Do black guys needs to become a star, celebrity before they start dating a white

Dating other race - Dating other race, Acceptability
@davido (1623)
Canada
September 21, 2009 9:54pm CST
Just wondering why some black guys wait until they become rich and famous before they start dating a white girl or someone outside their race... Is it because of of acceptability and esteem?
6 responses
• United States
22 Sep 09
I think it's a status thing. I hope I don't offend anyone with this but, some black people (notice that I said "SOME") associate wealth and success with white people. I think that's why they do it. Not there's anything wrong with interracial dating, I just feel like you should date someone because you like them, not so you can get on your high horse and rub it in people's face.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
Hmmm.....high horsing, interesting. Maybe you can site an example pls?
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
well i don't think so. i hope not all black guys are like that because there are still girls that don't really look at guys' skin colors when they date. i think it's not only the black guys that do that. guys of all races are sometimes self-conscious when they date. they want to be somebody so that girls would want to date them.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
Yes you are right...thanks
• United States
22 Sep 09
From the point of view of any society, power, wealth and prestige count a lot. Your "attractiveness" may be determined by popularity or by the bulk of money you have. But it doesn't always go that way. I have read of so many people enjoying the company of partners outside of their racial or ethnic category.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
24 Sep 09
Yes thats true....both ways. Sometimes some got to have something that makes them feel unique...maybe its self esteem.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Who in particular are we talking about, here? Do you know anyone in particular who is doing this? I honestly don't know if I necessarily believe in this. I'm honestly doubting the self-esteem issue. It takes a lot of nads (ahem..Self esteem I mean!) to even ATTEMPT to be a rap star, to put it frankly. Have you ever seen a SHY rap star? Most definitely not. They are usually so "outgoing" that they're actually obnoxious. Because that's what sells.
@marguicha (223001)
• Chile
22 Sep 09
I hope not. I hope black people (men and women) date whoever they feel atracted for, if the other corresponds. In every race, there are (to us women) men who are more atractive and men who arenĀ“t. It does not depend on the race, except if you live in a very segregated place. I can name a lot of black men that are (to me) very atractive. Of course I can only name movie stars. Happy posting!
@davido (1623)
• Canada
24 Sep 09
Oh yes.....movie star, the black guy that just bought a jaguar down the street, the guy that sings...everybody is related to the man called success but runs from.....who? the obscure....hahaha
@Shooyao (156)
• China
22 Sep 09
What have you said just like in my county,China. If you come from a small village and you want to life in the big city future,maybe you always wait you became rich and famous before you start dating a city girl you like? I think they needn't do this like that.Try your best to build your future,and pursuit of your girl bravely,that's enough.we are an equal.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
15 Oct 09
Oh yeah...that happens a lot, I hope people change for the better. But in a lighter mood...I think Chinese ladies are too shy...i see a lot of them around in Malaysia, always looking down when ever they are walking or in the lift...too bad la! lol.