Look But Don't Touch Rule

This is a really good discussion baby,and I am sure that different people have different opinions when it comes to the do not look but do not touch rule,and I am sure there are some people who like the rule,while others do not,and I can understand that everyone is different,and that no two people are the same because everyone has different ideas, different opinions,and different preferences,and I agree the rule is stupid because if you are dating someone or married to someone you should not want to look at anyone but the person you are with,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.

.....Hi SomeCowgirl, "look but don't touch rule" does not dwell in reality in my opinion because first of all, you have eyes, you are going to look. Next of all the touch part of it starts with your marriage, they don't call marriage "an institution" for nothing, it is an acknowledgment between two people that they will promise to commit to each other, honoring their vows. That's where it begins in my opinion, not when you see someone who is hot, handsome or gorgeous. Those people are going to be in our midst on a daily basis, unless you are on a remote island inhabited by only the two of you. So if the marriage is strong the two people are making a sincere effort to stay married and love each other, a passing glance at a beautiful person should not make a difference. The depth of any marriage is the barometer, which measures how a person responds when someone other than their wife or husband stirs their hormones, and it will happen, we cannot turn off our gastric juices, but we are definitely able to control our actions, and be true to the person we committed to before God. Take care.

somecowgirl well I think if a guy looks he should at least not make a big issue out of it, I know I guess we all look at someone who is attractive, but we should not stand there and drool and mentally'undress them. thats just not fair to the one you are supposed to love. surely by the time you fall in love you have had your fill of drooling at cute people and now want to settle down with the person you love. so sort of put on some mental blinders and just peek dont go around bragging as wifey just might take a frying pan to your lusting head. I did take issue if my hubby started to drool,but usually we both just said thats one pretty girl and let it go at that.

We are always going to look so the rule still holds true. No matter how committed you are to your partner you will still notice attractive people, and there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. I think the important thing is not WANTING to touch. I don't really think that it's right to see, still want to touch and only allowing marriage stop you. That's how I feel about it anyway.

It's okay to appreciate someone when your in a relationship. If you happen to look at a girl and find her cute or hot is not a bad thing. The rule should be "don't go looking" and "don't look with so much interest":)

Hi, I like your title . Back to the question. I think that is fair , the rule. I think its bad that you have two girlfriend or wifE.

I don't think its possible for us to not look, honestly. Its like if we see a sign, human nature is to read it no matter what. Thats why billboards work and stuff like that. However, once you are in a relationship I think its okay to look, but not to touch. If you feel the need to touch that person then you cant be happy in the relationship you are in and need to take a closer look at your feelings. I think the phrase should be, "Look, but you better not even think of touching!"

Hi SomeCowgirl, unless one is walking round with particularly dirty sunglasses on at the time it does become difficult not to notice an object of beauty but then quickly remind oneself it is off limits. There is nothing wrong with some discreet appreciation which must never be mentioned to the fiance or husband, just as they must never, never, even deign to appreciate an object of beauty. Much less should said man ever look, turn his head, or vocalise his appreciation. Best to ensure his sunglasses are never cleaned.

Hi SomeCowgirl, I was suddenly reminded of a quote painted behind a well painted vintage car that read "A vintage car is like another man's wife, u may look and admire but not touch". Well, I think it is natural to appreciate looks and what nots. U admire a flower, u love dogs, and u love kids, so how can something be off limits all of a sudden, after all v r animals, aren't v? Having said that, u will come around to understanding how ur partner feels if he does something similar, and may be impose limits urself. It doesnt come with others saying or not saying. It has to come with accepting intelligently. At that time what u feel is being hypocrite will vanish I suppose. :) Have a nice day. :)

I think it's a bit unrealistic to expect your partner or yourself not to look, you're only human after all. As long as it's done in a way that doesn't hurt feelings however. For example comparing yourself or your partner comparing you to whoever they're looking at will only lead to trouble.

Yes, you're being a hypocrite! Maybe it's not a good idea to tell your fiance you think a guy is cute, you wouldn't like it the other way round. Men especially can't help looking, women look too of course but men tend to make it more obvious. We are more subtle about it! I suppose we cannot help men looking but if they touch then they had better watch their backs!

I used to get very jealous when my husband looked and I'd get so angry.So,I asked him why do you look at other girls.His reply was very simply-everyone with sight looks-it's their thoughts that make it ugly.I have no thoughts for anyone else,but God did put sight in my eyes. So,if your man/woman is looking,it's usually a natural reaction,don't worry.(They know you don't like it.)

Actually I think that this rules only applied when both the couple is insisting on this, if neither one is applying it, then mostly, they don't really care about the rule. What's wrong with looking with someone or hugging your very close friends. In this modern world, most people are quite open already, most people just don't really care about that rule anymore. I had some friends who are couples but at the same time, they prefer to go out to clubs alone dancing with strangers rather than with their own boyfriend or girlfriend. It sounds strange and bad, but it is the way the world is walking into. More and more people are getting open to the outside world. It's not wrong to look or touch someone, but don't go over the border. I think you know what i mean.