live in is good?
By cutepink_13
@cutepink_13 (691)
September 21, 2009 9:12pm CST
my boyfriend lives in a city and i am not. today i am staying in a boarding house and it is so costly but i have to rent because i am working here. my boyfriend's family offered me to stay in their house because there is only the four of them, his father , mother and one brother so there are still lots of vacant rooms. they also offered to laundry my clothes and eat for free. but my family which is more conservative doesn't want me to stay because its not good. which should i follow?
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4 responses
@embattledsparkle (1072)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Well how do you feel about it? Where you live, how would you be treated by the community? If you live in a country where you'd be treated badly, I would not move in with them. If no one would really care, then I would IF that is what you wanted to do.
@cutepink_13 (691)
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22 Sep 09
my boyfriends family is open minded. they want me to move in to cut my expenses so that i can use my money for trainings and processing of papers going abroad. i hope my family would think the same. my moving in not because of just moving to be with my man anyway we will not be sleeping together.
@cherryntatsi (16)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
don't do it girl! don't degrade yourself! don't deny yourself that you deserved better in this life! every woman wants to get married properly and those girls denying it by saying it's good to be i live-in set-up could be misleading.i lived by myself for 4 years before i went back to my parents house but it never occured to me to be in a live-in set-up just to get things easy for me bec. if you commit to those set-up you will end up to be a loser in the end. i have lots of friends who've done that and now regrets are too late
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Since this post was over a year ago, I was just curious if you really went on to live with the guy?
I know that it's a bit too late, but on the matter, there's really a positive thing from it because you'll be saving much. However, isn't it a little bit too much if you're going to live with a guy who lives with his parents? Yeah, they offered free food and free laundry, but how would you know that they're doing it because of their son's persistence only?
I guess I could go for live-in provided that my partner has his own place and is already earning. Rather than the both of us living in together with his parents (or my parents for the matter).
@taztheone (1721)
• India
23 Sep 09
More than my comment, you should listen to your heart. Now if you really love him & knows that he's the one for you, there is no problem in staying at their home infact you should be lucky because not many parents of boys agree to the same. However no girls family would like this idea but if you wish to get married, there's no harm & more over your relation will get stronger.
Plus it's always better to stay with a family in a city than staying anyone or with friends.
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