dont work thats waht they say but is it really true? For me it does work.
2 responses
@cmdr001 (371)
• Portugal
22 Sep 09
For some people yes, for some people don't. It all depends on the people that are taking part of that relation.
Personally, I had a long distance relationship working for me for about 6 years, but, since me and my girlfriend eventually got the chance to meet up a few times and... well, I guess she enjoyed it; too much. When again we were shortened down to internet communication and whatnot she plainly felt that it was... boring.
Every day the same discussion, every day the same words, every day the same questions, every day... you get the picture. She simply felt that keeping the relation online wasn't working too well and myself had gone under certain pressures by then which didn't helped my reasoning. In a bit of a sudden fit, I decided to break up things although in the end I think it was a bit for the better.
Still, the reason why the relation didn't work was not exactly because of it being long distance, but because we presented the short distance factor into it and she simply saw that it was far more comforting, to have someone nearby that she could hug, kiss, laugh and play with, all those things... it just made such a huge constrast that I simply couldn't put any sort of spin to our online relation to try and make it seem worthwhile, so I had to ditch it.
But this is just an example of how a long distance relationship may not work... doesn't mean it won't, and, if me and my Ex had only met when we could be more often together, perhaps nothing of this would've happened.
I feel it's quite possible, and as a matter of fact, I know that some long distance relationships for quite some people have worked, so there's no reason to outright state that they are impossible... they may just be slightly more difficult.
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
i agree with you. it's the same old routine everyday... sad to say it didn't work out between you guys... when i felt that my affection to him's slowly dying out, i try to refresh my mind (sayin to myself that i love this guy and shouldn't cheat or do somethin bad :-P ) and tell him things that i would like to be done in a not-so-straightforward kind of way. do you know what i mean? like i tell him, i missed the days when you kept writing me letters and inserting little notes in my notebook... i don't know if you guys get the message (because he didn't respond to it). but you see, sometimes guys should be vigilant on these, because at times we girls are telling you that something's missing in the relationship and you need to spice it up a lil bit. If you think guys are the only ones who loves to do new things, think again... gals also look for new adventures/happenings to keep the fire burnin.(^_^)
@cmdr001 (371)
• Portugal
22 Sep 09
Well, it depends on the person I suppose.
I guess I wasn't the most romantic person ever, but... I did sent her letters, I did gave her a cute little ring (Actually it's what we here call 7 Slaves, it's like 7 small engraved rings that are all tied together by another small ring that has a jewel of a certain kind on the top), countless other cute gifts and all of them in the most romantic way I could conceive to not make it just not another gift, but a sign of my actual love... it was the most I could do.
For her I even actually tried to draw and color, something that I had never done and I had used those tries to try and draw our fictional characters in given situations.
On this other time I had sent her a small bear plush yielding roses. Oh, I'm sure you're say "How unoriginal", but, the originality came around it as I shipped over the plush in a red box (meaning romance), with a note on the lid that was actually a poem comparing our relation to a rose field (It was a bumpy relation due to many reasons) and there was even a little thumbtack there disguised (it was red too) to symbolize the thorns of roses.
I don't think that with this and many other things one could say that she was not being paid attention to, however, I couldn't keep on sending her such things on a daily basis especially when I didn't had a job (And still don't).
And.. I guess I got a bit sidetracked, sorry about that.
But anyway, I think that a long distance relationship can work as long as there is some involvement of both parts, some determination, some actual love for the person that is on the other side rather than the looks shown by their picture. If you can truly love the person for the way she is, the rest should be pebbles to step on rather than any sort of wall.
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
cmdr: Awwww.. you're such a sweet guy.. (^_^) it's nice when our bf's give us gifts.. it's so romantic... we girls love to get the attention of their guys. it doesn't matter if it's a copied idea, as long as the thought was there, for me it's okay. i'm contented with sweet, love letters - i really do sound sooooo traditional, don't i? but i mean, with all the tech we have now, there's nothing more romantic than hand-made... (^_^)
@moneygail4 (77)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
I do believe it does vendiola. (^_^) me and my boo have been together for 4years and yet, we're still feeling the flicker each time we meet. Although there were times that i did get bored coz of the same routine - texting upon waking, lunch, in-between breaks, dinner and before bedtime. When you're apart you don't get to do walks in the park, or maybe just hanging out in a cool spot... I think most girls prefer their boyfriends close so that they'd have someone to chat to, someone to comfort them, etc. At times i also thought that we're about to lose the feeling just because we lost communication for quite some time... but he's busy, i am too... it's just a matter of understanding each other, patience, trust... for me, these are essential in holding on to that special someone miles away from you.
